Prayer is good, I suppose, but what you really need is a lawyer. Do you have one? And I don't mean a public defender, I mean, your own lawyer.
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I pray that you can patch this up w/ your wife, but if you can't, I know that you can survive what is to come.
I have been through it and have come out stronger. You can too.
You have freepmail.
Prayers are up. It is hard to read your story without crying myself. I hope somebody will offer to take your case for free or something.
Dear Houmatt, place your trust in the Lord. He does not assign burdens too heavy for us to carry. If the load nonetheless seems crushing, ask Him to help you carry it. You never know, but in the end much good may come from what now seems so irredeemably bad and difficult for you. I'll be praying for you and your wife. God bless each of you, and by His Light and Grace lead you to His love, truth, and peace.
I don't understand why you and she lived 200 miles apart, her in Canada and you in New York. Was that the arrangement for the entire six years of the marriage?
Why didn't one of you join the other and make a home in one country or the other?
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Houmatt, My prayers going up for you right now. God's love and protection in your life. Also praying for your wife...that she may find what she needs most...peace. I am sorry you have gone through these things, and I will keep you in my prayers.
Blessings,
trussell
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Carolyn
Prayers sent.
I will pray that you both find comfort and peace.
My advice is pray about it and then let it go. Do what you think is right and trust the Lord to handle the rest. If I knew more I'd probably give the same advice.
I pray that your situation will improve, but remember "God helps those who help themselves".
You can stop being a jerk.
Get involved in a good, Bible-believing church, tell the pastor your problems, turn over a new leaf.
Good luck!
I am a Pennsylvania lawyer. While I can't represent you in New York, I could look for the sentencing guidelines. Freepmail me charge and I will attempt to find the sentencing guidelines. Most misdemeanors are elligible for ARD or whatever New York's equivalent is.
Trust in the Lord - He may not give you what you want, but He will always give you what you need. Prayers going up for you, brother.
Things with your wife will work out the way they will. Not according to your plan. Your wife has indeed broken her vows. Unfortunately, you both must live with her weakness. But you must let her go if that is what she wants. With regard to your marriage, that is the only way. Trust in Christ and love Him with all your heart and he won't let you down.
His plan for you may not be clear to you for some time but He will love you unconditionally and give you the strength to find and stay on the right path.
Good luck and be strong.
Don't get mired in self-pity. Yes you have a bad situation but there are people every day dealing with worse. I good friend on mine lost her husband in a car accident on Christmas eve. She has a two month-old baby and is hanging tough. Get back in the game and don't quit.
Offering my prayers
Prayers for you on the way!
DISCLAIMER: You started this thread on FreeRepublic.com. You know FReepers are brutally honest as well as helpful and informative. With that in mind, I'll offer you my OPINION based on this statement you made:
"The other thing that scares me though is the possibility I may go back to jail. Even if it is my first offense, and a misdemeanor, I may still go back. Those days I had been inside scared me like nothing else in a very long time. I know I did something incredibly stupid and there is not a moment where I do not think about how I should have turned left instead of right that day. I also know I must take responsibility for my actions. I just don't want to go back to jail."
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A. You said you did something "incredibly stupid."
Well, ok, admitting it is step 1.
Step 2 is to pray for forgiveness.
Step 3. Promise yourself and God you will never do it again.
B. You said, "The other thing that scares me though is the possibility I may go back to jail. Even if it is my first offense, and a misdemeanor, I may still go back."
Step 1. Get a lawyer.
Step 2. Don't do AGAIN whatever it is you allegedly did in the first place.
Step 3. Pray about it.
C. You said, "I just don't want to go back to jail."
Step 1. Understand that no sane person wants to go to fail.
Step 2. See. B.
Step 3. Evven Martha Stewart, as wealthy as she is, faced facts. She is doing
her time and she'll be out in time to plant her spring garden.
Step 4. Look ahead. Plan what you will be doing after this mess is over with.
Note: As for crying Houmatt, we all cry. No shame in that. Have a good cry and get on with fixing your problem.
Ask the Lord, now, for the strength you need to get through these trying times.
Prayers offered for you.
Be strong.
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