I'll be there in spirit! 
Posted on 03/29/2007 10:47:15 PM PDT by Silly
Folks in Freeper land, I could use your encouragement, prayers, comfort and support tonight. After battling my employer over a verbally and physically abusive boss, I had to clean out my office today.
Don't panic yet -- I'm continuing on payroll indefinitely. But after I reported the abuse, and was removed from her building, I was given an office from which I could search for a job. I needed that, because I need to be around midtown for interviews (and I have had some). Tomorrow in fact I have two interviews.
I'll try to summarize this quickly:
My boss is notoriously abusive, verbally, to people. But as her assistant, I get more abuse than anyone. They at least can close their doors or hang up the phone. I cannot. I was at her mercy for a year, and even began having nightmares about it.
She is an extremely physical, active and fit woman. Many times her rage is so great you think she will snap out at you. That in itself is hard to be around.
And then she actually did it. She struck me in her office, while having one of her fits of anger.
After that, the nightmares became very frequent. Some days I could not get up in the morning. Once, awaking from a nightmare, I sat in my chair at home from 6 am to 6 pm, trying to calm myself down. That day i failed to call in to work. Of course, it was a problem.
And then I went on disability for two months to recover psychologically. I still am not there yet. Every time someone in a job interview asks, "Why are you looking for another job?" it all comes back. How do you answer a question like that?
Human Resources actually made it worse. The woman I reported it to betrayed me. When I got her off the case, her boss took over. This week I learned he has been lying about things too. I knew I couldn't trust him, but I couldn't believe he'd be so brash about it.
So the vacant office I've been using for my job search is no longer available to me. No email, so prospects will now wonder, "If you're still at your company, why aren't you still at your company? What's up?"
It could be worse -- I could have my pay cut off. But that will happen soon enough. They're pulllng me away one piece at a time.
(I sure am glad I filed that police report. But it won't really help.)
Let's get together tonight, Friday, and get silly together.
The Irish Pub
7th Avenue and 54th Street, SE corner
Say, 5 PM...?
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Yes, officially diagnosed. By a great doctor, too.
The fact that such a shrew still has a job there after that says a lot for the company and none of it good. That's just unacceptable.
I said I prayer for you...that you find a MUCH better job very soon. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
Have a cold one for me, OK? And I hope you go after that abusive witch and the company and sue the daylights out of them. They should not get away with something like this. (And I have never been particularly litigious.)
You said (to someone else) -- "I don't want to harp on you, really. I've been the object of abuse too long to want to mete it out on anyone else. But believe me, it was not a pretty year for me."
Tell me please, that you've got a lawyer. And also tell me that you've file for a workman's comp claim...
Regards,
Star Traveler
My boss is a maniac but there is nothing I can do about it as I am self employed
OPINION:
1. I'm glad you filed a police report.
That was the right thing to do.
You may want to chat with a lawyer, too.
Now, here's something to think about.
2. Did you know we have freepers who have serious, some terminal diseases?
3. Did you know we have freepers who have had one or more relatives/friends killed or injured due to terrorism and/or the war?
4. Did you know we have freepers here with severe disabilities and diseases?
Anyway, Silly cheer up.
Each day is a gift from God.
Use it wisely and be grateful.
God bless you.
I'll be there in spirit!
Read post 20, item 4.
And thank you for your words; I know you mean well.
God has been very good to me. Another entire story there.
Here's a prayer I wrote last night just before bed:
There's so much more to say and do.
But dear God in heaven, I love you.
Help me to be pure and bright tonight,
And meet me kindly in tomorrow's morning light.
Amen.
That's a wonderful prayeer, Silly.
sp=prayer
From another thread. Thought you could use it.
Prayers UP for another job with someone kind!
Want me to punch her lights out? Just say the word....;)
Was your boss named Hillary by any chance?
I had to clean out my office today.
Silly, I know it is very hard. I will be praying for you too. I have stayed in abusive situations before. I absolutely know I should have left long before I did. You are a very special person and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. If you can, look at this trial as a step up the ladder of faith. The first step up is the most difficult especially when it looks so dark. I know you will find a good job. I also believe you will look back at this time in your life and thank the Lord for it. Sometimes things come to us in difficult forms and when we are going through them we have a hard time seeing. I pray you will turn to the Lord himself for your confidence. He alone is your provider. No one on this earth or at any given job is what you really need. God will allow things like this to come into our lives to get our attention and than direct us right back to Him for all our needs. There is no need to small or insignificant for Him to help us with. My own experience tell me this. He knows your health and what you need in order to live and I know He wants to meet all your needs. Trust Him. Simple but so hard. God Bless you and keep us informed along the way. Look for Him as you step out into the unknown. He is waiting for you and longing to be your Source. Psalm 34:4 I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears. & Psalm 43:5 Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, [who is] the health of my countenance, and my God.
That's no way to live Silly. I've had abusive bosses like that (not abusive to me - frighteningly he LIKED me) Eventually even the management realised how bad he was and gave him the push. He did a lot of damage before that though.
LOL!
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