Posted on 10/20/2006 5:31:13 PM PDT by MadIvan
Cads and bounders may have a certain appeal, but when it comes to getting the girl, nice guys really do finish first.
Scientists have shown that nice guys, often dismissed as being wimpish and lacking in excitement, are actually more attractive to women than their more macho counterparts.
Psychologist Professor Mark Van Vugt set up a series of experiments designed to test the pros and cons of being nice.
Volunteers were given a fictional sum of money and asked to make 'donations'. Some contributions were made public, while others were kept confidential.
Members of the group were also asked what they thought of the others and to rate them in terms of status and leadership potential.
The results showed that people gave more money away when their donations were made public. Also, the altruists were seen as more influential and were more often picked out as being leaders.
Prof Van Vugt concluded that niceness pays.
He believes that while the selfless may lose out in the short term, using up time, energy, and even money, to help others, in the long term, they are quids in.
This is because their kindness raises them in other's estimations, giving them higher social status and more opportunities - both in work and in love.
This could explain why we have evolved do things that have no apparent benefit to ourselves, such as volunteering to join the army, rescuing a stranger from a burning building or returning a wallet found in the street.
The professor said: "In a world where people can choose who they want to interact with, altruists create more opportunities for themselves than selfish people."
Writing in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, he added: "By spending excessive amounts of energy, time, and money on activities that are essentially unselfish, altruists advertise some desirable underlying quality that is costly to obtain and hard to control, such as genetic endowment, health or vigour.
"The altruist benefits by increasing his or her social status and thus the likelihood that he or she will be chosen as a mate or ally.
"Through this, the altruists are able to recoup the costs of their display in the long run.
"In other words, nice guys should finish first."
Regards, Ivan
Ping!
Honesty wins over corruption is what it looks like to me.
so not true, especially when you're young(maybe when your dating in your late 30's or 40's)
yea, attractive as in "friends", NOT "bed room" :D
I have done both and was WAY more successful being slightly rude and mean.
Truly nice girls won't go for this; they (we) really do want nice guys. Trust me on this.
The kind of girl who would push you away for treating her with respect isn't the type of girl you'd want, anyway (at least, I hope not! ;-))
Think of it as an "early warning signal" to tell you which ones to avoid ;-)
In reality, he may get the girl, but he will, knowing or not, be raising the children of the cad or bounder.
I have a good friend who does DNA matching for bone marrow donors. It is actually unusual for a woman with 3 children to have all by the same father. Particularly the religious ones.
Somebody slap this lying piece of skirt-chasin' trash.
Bingo!
Wow.
So much bitterness on this thread. I'm sorry that you guys have had such negative experiences with women.
Perhaps the problem is that you've been attracted to "bad girls," rather than "nice girls" (and yes, fellas, nice girls really do exist).
Some people are just born cynical, annie.....
They can't help it, I guess........
The operational definition for the study is a joke.
Manliness = baaaad
sissy boy metrosexual = good.
Empirical evidence concludes otherwise.
Incoming!!!!!!!P>
My mom has 5 kids.
Their like is not in the world today, alas.
Cicero said that a young man should marry, so that he would be accepted by society, then divorce before his wife could do him ill, then adopt an honorable and learned young man, so that he would know what he was getting.
His son was once named in a will, to get one ninth of a wealthy lady's inheritance, if he would change his name. Cicero said he would postpone writing about the value of the honor of his name until he found out what a third of a third was worth.
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