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Sex Is Cheap
Slate ^ | Feb. 25, 2011 | Mark Regnerus

Posted on 03/01/2011 4:34:44 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o

We keep hearing that young men are failing to adapt to contemporary life. Their financial prospects are impaired—earnings for 25- to 34-year-old men have fallen by 20 percent since 1971. Their college enrollment numbers trail women's: Only 43 percent of American undergraduates today are men. Last year, women made up the majority of the work force for the first time. And yet there is one area in which men are very much in charge: premarital heterosexual relationships.

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What many young men wish for—access to sex without too many complications or commitments—carries the day. If women were more fully in charge of how their relationships transpired, we'd be seeing, on average, more impressive wooing efforts, longer relationships, fewer premarital sexual partners, shorter cohabitations, and more marrying going on.

Instead, according to the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health (which collects data well into adulthood), none of these things is occurring. Not one...

To better understand what's going on, it's worth a crash course in "sexual economics"...

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Yes, sex is clearly cheap for men. Women's "erotic capital," as Catherine Hakim of the London School of Economics has dubbed it, ... can't assure her love and lifelong commitment. Not in this market. ...Michelle, a 20-year-old from Colorado, said ..."I had an ex-boyfriend of mine who said that, um, he didn't know if he was ever going to get married because, he said, there's always going to be someone better." [snip]

And yet while young men's failures in life are not penalizing them in the bedroom, their sexual success may, ironically, be hindering their drive to achieve in life. Don't forget your Freud: Civilization is built on blocked, redirected, and channeled sexual impulse, because men will work for sex. Today's young men, however, seldom have to.

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(Excerpt) Read more at slate.com ...


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1 posted on 03/01/2011 4:34:49 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Women hold all the cards. It’s all their fault.


2 posted on 03/01/2011 4:36:24 PM PST by Huck (Only 1,967 years until the Reign of Dr. Zaius!)
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To: Mrs. Don-o
penalizing them in the bedroom

snicker

3 posted on 03/01/2011 4:37:50 PM PST by Huck (Only 1,967 years until the Reign of Dr. Zaius!)
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To: Gamecock; Tax-chick; Scotswife; Chaguito; Sopater; grapeape

Your views?


4 posted on 03/01/2011 4:37:55 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o (Thanks in advance for your contribution to reality-based argument.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Nine children are pretty expensive.


5 posted on 03/01/2011 4:38:59 PM PST by Tax-chick (James is still hungry.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o
Law of unintended consequences I guess. I'm sure men will respond to another lecture about our shortcomings by shrill feminists lesbians though...
6 posted on 03/01/2011 4:38:59 PM PST by americanophile ("this absurd theology of an immoral Bedouin, is a rotting corpse which poisons our lives"-Ataturk)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Seems to be an influx of older women.


7 posted on 03/01/2011 4:39:37 PM PST by allmost
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To: Mrs. Don-o

My husband has long said women control half the money and all the, well, another word for a cat.....


8 posted on 03/01/2011 4:39:54 PM PST by trimom
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To: Mrs. Don-o
Only 43 percent of American undergraduates today are men.

And most colleges still give preferential treatment to female applicants.

9 posted on 03/01/2011 4:41:08 PM PST by CharacterCounts (November 4, 2008 - the day America drank the Kool-Aid)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Utter nonsense.

Times have changed. It is women who are the sexual predators nowdays. Young girls revel in their sexual conquests. sex is power to them. They have no desire to marry. They have no attachments to those they bed. Men are but useful objects to be molded and manipulated.


10 posted on 03/01/2011 4:41:08 PM PST by mamelukesabre (Si Vis Pacem Para Bellum (If you want peace prepare for war))
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To: Mrs. Don-o

If women were more fully in charge of how their relationships transpired, we’d be seeing, on average, more impressive wooing efforts, longer relationships, fewer premarital sexual partners, shorter cohabitations, and more marrying going on.

Women ARE in charge and that’s why things are as they are.

Disclaimer: I am not now and do not expect to be, in a
relationship at any time in the future. I have a dog.


11 posted on 03/01/2011 4:42:05 PM PST by tet68 ( " We would not die in that man's company, that fears his fellowship to die with us...." Henry V.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Milk, cow, free.


12 posted on 03/01/2011 4:42:59 PM PST by Travis McGee (www.EnemiesForeignAndDomestic.com)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Obama has failed the young especially young men.

Obama has also failed the minority communities especially blacks.

Obama has done nothing to create jobs for these sectors of American society.

Obama has done nothing to alleviate the burdensome and multiple kinds of taxes on these groups.

Obama and company like to play the class warfare game but they play it very badly indeed. They are like a one legged man in an ass kicking contest.


13 posted on 03/01/2011 4:44:14 PM PST by Ev Reeman
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To: Huck

I blame it on contraception. It drops the committment factor very rapidly towards zero. It’s the end of civilization. Already happening. You watch.


14 posted on 03/01/2011 4:44:31 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o (No, I'm not kidding.)
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To: Travis McGee

Exactly.


15 posted on 03/01/2011 4:45:40 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o (No, I'm not kidding.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

The world today teaches males at a young age that women have “options”, men have obligations.


16 posted on 03/01/2011 4:45:55 PM PST by Ouderkirk (Democrats...the party of Slavery, Segregation, Sodomy, and Sedition)
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To: trimom
My husband has long said women control half the money and all the, well, another word for a cat.....

Muffy?

17 posted on 03/01/2011 4:46:31 PM PST by Snardius
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To: Mrs. Don-o

I’ve always heard that women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex.


18 posted on 03/01/2011 4:48:10 PM PST by 1raider1
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To: Mrs. Don-o
."I had an ex-boyfriend of mine who said that, um, he didn't know if he was ever going to get married because, he said, there's always going to be someone better."

Let's see if he still says that when he's alone in his 50s.

19 posted on 03/01/2011 4:48:19 PM PST by dfwgator
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To: Snardius; trimom; Monkey Face; Darksheare
Fluffy.


20 posted on 03/01/2011 4:48:56 PM PST by Tax-chick (James is still hungry.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

They actually paid someone to write this? Does every left wing indiot think history started they day they were born? (rhetorical question)

It was no different when I was in high school and college in the late 70’s early 80’s.


21 posted on 03/01/2011 4:49:06 PM PST by Fledermaus (RINO'S no more! Defeat socialist in every party!)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Cheap women are like cheap beer, and I’ve never had a taste for either.


22 posted on 03/01/2011 4:49:33 PM PST by Mr Ramsbotham (Laws against sodomy are honored in the breech.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Don’t worry folks, there are a large number of young men who strongly desire to marry and have large families. They never have to worry about their wives leaving them, and they will have no problem in reorienting this culture to follow their lead, so that their values will be the values of this country.

Of course they pray to Allah, but no one is perfect


23 posted on 03/01/2011 4:49:45 PM PST by Lucius Cornelius Sulla (Colin Firth Rules!)
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24 posted on 03/01/2011 4:49:52 PM PST by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: 1raider1; Mrs. Don-o
I’ve always heard that women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex.

This common line displays a deprecatory perception of men.

25 posted on 03/01/2011 4:51:01 PM PST by Tax-chick (James is still hungry.)
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To: Ouderkirk
Yes, that's true, but in a peculiar way that after awhile defeats everybody.. Eventually, a woman with all the options gets everything except a man with a sense of obligation.

Why? Because men (very reasonably) say, "Why should I pay for her choices?" There's a logic there that's unanswerable.

26 posted on 03/01/2011 4:51:38 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o (No, I'm not kidding.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

There is no practical incentive to marry for men. It’s a stacked deck. Feminist harangue comes from all quarters, it’s even standard fare on FR of all places. For all but the religiously devout, there is no reason to close the deal at all. The penalties are not worse outside of marriage, they’re worse within, legally and monetarily.

Would you hitch your wagon to a competitive scold who would take half of everything you have and then some, who could more or less enslave you to pay for their support after taking off for any reason at all better than half the time, and who has an increasing propensity to ruin your reputation out of sheer spite by fictionalizing child sexual abuse charges in order to gain sole custody of any children?

No, you wouldn’t.


27 posted on 03/01/2011 4:52:10 PM PST by RegulatorCountry
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To: Mrs. Don-o

I guess that “horizontal” study of adolescents is in line with Zero’s belief that 26 year olds are adolescents not adults.

It seems to me that the boys are not becoming men; and the girls are not beoming ladies.

Maybe the “horizontal” study should be dubbed the “whorizontal” study.


28 posted on 03/01/2011 4:53:03 PM PST by MIchaelTArchangel (Obama makes me miss Jimmah Cahtah!)
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To: Tax-chick

Have you heard this one? If women knew what men were thinking, they’d never stop hitting them.


29 posted on 03/01/2011 4:56:08 PM PST by 1raider1
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To: Travis McGee

“Milk, cow, free.”

Nothing is free.


31 posted on 03/01/2011 4:56:53 PM PST by The Antiyuppie ("When small men cast long shadows, then it is very late in the day.")
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To: Fledermaus
Not quite. Thirty or 40 years ago males were still the majority in college and in the worksforce. Now women are a majority in both, and trending even further in that direction all the time.

What the article said, glancingly, in reference to Freud: if men don't have to commit to a wife and kinds, they don't have to commit to the future. Ther's no reason not to just drift along. And that's what more and more of them are doing. Peter Pans, Failed males.

32 posted on 03/01/2011 4:57:04 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o (No, I'm not kidding.)
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To: mamelukesabre
Times have changed. It is women who are the sexual predators nowdays. Young girls revel in their sexual conquests. sex is power to them. They have no desire to marry. They have no attachments to those they bed. Men are but useful objects to be molded and manipulated.

Though many here may disagree with you, I think you nailed it (no pun intended)

Men are but useful objects to be molded and manipulated

........and are ATM machines with an attachment.......I might add

I have been married for thirty years, same wonderful women and have many friends in their mid thirties who basically are completely used and manipulated by their girlfriends. My sons are all in their mid to late twenties and it astounds me how they let their girlfriends run their lives or are cut off.

I tell them all the time to grow a set and be a man

33 posted on 03/01/2011 4:57:06 PM PST by Popman (Obama. First Marxist to turn a five year Marxist plan into a 4 year administration.)
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To: 1raider1

I think that’s true of every human being about every other human being.


34 posted on 03/01/2011 5:01:05 PM PST by Tax-chick (James is still hungry.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

All the virtues are connected. Get rid of one, all the others trail after it, like knots on a rope.

Sexual immorality destroys character. And conversely, valuing and honoring even one virtue often helps one develop the other virtues. When people are educated about virtues, what they are, and why they are vital to human life. When people are educated and raised to be feral humanimals, then it is almost impossible for them to change, short of religious conversion.

(let me know how you’re doing when you get a chance...you’ll hear from me soon.)


35 posted on 03/01/2011 5:01:47 PM PST by little jeremiah (Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point. CSLewis)
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To: RegulatorCountry

Lot of truth there.


36 posted on 03/01/2011 5:02:43 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o (No, I'm not kidding.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

I don’t think that this is exactly an honest evaluation of what is going on. Specifically this makes it sound like every guy out there is getting his rocks off with any woman he chooses. In reality women still do control the door to heavens gate and don’t just let any tom, dick or harry through that gate.

Women have a strong desire to get the best man available and towards that end they are all going after the same top 10-20% of men. This means that the top 20% of guys are screwing their brains out with young nubile women while the other 80% are either going it solo (lots of video games and internet porn) or settling for the dogs the top 20% won’t even touch with a ten inch pole or the aging cougars that have spent their youth sluting it up with the top dogs and are now looking for some poor hard up schlep to take care of her, her children from another relationship and whatever STDs she might have picked up along the way.

Great deal if your in the top 20% sucks for the rest of them but this is the world that women have created. Thank God for all the social safety nets and outrageous child support payments that make all of this possible, otherwise there might be a return to some semblance of sanity.


37 posted on 03/01/2011 5:03:23 PM PST by trapped_in_LA
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To: Popman
same wonderful women

:^)

38 posted on 03/01/2011 5:07:12 PM PST by Navy Patriot (Sarah and the Conservatives will rock your world.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

On a related subject, on this news day of oil closing at $100, Beranke using his amazing prognostic talents to inform us that there may be temporary inflation (but don’t worry,he’ll monitor it for us), the Mideast flaming up and the continuing Wisconsin showdown, NBC lead with the WH releasing a report on pay inequality for women. Clearly, this is the pressing problem of our time.**

If there was ever such a blatant case of diversion, I’d like an example. I wonder if this Slate story and the WH press release was orchestrated.

The good news is NBC can’t paste WH press releases over the gas pump signs and store prices.

** You may wonder why I watch this ****. Well, I didn’t watch the entire thing, I was too angry. But it is important to know your enemy.


39 posted on 03/01/2011 5:08:25 PM PST by The Antiyuppie ("When small men cast long shadows, then it is very late in the day.")
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Anything other that a Godly life will not profit either sex. Choose your mates wisely.


40 posted on 03/01/2011 5:09:56 PM PST by ResponseAbility (Prepare for battle and never forsake the Lord...unknown)
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To: Popman
My sons are all in their mid to late twenties and it astounds me how they let their girlfriends run their lives or are cut off.

I tell them all the time to grow a set and be a man


They are your sons. Why didn't you raise them to be men? Did you let our current trash communist/feminist pop culture raise them, so that they got brainwashed into believing they were subordinate to women? Are you saying that all of your sons resisted your every firm effort to instill manliness in them, or were you the one that failed?
41 posted on 03/01/2011 5:11:21 PM PST by fr_freak
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To: trimom

Feline?


42 posted on 03/01/2011 5:14:08 PM PST by razorback-bert (Some days it's not worth chewing through the straps.)
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To: fr_freak
subordinate to women

Real men know that women are neither subordinate nor superior to men. They are one half of the whole.

43 posted on 03/01/2011 5:14:14 PM PST by LuvFreeRepublic (Support our military or leave. I will help you pack BO!)
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To: Travis McGee

Those were my dear mother’s words. She was very wise and I grew up with her wisdom.


44 posted on 03/01/2011 5:14:20 PM PST by savagesusie
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To: Mrs. Don-o

These boys should research the youth-bulge theory. Although they have it great with the easy sex, the chinese and Muslim men are far less fortunate, so if the youth-bulge theory is right, American males may end up paying for it with their lives in war.


45 posted on 03/01/2011 5:14:38 PM PST by Vision Thing (He has a white house, and he wants to paint it black.)
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To: little jeremiah

It’s worse than merely destroying character. It causes a person to disconnect from others. It devalues humanity. But there are worse evils in modern society that do a better job of that.


46 posted on 03/01/2011 5:18:24 PM PST by mamelukesabre (Si Vis Pacem Para Bellum (If you want peace prepare for war))
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To: dfwgator

If he’s in his 50’s, ugly as hell, but RICH, he’ll have his pick of the litter.


47 posted on 03/01/2011 5:18:47 PM PST by boop ("Let's just say they'll be satisfied with LESS"... Ming the Merciless)
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To: trapped_in_LA

Spot on analysis!


48 posted on 03/01/2011 5:25:01 PM PST by smaug6 (We can't afford to be innocent!! Stand up and face the enemy.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o
"I had an ex-boyfriend of mine who said that, um, he didn't know if he was ever going to get married because, he said, there's always going to be someone better."

There are a lot of available women around who are freely giving of their sexual favors -- but only to certain set of men who I'll refer to as the Alpha Males, the guys who women compete for. The "Mr Big" type from Sex and the City. Prince Charming.

For somebody in this set of males, it's a target-rich environment. You sleep with a woman until she starts bothering you about "commitment", and then you move on to a younger/hotter/tighter replacement. Women complain about this type as being "afraid of commitment", but the reality is that the guy has no need to commit to one women because he is a sought-after commodity (at least until he turns 40 or so)

Eventually a woman who's been chasing Prince Charming after Prince Charming gets tired of the "pump-n-dump" routine, generally as she approaches 30 and senses her market value starting to precipitously decline, and decides to settle for Mr Average.

There's a good article discussing the phenomenon SEXUAL UTOPIA IN POWER

49 posted on 03/01/2011 5:28:26 PM PST by PapaBear3625 ("It is only when we've lost everything, that we are free to do anything" -- Fight Club)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

American women now offer only sexual relations in exchange for a marriage contract. They will not cook, clean, sew, raise children, manage the house, or make life comfortable for the head-of-the-household, the husband. They are not interested in being good wives, just in receiving the benefits of such.

American men understand that American women no longer bring anything to marriage other than an offer of sex. They further have learned that this offer is bogus and will be repudiated shortly after the marriage contract has been executed. Plus young American men are readily able to obtain sexual gratification from young American woman, single and married, who are embracing the slut lifestyle.

So young American men increasingly view the institution of marriage as having no benefits and the huge liability of a better than 50% chance of divorce, in which case they will be the financial loser.

Given the above situation, is it any wonder that young American men now routinely avoid marriage?! It is a simple cost/benefit analysis which young American men are learning well.


50 posted on 03/01/2011 5:28:31 PM PST by DakotaGator (Weep for the lost Republic! And keep your powder dry!!)
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