Posted on 10/11/2019 4:52:18 AM PDT by Kaslin
Successful women face special barriers in love and marriage, according to one relationship coach. But that doesn’t mean they can’t still strive for a happily ever after.
On October 9, the Washington Examiner published an opinion piece on, “Why super-successful women struggle in love.” Relationship expert and author Suzanne Venker claimed that “few, if any, women” can have both “power in the world” and “power in bed.” While she backed up her arguments, her piece left something to be desired by women: encouragement.
Venker began by referencing a Wall Street Journal piece, arguing that “As women have become more and more rich, love has indeed become more and more elusive.”
She pointed to an email about one of the women dealing with this very problem – written by the woman’s mother.
“I’d like to talk to you about my daughter who’s a high achiever,” the mom began. “She’s a thirty-eight-year-old, well-educated (two Ivy League schools), creative, intelligent, sophisticated, loving, successful, attractive, with a model-like body, and surprisingly can’t find a desired partner.”
While previously “she wasted many years on several senseless relationships,” her daughter is “extremely unhappy that she doesn’t have a partner,” or children.
In response, Venker urged that not only do successful single women struggle, but also women who serve as the primary breadwinner. There are many reasons why “love becomes a struggle the more successful women become,” she said, including the “pursuit of a post-secondary education and career.”
“Jumping in full throttle and making work the center of one’s life, as young women are encouraged to do, invariably means this group will be unable to take advantage of their greatest marital bargaining power,” she said.
That main “bargaining power” appeared to be beauty.
(Excerpt) Read more at townhall.com ...
They still want to marry up.
The guy who’s career has been throttled by woke industry is unappealing.
Generation one: “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” Generation two: a generation of single mothers raising boys with no siblings, no family, no friends, no prospects. Generation three: a generation of Elliot Rodgers. NPCs wonder, “What happened? Why did everything go so wrong so fast?”
Says it all.
I have seen this repeatedly.
Promiscuity and happyness tend to be immiscible.
Oh WTF is”power in bed”? Geez!
Let’s face it, a great many driven people are DRIVEN by flaws, shortcomings or demons. Their nuttyness results in what many see as ‘success and is thus veiled.
Here’s the problem: Women who have one definition of success, a high income.
Well, that's super important and sure to change many lives. I don't know how I made it to my present age without "one relationship coach" to enlighten me.
Seriously, I know Ms. Yoder's contract calls for her to produce a column today. This doesn't mean anyone else in the world should care what "one relationship coach" thinks about "successful women."
all are waiting for brad pitt or johnny depp?
ok, ... that makes sense...
I see many cats in this lady’s future.
Pro-tip: You can’t have it all. Life is a bunch of trade-offs.
Pro-tip2: You knew that already.
Pro-tip3: Go to Church. It makes you less self-centered.
Pro-tip4: Show me a super model and I’ll show you a guy who was tired of listening to her and dumped her. (see pro-tip3)
Pro-tip5: You’ve created a Matriarchy, and ironically even women can’t stand being around other women. Stop blaming other people (like men) for your problems.
Sexy is what sexy does - maybe they should aspire to be actual women in bed instead of power managers...
Something to the song that goes “Kiss an angel good morning....” Charley was on to something...
TRUE!
“Boys are stupid, let’s throw rocks at them.”
“Hey, how come I can’t get a boy to get close to me?”
“A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.”
They are now finding out that a man needs a woman like them like a bicycle needs a fish.
They use the word power a lot. I give up all my power to my wife, and she to me. I think that the fact that these women don’t get that marriage is a team sport, and the lead player changes depending on the situation.
They will always be unhappy if they treat like an MBA class.
A successful marriage means living with your spouse with an open heart, and unconditional love. If one has never experienced unconditional love , society today makes us way to occupied to experience it generally,then one has to cultivate a situation where it can be experienced We are talking about the kind of love a mother has for her child.
The whole marriage relationship , when based on unconditional love, provides an inexhaustible source of energy to face whatever life hands the couple. It also provides a huge source of energy and primordial kindness/communication in relation to sexuality and procreation.
Having children is a huge boost to a marriage, but in today’s social environment, it takes courage and the support of extended family.
The “successful woman” usually has toughness barriers she has cultivated so she could kick ass and get her financial success , or her successful career in hand. But the very qualities which support her success can make her a natural candidate for a disastrous marriage. It is important that the “successful “ woman realizes this dynamic and begin a path to really experience and cultivate unconditional love.
It is the same for men also, who have been taught to maintain a toughness barrier from their infancy.
There are many ways to cultivate unconditional love. One of the best is through the regular practice of Shamatha Meditation ( Resting the Mind/Heart in Peace) and Mahayana Buddhist meditation, what is called sending and taking or Tong Lin, exchanging self for other.
You can see that here and read the notes under the video applet :
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RZy-uITowY
What does that picture signify? I’m stumped.
Looks like an attractive woman living in the female equivalent of a bachelor pad while wondering where all the good men are, and not really caring all that much. JMHO.
Because the men SHE finds desirable, have better options than her.
She's going to want a successful, tall, handsome man in the age range 38 to 45. Such a man will either be already taken by a woman who snatched him up in his 20's, or he will be looking for a woman in her 20's who still has enough fertility left in her body to bear him healthy children.
Men marry when they feel ready to have a family. In such a case, they look for a woman who they would be able to create a family with.
Pro-trump 6: If a woman doesn’t figure out that time is not on her side in the marriage market, she is not paying attention. Women used to know better than to waste lots of time with unsuitable men. Who might you have met if you didn’t waste years with Mr. Non-Commitment?
Heck; I see at least one NOW!!!
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