On The Light Side: Handling nosy curiosity as a single woman

http://www.amnews.com/ ^ | Tuesday October 11, 2005 | BOBBIE CURD

[Alkhin]

Heck, people...why do they think this NOW, when movies like Gladiator become Chick Flicks?????????

[Alkhin]

BTW I love your tag line!! rofl!!!

[grellis]

Gotta quiver full of nice, sharp arrows all packed and ready to go!

[Dashing Dasher]

A friend of mine was a first time bride at 46. A few weeks before her wedding, she droppped off a box of books on my front porch while I was at work. The box contained books with titles like:

"How to marry the rich"
"Finding your perfect guy"
"Men are like fish; learn how to catch yours"

AND MY FAVORITE.....

"If I'm so Wonderful, why am I still single?"


Long story short... I threw the box away. Oh, and we are no longer friends.

;-)

[PaulaB]

I gotta question?????

I am married but was sitting here thinking

why is it OK for nuns to never marry but not other women? Is it because if they are single they are to remain pure? and if they can't remain pure to marry? I can't think of another reason why single women get such a hard time..
the world has been populated the way God wanted us to....whats the question?

[PaulaB]

"Men are like fish; learn how to catch yours"

with a hook..something slimy..and alot of patience???

[Dashing Dasher]

Ask my mother...

She's still reeling over the fact that I'm not married.

Don't care - neither is she.... she's divorced.

I always tell people I skipped my starter marriage. But, they DO ask - ALL the time!

[Dashing Dasher]

No kidding - it's a book!

Check Amazon - there are probably 100s of books preying on women's insecurity. What a bunch of bull.

If I was to write one, it would be about living everyday of your life fully - and not waiting around for Mr. Right. If you are doing what you want to do everyday - you'll find each other. If you are staying home reading books about being miserable - you won't.

IMHO

[PaulaB]

No doubt...well said

I told my hubby if something ever happens to him ..I would never marry again but live in a little spot on the lake with a few cats
I sure wouldn't be dating or reading about men ;(

[Serb5150]

AND MY FAVORITE..... "If I'm so Wonderful, why am I still single?"

One of the biggest b*tches I've ever met in my life owned that book. I was absolutely stunned... she thought she was wonderful?

[Dashing Dasher]

Could you imagine if someone gave it to you as a 'gift'?

[Maximus of Texas]

Paula, Paula, Paula,

You should know by now that there isn't a big difference between a nun and a married woman.

[PaulaB]

Sweetie...I was referring to a nun and

and UNmarried woman

but I am sure there are days when my hubby

wonders if I've joined the nunnery and

we are not catholic ;)

[CompSciGuy]

I completely agree. I found her attitude snobbish, and possibly repellant. Any good man would want to know if she is married... 1) to formulate an appropriate behavior pattern, and 2) possible interest. Asking someone why they aren't married (especially when one is in their 30's) is fair game as well, especially because most of the time it leads to interesting in depth conversations, the kind that lead to friendships or better.

Cheers,
CSG

[scott7278]

Call me a prude, but I don't want 'just any guy'.

You will be all the more blessed with that attitude. I have people ask me all the time, "Why aren't you married yet?"

My answer (the wording varies): "I'll get married when I find the right woman, and not a moment before."

[scott7278]

I was absolutely stunned... she thought she was wonderful?

That might be the problem.

[MadIvan]

It's fairly simple to determine whether someone of the opposite sex is single or not. First, check for a wedding ring. Second, try a small bit of flirting - the response to this stimuli generally provides the most data. Third, just keep your ears open - usually if someone is sharing their life with someone, it's going to be impossible for them to discuss recent events without mention of that person.

Regards, Ivan

[PurVirgo]

Following that logic, I shouldn't have been slightly annoyed when my uncle recently asked, "So Mandy, are you ever gonna get married?"

I smiled sweetly and said probably not. I'm NOT looking for a husband... I'm looking for a man that wants to be my lifelong companion.

[grellis]

First, slightly annoyed is a bit different than what this woman did. After your uncle posed his question, did you put pen to pape and let the diatribe begin?

Second, it is just possible that--in a less than tactful way--your uncle was taking an interest in your life. When a question like this comes up, just roll with it--give an honest answer, as you did. Maybe thank the questioner for their interest (chances are, that'll really put them off!). A lot of my relatives aren't too happy with my choice to leave college after two semesters, but I'm satisfied with the decision I made, so I just don't sweat the judgement. It's kind of nice to know that my aunts and uncles--whom I see only once every five or six years--remember something about me, other than "Aren't you Frank's kid, the one who never shut up?"

[PurVirgo]

LOL I never thought of it that way!

for what it's worth, I get the "kid who wouldn't shut up" question every now and again also =)