My wife (now 66) was re-united with the son she was pretty much forced to give up for adoption when she was 17. it’s been an amazing blessing for everyone involved, and a real eye opener for me.
Giving up a teenager’s baby for adoption is creating a world of hurt for everyone involved - for the rest of their life. i.e. it is not emotionally benign.
I’m not saying I’m against it. I’m saying it is not an emotionally neutral thing.
Sheriff is trying to find Huxley.
Wow. This is true to a level I wish I could express so eloquently. Having been through some tough issues at home as a child and having adopted a child with major behavioral issues, my wife and I can COMPLETELY relate. We had both our son and his brother in the beginning, and only through fear of actual physical harm ( our son was physically violent towards his brother) did we relinquish his brother (only because we knew the parents that were taking him to be truly good, loving, Christian people). We chose to keep our son because we knew what would happen to a child of his disposition - home after home after home then ward of the state until he aged out. Keeping the difficult child was the right decision; still to this day he presents challenges that would have broken me earlier in my life, and I would not change ONE SINGLE MOMENT.
The elephant in the room is adoption disruption, and “rehoming”. You’d be surprised how often it happens. The adoptee doesn’t meet the adaptors needs, has too many of their own needs, doesn’t get on with new spouse, or doesn’t “bond”. It happened to me.
It seems to me that Myka expected Huxley to die. When he didn’t and became too hard to handle, she got rid of him.