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Respecting women is a good idea for men
The Seattle Times ^ | September 19, 2011 | Judi Light Hopson, Emma H. Hopson and Ted Hagen

Posted on 09/19/2011 11:09:45 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet

Have you noticed that lots of women expect men to be their heroes? It's a sexual turn on, as we see in the movies, for a man to come to the aid of a woman.

For example, a male hero in the movies may verbally slam someone to defend a woman's honor. Or, he may sword fight another man for her affection.

In real life, men may attempt similar things as well. After a time, though, men can get tired. They're only human.

By the time a man is 40 or 50, he's done a lot of psychological battling for work issues, political issues and family concerns.

It's refreshing for a strong woman to maturely step up and assist a man who's overly stressed. It's great when a woman is not too needy herself.

Women need empowerment in the right ways to develop inner strength, though. When men give women respect and encouragement, it helps arm women with the right tools.

"My wife doesn't dump all her problems on me," says a doctor we'll call John. "She's so efficient and strong, I count her as my hero."

John has always encouraged his wife to take classes, succeed in her job role and serve on government committees in their large city.

"I know men who try to hold their wives back," says John. "It's shocking how some men treat their wives in private."

A psychologist we'll call Anthony says men who feel badly about themselves will hurt women.....

(Excerpt) Read more at seattletimes.nwsource.com ...


TOPICS: Business/Economy; Politics; Society
KEYWORDS: domesticviolence; economy; marriage; palin; relationships

1 posted on 09/19/2011 11:09:55 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

women are stonger than men. and I say that as a guy. As a father who watched child birth in progress. but its not just child birth, women are stronger overall


2 posted on 09/19/2011 11:15:20 PM PDT by se_ohio_young_conservative
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Then there are those of us men who have rescued women one to many times just to see them ride off into the sunset with a thug or creep. And when that relationship inevitably goes into the dumps, who do they call? Yup, us men who saved them before. Of course, at that point, they’re such a wreck that they bring nothing to the table but pain and dependency.

So after a few years or decades of that, we opt out. We look for women who don’t need saving. Or if they do, ones who might actually appreciate a hero. Problem is they are few and far between in our degraded “culture.”

Harsh? Yup. Reality often is...


3 posted on 09/19/2011 11:17:31 PM PDT by piytar (The Obama Depression. Say it early, say it often. Why? Because it's TRUE.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Wow. I wonder what Ike Turner would say about that piece.


4 posted on 09/19/2011 11:21:09 PM PDT by Lazlo in PA (Now living in a newly minted Red State.)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

Sure, women give birth. However, if it had been up to them, we’d be hanging curtains in the caves and never have left them to see what’s out there. :)

Healthy men and women are very strong, but different. What many men don’t realize, because our society has conditioned them not to realize it, is that its possible to be that man that is both warrior and knight, but also be appreciative of the fine arts and elegant life.

Unfortunately, men are trained for either strength or culture, when it should be both.


5 posted on 09/19/2011 11:37:52 PM PDT by Jonty30
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
I had been raised to be respectful of all peoples, but, it was at the height of womans lib that I found myself at a crossroads and started to reevaluate that philosophy...I had held a door open for a lady to pass and she started to yell at me about women's lib blah,blah,blah...so I just stepped ahead of her and closed the door in her face at which point she yelled “that's just f’ing rude”. I thought about carrying a cattle prod for instances like this, but, my wife talked me out of it.
6 posted on 09/19/2011 11:40:23 PM PDT by crazyhorse691 (Obama is just the symptom of what is destroying the U.S.)
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To: piytar

You sound like one of the good guys. Don’t give up - the one for you is out there.

I am distrustful of men who have the “Hero Complex”. They tend to be controlling and at the same time incredibly needy of emotional support.

Everyone occasionally needs help and I’m no exception. When that need arises, I usually turn to family but most of the time I do just fine. Asking for help doesn’t mean I’m seeking a life partner or someone for sex.

I advise my friends who want to marry, look for someone who if they were the same sex, would be a best friend.


7 posted on 09/19/2011 11:44:34 PM PDT by SatinDoll (NO FOREIGN NATIONALS AS OUR PRESIDENT!)
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To: SatinDoll

I’m going to call you on that. :)

There isn’t always a person for everybody, at least in this life. If there is, and you’re not a male who is 6 feet and a good build, there is a very good chance that you won’t live long enough to find her. That’s the reality for many of us males.

However, he should try and enjoy life as is and make many friends not worry so much about that.


8 posted on 09/19/2011 11:54:08 PM PDT by Jonty30
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To: SatinDoll

Being the nice guy has done squat for me.


9 posted on 09/20/2011 12:27:46 AM PDT by LukeL (Barack Obama: Jimmy Carter 2 Electric Boogaloo)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

God created. Men and women to compliment each other. When men act like dicks with legs, and women as whores, it throws all sorts of things out of whack.


10 posted on 09/20/2011 12:33:41 AM PDT by vpintheak (Democrats: Robbing humans of their dignity 1 law at a time)
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To: Jonty30

I’m 60-years old and stopped looking when I was 30. Never been married, no children. People make choices in their lives and I chose to remain single, but then not everyone wants to be single their whole life.


11 posted on 09/20/2011 12:42:56 AM PDT by SatinDoll (NO FOREIGN NATIONALS AS OUR PRESIDENT!)
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To: SatinDoll

Not everybody does and most that do remain single didn’t really have much say in the matter.

However, the best thing a perpetually single person cvan do for themselves is focus on enjoying life and developing their talents.

They’ll make themselves a more interesting person if somebody does come along. If the single person remains single, they’ll enjoy life more regardless.


12 posted on 09/20/2011 12:47:13 AM PDT by Jonty30
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To: Jonty30

You’re quite right; a lot of nice people don’t want to lower their standards and so they remain single. Often, the standards are not unreasonable ones when you look at the mess people are these days.


13 posted on 09/20/2011 1:30:59 AM PDT by Niuhuru (The Internet is the digital AIDS; adapting and successfully destroying the MSM host.)
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To: Jonty30

Poeple so easily forget that while knights jousted and also waged war, they also often knew multiple languages and knew how to skillfully play wonderful instruments and compose verse. Same wiht women; while in Southern culture women were brought up to be kind, courteous, and sociable, they were also brought up to run massive households and that was no small thing.


14 posted on 09/20/2011 1:34:15 AM PDT by Niuhuru (The Internet is the digital AIDS; adapting and successfully destroying the MSM host.)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

Baloney.


15 posted on 09/20/2011 1:35:46 AM PDT by Lancey Howard
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To: LukeL

Did you ever see that Seinfeld where some beautiful girl fell for George because she thought he was a thug and a trouble maker? So George tries to play that role, but without success.


16 posted on 09/20/2011 1:38:43 AM PDT by Lancey Howard
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To: Lancey Howard

>> Baloney.

Meow, snap!


17 posted on 09/20/2011 1:40:48 AM PDT by Gene Eric (Your Hope has been Redistributed. Here's your damn Change!)
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To: LukeL

My hubby was the nice guy and that attracted me.... for 41 years in October marks the day we met!!! Still attracted to my guy - always and forever.


18 posted on 09/20/2011 1:47:00 AM PDT by antceecee (Bless us Father.. have mercy on us and protect us from evil.)
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To: LukeL

My hubby was the nice guy and that attracted me.... for 41 years in October marks the day we met!!! Still attracted to my guy - always and forever.


19 posted on 09/20/2011 1:47:00 AM PDT by antceecee (Bless us Father.. have mercy on us and protect us from evil.)
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To: antceecee

Geez... I just knew that was worth posting twice!


20 posted on 09/20/2011 1:47:54 AM PDT by antceecee (Bless us Father.. have mercy on us and protect us from evil.)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
women are stonger than men. and I say that as a guy. As a father who watched child birth in progress. but its not just child birth, women are stronger overall

Then you've had the misfortune of knowing only weak men, of which there are plenty in this world these days.
21 posted on 09/20/2011 2:12:27 AM PDT by fr_freak
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

Women seek to marry the perfect man then spend every waking moment trying to change him into someone else.


22 posted on 09/20/2011 2:46:00 AM PDT by NoControllingLegalAuthority (Where is the middle ground on insolvency of the United States government?)
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To: SatinDoll

-—I advise my friends who want to marry, look for someone who if they were the same sex, would be a best friend.-—

No wonder men run from marriage.....my wife of 30 plus years is my best friend but not even remotely like her best girlfriend...

It is a much deeper relationship than any girlfriend she ever had

Being a husband means she is “bone of my bone flesh of my flesh” we are so intertwinned by love commitment service support a mere freindship would be an insult


23 posted on 09/20/2011 3:10:30 AM PDT by Popman (Obama is God's curse upon the land....)
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To: Lancey Howard

That was also the episode that Elaine “danced” in. Hilarious!!


24 posted on 09/20/2011 3:19:25 AM PDT by tal hajus ("Thank you sir. May I have another?" GOP)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
Women are designed by God to give birth....that doesn't mean they are stronger than men just able to bare children

If men had to give birth our birthrate would be near zero and the green wackco would celebrate in their caves

Each sex has a role in the life cycle....each have their own stenghts and weakness

25 posted on 09/20/2011 3:28:44 AM PDT by Popman (Obama is God's curse upon the land....)
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To: NoControllingLegalAuthority

“A man marries a woman hoping she’ll never change. A woman marries a man hoping to change him.”


26 posted on 09/20/2011 4:28:52 AM PDT by PBRSTREETGANG
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative

You may have watched Steel Magnolias a few too many times.


27 posted on 09/20/2011 4:31:08 AM PDT by PBRSTREETGANG
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Behind every would-be successful man, there is a woman to constantly publicly remind him, he is inadequate.
28 posted on 09/20/2011 4:32:48 AM PDT by pyx (Rule#1.The LEFT lies.Rule#2.See Rule#1. IF THE LEFT CONTROLS THE LANGUAGE, IT CONTROLS THE ARGUMENT.)
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To: piytar; se_ohio_young_conservative
Then there are those of us men who have rescued women one to many times just to see them ride off into the sunset with a thug or creep

+1

( be patient, ohio .. your turn will prolly come )-:

29 posted on 09/20/2011 4:58:57 AM PDT by tomkat (para bellum)
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To: LukeL
Being the nice guy has done squat for me

+1

30 posted on 09/20/2011 5:00:06 AM PDT by tomkat (para bellum)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
I've been single for 35 years, since my 2nd marriage. I don't expect that to change any time soon.

You can sit and argue all day long about the men vs. women issue, but as far as I'm concerned, men are from earth and women are from who knows where.

Ne'er the twain shall meet.

31 posted on 09/20/2011 5:04:24 AM PDT by EN1 Sailor (I saw the best minds of my generation destroyed by madness)
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To: NoControllingLegalAuthority
Women seek to marry the perfect man a good guy then spend every waking moment trying to change him into someone else

+1

32 posted on 09/20/2011 5:04:40 AM PDT by tomkat (para bellum)
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To: crazyhorse691

Please don’t give up your gentlemanly ways, crazyhorse691! Real women appreciate a door being held open for them. I have taught my son to hold open a door, give his seat to a female etc... A man who respects a woman (IMHO) shows true class, appreciation and intelligence. They are gems among rocks.


33 posted on 09/20/2011 5:17:21 AM PDT by momtothree
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To: piytar

That’s why I met one in the Philippines, old school women there.


34 posted on 09/20/2011 5:17:27 AM PDT by Bulwyf
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To: crazyhorse691

the cattle prod is a fantastic idea, in this case it’s ok to not listen to your wife heh.

*disclaimer* I never said this.


35 posted on 09/20/2011 5:19:09 AM PDT by Bulwyf
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To: piytar
Then there are those of us men who have rescued women one to many times just to see them ride off into the sunset with a thug or creep. And when that relationship inevitably goes into the dumps, who do they call? Yup, us men who saved them before. Of course, at that point, they’re such a wreck that they bring nothing to the table but pain and dependency.

There are some women who are excited by "bad boys", and who keep regular guys hanging in case they need anything. They are the flip side of the men who are "only interested in a quick lay" -- the women who string "nice" guys along.

36 posted on 09/20/2011 5:25:31 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (When you've only heard lies your entire life, the truth sounds insane.)
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To: Jonty30
However, the best thing a perpetually single person cvan do for themselves is focus on enjoying life and developing their talents.

I am not trying to proselytize but go to church. Let God guide you to the only true happiness.

37 posted on 09/20/2011 5:48:37 AM PDT by OldMissileer (Atlas, Titan, Minuteman, PK. Winners of the Cold War)
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To: se_ohio_young_conservative
women are stronger than men. and I say that as a guy. As a father who watched child birth in progress. but its not just child birth, women are stronger overall

Then why can't they kill spiders?
38 posted on 09/20/2011 5:52:36 AM PDT by Vision ("Did I not say to you that if you would believe, you would see the glory of God?" John 11:40)
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To: LukeL

For the most part same here.


39 posted on 09/20/2011 6:12:50 AM PDT by wally_bert (It's sheer elegance in its simplicity! - The Middleman)
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To: PapaBear3625

I gave up on playing the good guy, rescuer, white knight, etc years ago. All I ever got was burned and taken advantage of.


40 posted on 09/20/2011 6:16:28 AM PDT by wally_bert (It's sheer elegance in its simplicity! - The Middleman)
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To: OldMissileer

I know in the end, it will all make sense, even if my current level of understanding is inadequate.


41 posted on 09/20/2011 6:17:25 AM PDT by Jonty30
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

“male and female created he them” (Genesis 1:27)


42 posted on 09/20/2011 11:04:59 AM PDT by reasonisfaith (Governor Palin: "I'm not for sale." It's true. Watch The Undefeated.)
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