Posted on 10/11/2019 4:52:18 AM PDT by Kaslin
Successful women face special barriers in love and marriage, according to one relationship coach. But that doesn’t mean they can’t still strive for a happily ever after.
On October 9, the Washington Examiner published an opinion piece on, “Why super-successful women struggle in love.” Relationship expert and author Suzanne Venker claimed that “few, if any, women” can have both “power in the world” and “power in bed.” While she backed up her arguments, her piece left something to be desired by women: encouragement.
Venker began by referencing a Wall Street Journal piece, arguing that “As women have become more and more rich, love has indeed become more and more elusive.”
She pointed to an email about one of the women dealing with this very problem – written by the woman’s mother.
“I’d like to talk to you about my daughter who’s a high achiever,” the mom began. “She’s a thirty-eight-year-old, well-educated (two Ivy League schools), creative, intelligent, sophisticated, loving, successful, attractive, with a model-like body, and surprisingly can’t find a desired partner.”
While previously “she wasted many years on several senseless relationships,” her daughter is “extremely unhappy that she doesn’t have a partner,” or children.
In response, Venker urged that not only do successful single women struggle, but also women who serve as the primary breadwinner. There are many reasons why “love becomes a struggle the more successful women become,” she said, including the “pursuit of a post-secondary education and career.”
“Jumping in full throttle and making work the center of one’s life, as young women are encouraged to do, invariably means this group will be unable to take advantage of their greatest marital bargaining power,” she said.
That main “bargaining power” appeared to be beauty.
(Excerpt) Read more at townhall.com ...
Women say they want a man who has "inner strength". A man who allows his woman to treat him badly, fails the test for inner strength.
The kind of man who women desire, has options, and the willingness to exercise his options if he's not being treated right.
chuckling at “saber-toothed crotch crickets”...
There are requirements for the different stages of a relationship. The commitment stage requires projecting into the future and anticipating whether or not satisfaction of long-term criteria will occur in a marriage. This requires present-to-future cause-effect judgments in order to make a decision about commitment. It looks like she or her boyfriends could not satisfy each other's criteria and expectations, and did not believe in the possibility of change, and felt compelled to break up.
And I have found that men like this are nut jobs with insatiable sexual needs who are far from a godly man.
To such men: Enjoy Hell.
Men are wired to be most attracted to women who are healthy, physically-fit, and fertile.
Long lustrous hair is an indicator of health.
Women think that since for a woman, sex=relationship, and “ready to commit”, that she is actually capable of landing any guy she sleeps with.
Wrong.
Guys use attractive women whom they don’t intend to marry, as bragging rights to other men.
Yeah, and these days we have drag queen story time for little kids with with touchy feely dancing and wallowing on floor with the drag queen.
And sex ed in school moved from where babies come from and STD awareness to abusive acts worship instruction.
Doesn’t make it right.
LOL!!!! Think you might want to consider changing your posting name????? . . . just kidding!!!!
I swear
I have found that s fairy tail wedding ends mostly in divorce.
You got it without reading the article
The article begs the question about what “successful” means.
Bump
I’ve known these lyrics since the ‘70’s when I became a teen... who could have ever known how prescient Steppenwolf lyrics would become in application to today’s “issues”?... And ironically, most of the lyrics describe how liberal demoRAT mentality would evolve. ‘You want to get a handle on why liberal demoRATS are so stupid today?... I highly recommend that you go back and listen to the band.
Everybody’s Next One
Steppenwolf
She’s all alone, just lost another one
Met him yesterday and he’s already gone
And though tonight she’ll swear it was the last time
A smiling face will come that knows the right line
And then she’ll do all the right things with the wrong guy
And when he’s gone, next day she’ll sit and wonder why.
She doesn’t know why she’s everybody’s next one
‘Cause she’s afraid that the truth is gonna hurt some
All the pity in the world ain’t gonna help none
She has to realize that to keep one, her ways have to change some.
She tries too hard and she comes on too strong
Digs herself too much and thinks she can’t be wrong
She’s too impressed by things that do not matter
To be the Queen of hearts is what she’s after
And then she’ll do all the right things with the wrong guy
And when he’s gone, next day she’ll sit and wonder why.
She doesn’t know why she’s everybody’s next one
‘Cause she’s afraid that the truth is gonna hurt some
All the pity in the world ain’t gonna help none
She has to realize that to keep one, her ways have to change some.
John Kay is a smart guy. While other Steppenwolf members were getting stone, he secured the publishing rights to their songs.
He was actually born in East Germany, so he knows the horrors of Communism.
Re #4: I know a Miss America top-ten contender.
Her husband is very happy.
They have 7 kids, she stays at home, she homeschools half the kids and rest are in private school. Gorgeous? yes - and devoted to family-first values.
Did I mention he’s happy? and her too?
It seems that she prioritized marriage dead last, after "useless relationships", "two Ivy League Schools", etc.
Now, at 38 which is about 15 years past her prime and a good 10 years after "hitting the wall", she's surprised that she can't find a husband.
Like the mom, maybe her daughter goes around telling every man she meets that she’s been to not one, but TWO Ivy League schools.
You expect your school and public library to be safe places for children.
You wouldn’t take them to a local bar.
Therefore you probably should not bring them to an internet forum that’s dedicated to free speech.
Sooner or later somebody WILL say something to offend, I assure you.
Now, at 38 which is about 15 years past her prime and a good 10 years after “hitting the wall”, she’s surprised that she can’t find a husband.
28 is the wall???? Silly. 30 year old women have no problem finding men to partner with. I don’t know what planet you live on. Women pick men. Not the other way around.
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