Posted on 07/28/2015 6:09:00 AM PDT by rfreedom4u
....it’s what any man worth his salt will do as a husband....
My mom had a stroke last year. My dad (age 84) never left the hospital for more than an hour and that was just to run home and shower. He slept on a little couch in her room that was nowhere near big enough for him. He lost ten pounds in the week she was in ICU. Since then he will not leave her side unless someone is there with her. He’s been an awesome example!
She’s nutz.
LOL. Yes, she’s nutz. But she is not violent at all.
Awful - no, abominable advice. Abandon his mentally-ill wife when you yourself admit hospitalization for her was not a likely option? Abandon her to wander the streets like so many other poor souls?
That is nothing less than cruel, heartless, and frankly the most extreme expression of "Take Care of Number One" that I have EVER read on this forum.
The man took an oath! You should be commending him rather than encouraging him to abandon his poor wife. Do promises mean nothing to you once they become inconvenient?
You had better hope that no one adapts your callous attitude when YOU are old, enfeebled, and unable to care for yourself. Forced Euthanasia is happening now in a growing number of countries.
I know of what I speak: my beloved wife has suffered from serious mental illness for two decades, causing problems and crisis that you cannot imagine. I must wash, cook, and clean for her. Yet each day she is more precious to me and I would NEVER abandon her! And we have a great help in the Lord that we both serve.
I have read many of the comments, many were commendable and give the correct advice, which is to fulfill your marital vows "unto death do you part." Others gave frankly bad advice, basically telling you to "take care of number one" (I copied you on my reply to a particularly egregious post of this sort). I can certainly empathize with the problems and crises that you must endure on a daily basis. Thankfully, in my case my wife does have "good days" where we can enjoy each other's company and do fun things together. Often with a smile she will communicate her love for me.
I second the many comments that encourage you to look to God for help. This has been key for me - for both of us as we go through this together. I have experienced countless little miracles where the Lord helped us in a very real way.
Also, I believe that God gives us what each of us needs for our own spiritual growth. In my case, I doubt I would have learned patience and true, selfless love, or how to really trust in God if I had not gone through the struggles with my wife.
Wishing you all the best and remember to "call on the name of the Lord" for help.
>>But like a boat at sea the storms will come....
Ps 107:23-32
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Others went out on the sea in ships; they were merchants on the mighty waters.24
They saw the works of the Lord , his wonderful deeds in the deep.25
For he spoke and stirred up a tempest that lifted high the waves.26
They mounted up to the heavens and went down to the depths; in their peril their courage melted away.27
They reeled and staggered like drunken men; they were at their wits' end.28
Then they cried out to the Lord in their trouble, and he brought them out of their distress.29
He stilled the storm to a whisper; the waves of the sea were hushed.30
They were glad when it grew calm, and he guided them to their desired haven.31
Let them give thanks to the Lord for his unfailing love and his wonderful deeds for men.32
Let them exalt him in the assembly of the people and praise him in the council of the elders.
NIV
All of Psalm 107 speaks to your predicament.
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