My late wife and I adopted three kids. Because of the law here in Utah that gives bio parents visitation while they are still in foster care, these kids, who should have been ripped away from their bios permanently maintain a connection. After I remarried, one of my daughters ran away with her boyfriend at the urging of the bios, then the daughter later hatched a murder plot against my wife and I that we discovered. After years of therapy, she and her brother who we also adopted are back with bios. The other kids left home and barely speak to us. One I haven’t heard from in years. My wife and I are heartbroken and bitter. No thanks. Been there, done that.
Did you have you own biological kids, too? Were they the ones that “barely speak”?
I’m sorry for your heart break.