Posted on 05/24/2015 2:03:01 PM PDT by nickcarraway
he melee started, it seems, with a meme. The photo was of an innocuous scene, one that many are anticipating this Memorial Day weekend: hamburgers and hot dogs on a grill. It was the caption that set everything off.
It read: “Soooo you are at a barbecue. Your man is hungry. He lets you know he is hungry, but you are not the kind of woman to go around fixing plates for a man, so you ignore him. A random woman hears this and says, ‘I will fix his plate.’ She sashays away and comes back with a plate for your man. Do you have any problems with this?”
The answer should have been simple: Yes, this is a problem. One, why is a hungry, fully functional grown man acting incapable of fixing his own plate? Two, why is he acting like his plate is his woman’s job to tend to? Three, who is this crazy woman who doesn’t know him or me from Adam and Eve, who takes it upon herself to do something as intimate as fix his plate?
Maybe the conversation started off civil, but by the time I stumbled into it, all hell had broken loose. In 2015, social media devolved into a full-fledged debate over whether it was a woman’s duty to fix her man a plate. ... And a surprising number of the answers were “yes.”
Black women’s new mandatory requirements: Stay black. Die. Fix a man’s plate.
(Excerpt) Read more at theroot.com ...
I would rather ham a really good samwich.
Now that’s a plate
who would give anything to “fix” her husband’s plate even once again.
A woman after my own heart.
Best response !
I help out around here, just yesterday I put my own coffee cup in the dish washer.
That right there is the finest quote to grace the pages of Free Republic this decade, I don't care who you are.
Hopefully not in that order.
“Soooo you are at a barbecue.
There are a number of disturbing phrases in this narrative.
“...so you ignore him” - You don’t EVER ignore your spouse. Especially at a public gathering.
“...fully functional grown man acting incapable...” - Was he acting incapable or was this one of those eye-rolling assumptions that feminist women embrace?
“...something as intimate as fix his plate?” - If fixing “your man’s” plate is considered ‘intimate’, all the more reason that she should have at least ASKED if she could perform the service.
Otherwise, that “crazy” woman...you can guess the rest.
That was funny. Thank you.
Not three miles, three hours. my bad.
I agree and was thinking as I read that I wish he was here so I could do that for him
I’ll admit that my relationship experience comes more from watching other people’s mistakes than from any personal experience of my own, but I’ll bite:
If one spouse is involved in something that is taking enough time or attention that they can’t step away, or if they’re in a position that is hard to get up from (i.e. child in lap), or if they are known to have mobility problems, then yes, it is polite for the more able spouse to make sure they get something to eat.
If, on the other hand, both spouses are equally unencumbered, or if (I’ve seen this happen) it is the less-encumbered spouse making demands of the spouse who already has more to do than they can handle, then they can get off their rump and get their own #$@*! plate.
As for the 3rd party intervening, that’s just plain creepy. Although that opinion may be due to having been the recipient of over-the-top excessive hospitality by someone who honestly thought they were just being polite. It’s creepy.
Yes, I think it's a generational thing.
IMO the problem isn't fixing the plate, or not---it's the "I ain't gonna do nothing for no MAN" attitude.
It's easier to do it for him.
My man’s ex was mean spirited, resentful and spiteful. I think he’s wonderful! Gee.... Why would he prefer me... Hmmm
It takes consideration and respect from both partners.
My wife and I generally fix our plates together.
Quote from the article:
“Women who fixed plates were anointing themselves better than women who did not.”
Well, why not? Any women who goes to the effort to cook up a mess of good smelling, good looking, and good tasting food for me should get that anointing! It shows she cares!
Put another log on the fire.
Cook me up some bacon and some beans.
And go out to the car and change the tyre.
Wash my socks and sew my old blue jeans.
Come on, baby, you can fill my pipe,
And then go fetch my slippers.
And boil me up another pot of tea.
Then put another log on the fire, babe,
And come and tell me why you’re leaving me.
Now don’t I let you wash the car on Sunday?
Don’t I warn you when you’re gettin fat?
Ain’t I a-gonna take you fishin’ with me someday?
Well, a man can’t love a woman more than that.
Ain’t I always nice to your kid sister?
Don’t I take her driving every night?
So, sit here at my feet ‘cos I like you when you’re sweet,
And you know it ain’t feminine to fight.
So, put another log on the fire.
Cook me up some bacon and some beans.
Go out to the car and lift it up and change the tyre.
Wash my socks and sew my old blue jeans.
Come on, baby, you can fill my pipe,
And then go fetch my slippers.
And boil me up another pot of tea.
Then put another log on the fire, babe,
And come and tell me why you’re leaving me.
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