Situations like this are inevitable, given the “nicer than Jesus” ethos of the American clergymen (even “conservative ones) and the placement of less than robustly masculine men in the pulpit. Half jokingly, I told my current pastor that if I had to find a new church, I would ask the senior pastor if he owned guns and liked beer. If the answer is no to both questions, I would move on. He noted that as a Baptist, he is a non drinker. My response - strike one. Fortunately, he owns a gun.
Exactly. The “nicer than Jesus” ethos has destroyed the SBC.