Curiosity and Candor

Townhall.com ^ | June 3, 2021 | Jackie Gingrich Cushman

[Kaslin]

This past Tuesday, Judicial Watch released a trove of emails about the settlement agreement between the Michigan Department of Health and Human Services and Robert Gordon, who was the department director, that show the lengths to which department officials fumbled with their messaging during the height of the pandemic.

The information came to light with the release of 1,221 pages that Judicial Watch received in response to a Freedom of Information Act request.

For example, a Dec. 1, 2020, email from Gordon to Gov. Gretchen Whitmer's chief of staff and deputy chief of staff included an overview of a project by pollster Frank Luntz and the de Beaumont Foundation titled "Changing the COVID Conversation." The project was undertaken to come up with "specific words, sentences, phrases and attributes Americans need to hear to change their behavior and stop the spread of the coronavirus," according to the overview.

The project summary cited "words to use" that included "the pandemic, eliminate/eradicate the virus, social distancing, effective/safe vaccine, protocols, face mask, essential workers, personal responsibility, a stay-at-home order and public health agencies."

The report also included "words to lose," i.e., to stop using. These included "the coronavirus, defeat/crush/knock out the virus, physical distancing, a vaccine developed quickly, orders/imperatives/decrees, facial coverings, frontline workers, national duty, a government lockdown/shutdown, government health agencies."

These recommended changes in language use were designed to increase the number of people complying with government requests and to push individuals toward accepting and following government suggestions.

The problem, according to the summary, was that "many Republicans refuse to follow guidelines because they argue the science keeps changing. It's up to you to communicate -- at the outset -- that the science is settled."

In retrospect, we now know that the science was not settled and the "trust the science" motto was used not to promote good science, which includes curiosity and questioning, but to promote good compliance.

At the time, Jim Keene and Wendy Richards of Atherton Consulting Group LLC, guided the Atlanta Society of Finance and Investment Professionals Foundation through a strategic planning process. I chaired that organization.

The process included learning how our board could better communicate. As part of this training, Atherton presented a matrix that depicted how changing levels of candor and curiosity affected the quality of our discussions.

Imagine a chart showing candor on the y-axis and curiosity on the x-axis. Candor is the ability to speak freely and honestly. High candor was described as "speaks in non-threatening ways but is still fully open and revealing." High curiosity was described as "listens with intent to learn and doesn't take things personally."

According to the chart, activity described in the bottom-left quadrant -- marked by low candor and no curiosity -- would result in little communication and reflect attributes that included "shutdown, passive, victim, fear-based, lose/lose." If candor were to increase but there was no increase in curiosity, the result would be attributes that included "aggressive, villain, intimidates, win/lose." There was no learning along the way, but people would speak frankly.

In the bottom-right quadrant, with low candor and an increase in curiosity, the interaction would conjure words like "receptive, hero, respectful, polite, lose/win." While it might appear that there was communication due to the politeness, the lack of candor would lead to an inability to communicate.

With some candor and some curiosity, the interaction would conjure attributes like "competitive, debate, fully engaged." These would result in compromise. While you might think that compromise is the best, it is inferior to problem-solving that includes independent, creative thinking, collaboration or creativity.

These happen only where extreme candor and curiosity are the norm, and they are hard to achieve because they require people to speak in nonthreatening ways while being fully open and revealing. They require that people listen with the intent to learn, rather than with the intent to correct or persuade. And they require that participants not take things personally. The key words here are "assertive, curious, dialogue, win/win, creative"

Compare this with the current political dialogue: Both parties blame the other, and there is no curiosity, just defensiveness and blame. We need to be more human, more understanding of our individual fallibility, and accept that others are also human. We have to be curious; to question what is happening, what others are saying and why; and to hold on to that curiosity, even when being attacked.

At present, the endless cycle of attacks and counterattacks is not working. We have to trade attacks for curiosity, even in the face of further attacks. It's no longer enough to simply go along to get along; we must question, converse and engage in a creative dialogue.

[Not_Who_U_Think]

But the Bad Orange Man has to be wrong!

I’m convinced that even if aliens landed and threatened to wipe us out, within hours the Democrats would come up with a plan we would hate.

[JayGalt]

Compare this with the current political dialogue: Both parties blame the other, and there is no curiosity, just defensiveness and blame. We need to be more human, more understanding of our individual fallibility, and accept that others are also human. We have to be curious; to question what is happening, what others are saying and why; and to hold on to that curiosity, even when being attacked. At present, the endless cycle of attacks and counterattacks is not working. We have to trade attacks for curiosity, even in the face of further attacks. It's no longer enough to simply go along to get along; we must question, converse and engage in a creative dialogue.

This recurring theme makes me furious. It is so clueless as to revolt anyone with sense, kindergarten talk where we are all good people who just need to communicate & compromise. It doesn't surprise me to see the author has Gingrich in her name. A brilliant man but screws loose and blind spots wide enough to hide a barn in. Duplicitous also with uncertain loyalty & situational ethics.

The left is evil, they seek to engage the American people only to use them or to sow doubt, confusion, guilt and to thwart any efforts that hinder their scheme to rob Americans of their rights and their Country. Anyone who doesn't recognize the total amoral, self-centered, nihilistic mindset of the left & reaches across the aisle is an ass. The Left must be treated as the enemy and fought as intelligently, adroitly and tenaciously as possible least Americans lose all of their basic rights, liberties & opportunities and become serfs in their own Country.

[ClearCase_guy]

the current political dialogue: Both parties blame the other, and there is no curiosity, just defensiveness and blame.

I reject the concept that both sides are at all equally to blame.

Conservatives will discuss things. We can defend our positions, we can explore the other positions. We have a history of actually "reaching across the aisle" -- although that seems to blow up in our faces 100% of the time.

The Left, on the other hand, screams, insults and emotes. That's their dialogue. They demand to win everything, every time. And if they don't, it's White Supremacy.

This is a problem. And our side can't fix it for them.