Skip to comments.Carol Anne Riddell and John Partilla: Affair Started (Adultery in Wedding Announcement)
Posted on 12/21/2010 11:16:52 AM PST by nickcarraway
Timing truly is everything and sometimes - when it comes to love - the timing is just, well, wrong.
Or is it?
A New York couple is causing quite a brouhaha after their wedding profile ran in the New York Times' Vows section this weekend. Why the controversy? The couple - a New York City television reporter and a high-powered ad executive - told the paper how their love blossomed while they were each married to someone else.
That's right. They were each in long-term marriages, and each have children. In fact, it was the children who brought them together, sort of. You see, Riddell and Partilla met at their kids' school. So, while the other mommies and daddies are having parent teacher conferences, it seems Riddell and Partilla may have been having a little, um, conference of their own.
The two - who, along with their spouses, were good friends before romance blossomed. That's right, the four of them had dinners together, attended parties and hit the road for family vacations, along with their children.
They insist that the relationship was platonic, at first, yet admit to being instantly struck by one another. Eventually, they decided to leave their respective spouses - and, in turn, their children - to become an official couple.
The buzz on the 'net is that she's an, um, selfish individual (hey, this is a family newspaper, I need to keep it clean), and he isn't seen as much better. But, they are in love and don't seem to care much what the public thinks - which is fair, they shouldn't.
What I wonder, though, is what their children think.
(Excerpt) Read more at sfgate.com ...
They even blame the kids for adultery.
“They are in love and don’t care what the public thinks...”
Use to be a time that adultery was considered a sin and just plain wrong. Use to be a time that a parent would guard their behavior because they knew their children learned from them. Old saying from my grandmother: “if he cheats on his wife with YOU then be prepared to have him cheat on YOU. I don’t predict a happy marriage for these two. Just a thought.
Had this happen to me once. Chemistry is a funny thing that way. He and I decided pretty quickly that we needed to stay as far away from each other as possible, which is what we did. Just not worth destroying two families.
Can they trust each other?
And there’s the rub. They both know that they married someone who cannot be trusted.
Exactly.... Once a cheater always a cheater
It isn’t love, it’s lust. And the glitter will tarnish.
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I’ve seen this in real life. We were friends with the newly married couple. Worst marriage I’ve ever seen.
We would get calls at all times of day or night with one of them frantically looking for the other one. And it was not long before the husband came over while I was at work to hit on my wife for two hours.
Really dysfunctional couple. We all saw, although they did not, that most of their supposed ‘love’ was really just the excitement and intrigue of the cheat.
Once they got married, they discovered that they really couldn’t stand each other.
The desire to have being more pleasurable than the having.
The man let the little head do the thinking for him, and she came in heat at the right time.
It’s Lust, won’t last long, maybe a couple of years, In the meantime there are their ex spouses who feel cheated, are lonely and left to raise the kids.Hope the child support puts a hurt on them.
Well put. When my first wife cheated on me all I had to ask myself was "Is it going to get harder or easier for her to do it again?"
I filed for divorce pretty soon after that.
I couldn’t find it. Who got custody of the kids?
Probably the whore.
Nope. Because when the pheromones & hormones are all stirred up, for about the first six months, it’s all new and exciting. Then, reality sets in, boredom sets in, the sudden realization that you’ve just traded one set of thorny problems for another set of problems - and there you go. - Then when the further reality of two humans living together under the same roof, smelling human smells, seeing varying human sights, hearing unflattering human sounds; then the flame of romance burns low and the heat of passion hits that seven-year itch. Then it’s time to move on again and blend more families and rationalize, rationalize.
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The story is presented as glamorous, dazzling, dynamo, etc, but all these adjectives can’t mask the sadness of the real story: two selfish parents put themselves before their families.
I knew a women in the small town I lived in whose husband had a fling with another woman, of course there was the divorce and he married his mistress.
I told a friend of mine that I felt bad for what I assumed was the first wife until she informed me that she was wife #2 after she was the mistress in his first marriage.......needless to say I did not feel bad for her anymore but I still felt bad for the kids.....
Some say that adultery is second only to murder in terms of social harm.
Kudos to you!! Attraction happens. Adultery doesn’t have to.
Kudos to you!! Attraction happens. Adultery doesn’t have to.
bet they go to the PTA meetings together ..
Maybe, but I would say that it’s actually worse in terms of social harm in that it leaves it’s victim alive and damaged, allowing the harm to spread.
I’m not saying that murder isn’t harmful, just that adultry is more harmful in the long run.
Murder is final. In theory the effects of adultery are not. I don’t really disagree as to your statements as to the long term effects of adultery. I myself think it is treated too lightly in contemporary thought and feeling. Indeed adultery often forms the basis of crimes of passion.
It’s not theory, you’re completely correct that murder is final while adultery is not. I likewise agree that adultery often forms the basis for crimes of passion, so in a way I could see adultery as a delayed form of murder.
All that aside, I completely agree that adultery is treated much too lightly by contemporary standards.