The marriage killer: One in five American divorces now involve Facebook

Daily Mail ^ | 12/02/2010 | David Gardner

[r9etb]

How is it the fault of FaceBook or any other website that people cheat?

It's not really "at fault," but it does offer propinquity (a wonderful word that means "nearness in place or time") that would not otherwise exist.

It's normal to wonder how things might have been if one had made the right moves toward a particular person way back when.... How often do people construct idyllic scenarios involving an old flame, that look especially inviting in comparison to the usual frictions and difficulties of our everyday lives?

In the old days, it was hard to look that person up.

Now, though, "I wonder" can be satisfied by a few clicks on the mouse. Facebook and other such sites feed the temptation, and it can obviously get out of control.

[T Minus Four]

It’s not the fault, it’s the means.

[Bodleian_Girl]

Facebook is a good thing when used properly.

Of course.

[DannyTN]

"FR is a bad influence too. I spend way too much time surfing here."

And if your wife decides that she wants a divorce so she can take the kids and get paid for it, it's pretty easy to allege that you were communicating with other women on FR.

The charge won't really matter, because she can drop the unproven claims, settle the divorce for irreconcilable differences and take the gold mine while giving you the shaft.

[T Minus Four]

Did you hear they're going to combine Facebook, Twitter and Youtube into one gigantic time-sucking entity?

They're going to call it "YouTwitFace!"

ba dum TISH

[freedomlover]

So help me if my wife ever joins Farmville I will divorce her. Easiest way in the world to get de-friended by me.

“Mona Smith wants you to have some vegetables from Farmville” - WHAM! NO FRIEND FOR YOU!

[ozarkgirl]

Why don’t you just hide Farmville instead? You can keep the friend and not have anything to do with Farmville show up.

[a fool in paradise]

I didn’t say 20% of all marriages end in divorce, I was questioning whether 20% of all marriages THAT end in divorce do so because of affairs exposed on facebook. That hints at 20% or more of all divorce being because of adultery.

[T Minus Four]

So.....what are you wearing?

LOL! When I first discovered chat groups I just didn't get it. I had a guy tell me he was a dancer and I took him seriously. I guessed maybe he was in a ballet troupe or line-dancing instructor or something. Then he told me what HE was wearing! YIKES!

[freedomlover]

"Previous responsible parties include the text message, the cellular phone, the land-line telephone, the telegram, the mail carrier, the pen-and-paper, and the stone tablet."

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Fine, but before then what did Helen use?

[freedomlover]

Why don’t you just hide Farmville instead? You can keep the friend and not have anything to do with Farmville show up.

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Well my way is still a pretty good moron detector ;)

Do you know if your way is possible for my iPhone app?

thanks

FL

[SnakeDoctor]

Presumably a medium without pictures.

SnakeDoc

[EDINVA]

The article doesn’t say it’s the FAULT of Facebook, but that it leaves a trail that is used as evidence, along the line of lipstick on the collar.

[sodpoodle]

It looks as if Facebook has replaced the steamy paperback novels; by allowing folks to author and participate in their own fantasies & secret assignations.

The thrill begins with Cyber sins!!!

[Esther Ruth]

World going to hell in a handbasket and what does everyone do - wretched evil sinners that we all are - dilly dally on facebook, attempt to strike up conversations with old flames. Many good people are on there talking to people about the Lord Jesus Christ I know. Very revealing though what direction people head when the going gets tuff. Do they start stuffing their belly and go cave man trolling or do they reach out to the Lord for His strength and power to be strong so they will not be weak and sin?

Praise God that we can come to Him immediately, confess our sins, seek forgiveness and strength from Him - and He is faithful and does help us.

[trisham]

I’ll have to give it a try. I’m not sure what he did. I know he posted under my name once, which was a bit disconcerting.

[wagglebee]

Yeah, we don’t want him getting you zotted. :-)

[Lonesome in Massachussets]

I think cause and effect are inexorably intertwined. I suppose if a marriage is shakey adultery will kill it and Facebook may well facilitate adultery.

Like I said, spouses should INSIST that their mate have access to their compute accounts.

[GOPJ]

How is it the fault of FaceBook or any other website that people cheat?

I suspect it just makes it easier - and more public...

[trisham]

Goodness, no. :)