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Carol Anne Riddell and John Partilla: Affair Started (Adultery in Wedding Announcement)
San Francisco Chronicle ^ | December 21 2010 | Kristi Gustafson

Posted on 12/21/2010 11:16:52 AM PST by nickcarraway

Timing truly is everything and sometimes - when it comes to love - the timing is just, well, wrong.

Or is it?

A New York couple is causing quite a brouhaha after their wedding profile ran in the New York Times' Vows section this weekend. Why the controversy? The couple - a New York City television reporter and a high-powered ad executive - told the paper how their love blossomed while they were each married to someone else.

That's right. They were each in long-term marriages, and each have children. In fact, it was the children who brought them together, sort of. You see, Riddell and Partilla met at their kids' school. So, while the other mommies and daddies are having parent teacher conferences, it seems Riddell and Partilla may have been having a little, um, conference of their own.

The two - who, along with their spouses, were good friends before romance blossomed. That's right, the four of them had dinners together, attended parties and hit the road for family vacations, along with their children.

They insist that the relationship was platonic, at first, yet admit to being instantly struck by one another. Eventually, they decided to leave their respective spouses - and, in turn, their children - to become an official couple.

The buzz on the 'net is that she's an, um, selfish individual (hey, this is a family newspaper, I need to keep it clean), and he isn't seen as much better. But, they are in love and don't seem to care much what the public thinks - which is fair, they shouldn't.

What I wonder, though, is what their children think.

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TOPICS: Miscellaneous; Society; Weird Stuff
KEYWORDS: adultery; marriage; moralabsolutes; weddings

1 posted on 12/21/2010 11:16:55 AM PST by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

Obama voters?


2 posted on 12/21/2010 11:21:12 AM PST by BenLurkin (This post is not a statement of fact. It is merely a personal opinion -- or humor -- or both)
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To: nickcarraway

They even blame the kids for adultery.


3 posted on 12/21/2010 11:25:38 AM PST by Califreak (November 2008 proved that Idiocracy isn't just a movie anymore)
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To: nickcarraway

“They are in love and don’t care what the public thinks...”

Use to be a time that adultery was considered a sin and just plain wrong. Use to be a time that a parent would guard their behavior because they knew their children learned from them. Old saying from my grandmother: “if he cheats on his wife with YOU then be prepared to have him cheat on YOU. I don’t predict a happy marriage for these two. Just a thought.


4 posted on 12/21/2010 11:26:50 AM PST by momtothree
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To: nickcarraway
They insist that the relationship was platonic, at first, yet admit to being instantly struck by one another.

Had this happen to me once. Chemistry is a funny thing that way. He and I decided pretty quickly that we needed to stay as far away from each other as possible, which is what we did. Just not worth destroying two families.

5 posted on 12/21/2010 11:27:49 AM PST by Hoffer Rand (There ARE two Americas: "God's children" and the tax payers)
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To: Califreak

6 posted on 12/21/2010 11:30:05 AM PST by Puppage (You may disagree with what I have to say, but I shall defend to your death my right to say it)
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To: nickcarraway

Can they trust each other?


7 posted on 12/21/2010 11:30:53 AM PST by ▀udda▀udd (7 days - 7 ways Guero >>> with a floating, shifting, ever changing persona.....)
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To: ├čudda├čudd

And there’s the rub. They both know that they married someone who cannot be trusted.


8 posted on 12/21/2010 11:36:14 AM PST by Ramius (Personally, I give us... one chance in three. More tea?)
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To: ├čudda├čudd

Exactly.... Once a cheater always a cheater


9 posted on 12/21/2010 11:36:27 AM PST by Moleman
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To: nickcarraway

It isn’t love, it’s lust. And the glitter will tarnish.


10 posted on 12/21/2010 11:41:59 AM PST by DJ MacWoW (If Bam is the answer, the question was stupid.)
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To: Hoffer Rand
Just looked up your FReeper homepage, as I don't recall seeing you before.

Given the contents of your homepage, you might be interested in this thread.

Cheers!

11 posted on 12/21/2010 11:47:08 AM PST by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: nickcarraway

I’ve seen this in real life. We were friends with the newly married couple. Worst marriage I’ve ever seen.

We would get calls at all times of day or night with one of them frantically looking for the other one. And it was not long before the husband came over while I was at work to hit on my wife for two hours.

Really dysfunctional couple. We all saw, although they did not, that most of their supposed ‘love’ was really just the excitement and intrigue of the cheat.

Once they got married, they discovered that they really couldn’t stand each other.

The desire to have being more pleasurable than the having.


12 posted on 12/21/2010 11:48:59 AM PST by 240B (he is doing everything he said he wouldn't and not doing what he said he would)
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To: Puppage

The man let the little head do the thinking for him, and she came in heat at the right time.

It’s Lust, won’t last long, maybe a couple of years, In the meantime there are their ex spouses who feel cheated, are lonely and left to raise the kids.Hope the child support puts a hurt on them.


13 posted on 12/21/2010 11:49:38 AM PST by Venturer
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To: Ramius
They both know that they married someone who cannot be trusted.

Well put. When my first wife cheated on me all I had to ask myself was "Is it going to get harder or easier for her to do it again?"

I filed for divorce pretty soon after that.

14 posted on 12/21/2010 11:54:38 AM PST by Lurker (The avalanche has begun. The pebbles no longer have a vote.)
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To: nickcarraway

I couldn’t find it. Who got custody of the kids?

Probably the whore.


15 posted on 12/21/2010 11:55:38 AM PST by Venturer
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To: Hoffer Rand

Nope. Because when the pheromones & hormones are all stirred up, for about the first six months, it’s all new and exciting. Then, reality sets in, boredom sets in, the sudden realization that you’ve just traded one set of thorny problems for another set of problems - and there you go. - Then when the further reality of two humans living together under the same roof, smelling human smells, seeing varying human sights, hearing unflattering human sounds; then the flame of romance burns low and the heat of passion hits that seven-year itch. Then it’s time to move on again and blend more families and rationalize, rationalize.


16 posted on 12/21/2010 12:01:49 PM PST by Twinkie (SHOOT LOW BOYS, THEY'RE RIDING SHETLAND PONIES!)
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17 posted on 12/21/2010 12:12:30 PM PST by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: nickcarraway

The story is presented as glamorous, dazzling, dynamo, etc, but all these adjectives can’t mask the sadness of the real story: two selfish parents put themselves before their families.


18 posted on 12/21/2010 12:13:46 PM PST by stainlessbanner
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To: nickcarraway

I knew a women in the small town I lived in whose husband had a fling with another woman, of course there was the divorce and he married his mistress.

I told a friend of mine that I felt bad for what I assumed was the first wife until she informed me that she was wife #2 after she was the mistress in his first marriage.......needless to say I did not feel bad for her anymore but I still felt bad for the kids.....


19 posted on 12/21/2010 12:20:54 PM PST by Kimmers (Tell a lie often enough it becomes political........)
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To: nickcarraway

Some say that adultery is second only to murder in terms of social harm.


20 posted on 12/21/2010 12:30:09 PM PST by AEMILIUS PAULUS (It is a shame that when these people give a riot)
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To: Hoffer Rand

Kudos to you!! Attraction happens. Adultery doesn’t have to.


21 posted on 12/21/2010 12:56:22 PM PST by rejoicing
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To: Hoffer Rand

Kudos to you!! Attraction happens. Adultery doesn’t have to.


22 posted on 12/21/2010 12:56:23 PM PST by rejoicing
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To: ├čudda├čudd
Can they trust each other?

bet they go to the PTA meetings together ..

23 posted on 12/21/2010 1:02:41 PM PST by RnMomof7 (Gal 4:16 asks "Am I therefore become your enemy, because I tell you the truth?")
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To: AEMILIUS PAULUS

Maybe, but I would say that it’s actually worse in terms of social harm in that it leaves it’s victim alive and damaged, allowing the harm to spread.

I’m not saying that murder isn’t harmful, just that adultry is more harmful in the long run.


24 posted on 12/21/2010 3:00:32 PM PST by paladin1_dcs
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To: paladin1_dcs

Murder is final. In theory the effects of adultery are not. I don’t really disagree as to your statements as to the long term effects of adultery. I myself think it is treated too lightly in contemporary thought and feeling. Indeed adultery often forms the basis of crimes of passion.


25 posted on 12/21/2010 4:08:38 PM PST by AEMILIUS PAULUS (It is a shame that when these people give a riot)
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To: AEMILIUS PAULUS

It’s not theory, you’re completely correct that murder is final while adultery is not. I likewise agree that adultery often forms the basis for crimes of passion, so in a way I could see adultery as a delayed form of murder.

All that aside, I completely agree that adultery is treated much too lightly by contemporary standards.


26 posted on 12/21/2010 4:45:45 PM PST by paladin1_dcs
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To: Twinkie
...when the further reality of two humans living together under the same roof, smelling human smells, seeing varying human sights, hearing unflattering human sounds; then the flame of romance burns low...


27 posted on 12/26/2010 7:42:54 AM PST by Albion Wilde (Government does nothing as economically as the private sector. - Ronald Reagan)
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