Posted on 12/07/2007 8:28:45 AM PST by najida
I need to ask for you guys to put someone in your thoughts and prayers.
Someone I work with at a site, a young black woman with 2 little boys under 4 was diagnosed with skin cancer when she was pregnant with the second boy last year.
Because she's so dark, the skin changes had gone undetected for years, and they got worse when she got pregnant the second time. Even the Drs were baffled with her skin problems at first, and she got lots of wrong diagnosis' and treatment, up until about a month before the baby was born and one Dr. actually did a skin biopsy.
She's been undergoing extensive treatment for the last year and a half for melanoma, and this week, she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and was told that she won't live to see her boys grow up.
BTW, she's yet to miss much work being sick. She's a sweet person and a very hard worker. And she LOVES her boys. They boys are cute, spoiled, and as well mannered as a 4 year and 18 month old can be :)
Sadly, her family is the pits, the boys father is not a great guy (we won't go there) and shes also freaking out about what will happen to her boys if and when she dies. There is an Aunt and Uncle who are great folks and willing to take the boys. We're all encouraging her to hurry up and get her legal ducks in a row.
Anyhow, she keeps going out to the parking lot to sit in her car to cry. And different co-workers go out to sit with her and bring her back inside. We have decided to do everything we can to cheer her up. But it's put a pall over everything....we're all trying to find ways to help her and the boys.
Please keep them all in your thoughts and prayers.
Thanks.
This however, is very sad.
prayers up for her and her boys
Done
Heartbreaking. Prayers up for this woman and her children and family.
She sounds so great. I pray for her and her children. Tell he to write a long letter to her boys to be open when they are 18. They will treasure that forever. I know it could be insensitve to discuss something like that but the boys will appreciate it.
Actually,
we’ve talked to her about things like that....
A video of her for them,
A scrapbook,
little gifts they can open each birthday.
A letter is a great idea! Thank you!
And we keep telling her she has the gift of knowing and being able to say goodbye (and I’m starting to cry now).
For her boys' sake, you need to have her make some videos for them, while she still can.
No problems. She sounds wonderful.
So sad. I will keep them in my thoughts.
Holding her and her precious baby boys in our prayers.
I’m so sorry to hear this! I’ve had a few skin problems, myself ... and probably should get back to the dermatologist soon!
I’ll pray for your friend, especially that she will make firm, enforceable arrangements for her sons’ care, soon.
Prayers going up, najida.
Pinging some of my pals.
BTTT
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She needs to get a second, third, or fourth opinion - I know too many survivors of ovarian cancer for this to be accepted as gospel...unless it's already too advanced.
At any rate, prayers for your co-worker - she has some very hard days ahead of her. God Bless you for being her friend.
She needs to speak to a lawyer immediately. If she can’t afford one, call around to whatever law schools are in your area and find out if any have a family law clinic (many do). If the boys’ father is alive, she’s going to have a very difficult time giving custody over to another relative. It is absolutely crucial that she take care of this right this minute.
::tears::
Prayer going up..
Prayers Sent.
Prayers on the way.
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