Dealing with gay family member situation (vanity)

[AUJenn]

We have a close family member who decided a few years ago that she was gay. I say 'decided' because up until then, she had always dated men and was actually about to get married. It came as a huge shock to everyone and has taken a while to get used to. She has had the same partner since she announced her lifestyle change. It has been difficult for me and other family members to accept and get used to their living arrangements, lifestyle, etc, especially on holidays. But as time has gone on, I have accepted this is how she is going to live and there is nothing I can do about it. But I don't like it.

I have always been polite and cordial because I see no sense in being rude or hostile. And if I were hateful, it would just give conservatives/Christians a bad name IMO, and would add fuel to their fire. That being said....she has announced that she and her partner are having a baby. The partner is pregnant. This has really thrown us for a loop, as we never expected this to happen.

It so happens that I have a small child and am expecting again, so it really makes me think. I am completely against their doing this. But I have no idea how to publicly act or respond to this situation - especially at upcoming family holiday events. I don't feel like happily telling them 'congratulations!' or talking about baby things. I think about how this poor kid is going to feel about his/her parent situation, or how I'm going to explain to my children why this baby 'has two moms' and on and on.

If anyone has a gay family member or has been in a similar situation, I'd love to hear how you handle it. Thank you -

[manc]

not seen many posters before on this kind of thread, mmmmmmm

Who said we have to love family anyway.
I have a brother and a sister, ones is a junkie, prossie and convict the other is a drug dealer, layabout, welfare king and certainly a bad father.

I will not let my kids near them and I can’;t be bothered about them either.

As for these names on here I have not seen before , well it’s surprising.

[netmilsmom]

I always love scrolling down a thread and seeing your pearls of wisdom.

Merry Christmas, Dear Heart!

[little jeremiah]

I know, a number of names that are not familiar. Later when I have a chance I’ll check posting history.

I haven’t forgotten what I was going to send you - will freepmail you this afternoon.

[scripter]

The real bummer is nobody can fix stupid.

[madmaximus]

Can’t say I’m surprised.

[Lando Lincoln]

Merry Christmas AUJenn. May you find blessings where you least expect them.

[scripter]

Anytime you want to debate the facts on homosexuality, start a thread and ping me.

You won't, but thought I'd throw it out there so everybody can see it.

[Hot Tabasco]

How’s that tagline working out for you?

Obviously not as easy as Zen but it's working out pretty darn good.........thanks for asking homie!

[DJ MacWoW]

Jesus did NOT condone sexual immorality. He told them “Go. And sin no more”.

[scripter]

I know. Some freepers...

[redgolum]

Deal with the same way you do a couple living together without being married.

Love them, but let them know it is wrong.

[madmaximus]

Agree. Also, Jesus and Scripture said that He will turn family against family on issues like this. The Bible says to love God above others, including family.

[DJ MacWoW]

I'm finding some of the responses shocking. Stalin was right. America will fall from within because of her people.

America is like a healthy body and its resistance is threefold: its patriotism, its morality, and its spiritual life. If we can undermine these three areas, America will collapse from within. - Joseph Stalin

[Hot Tabasco]

and I don’t HAVE a gay family member.

I'm sure you're thanking God for that...........otherwise, what would YOU do? I can only imagine

[shelterguy]

“”You might want to rethink that. Those that push or condone homosexuality on FR are zotted. Homosexuality is a liberal “value” and NOT conservative.””

If free speech is not allowed here and if we are all supposed to think in a certain way without any individual thought then ZOT AWAY.

[trisham]

Thank you so much. :)

A Merry and Blessed Christmas to you and yours!

[madmaximus]

Matthew 10:35

[manc]

I agree with you again. No one should give up their views, their conservative views just because someone is now saying something. This is what homosexuals do, they go to church, they get your respect and then they tell you what they like sexually. They hope by doing this they will win over people because they hope people will say" well they are nice and I have known them for some time so maybe I have no problem" I remember one guy who went in the pub, he was a homo up in Boston I told him right away I do not approve, I will not change my mind and I do not and nor will ever go with their agenda" He was in a mood, etc but then understood that we all have our views , he's now normal and not a homo now, go figure.

[Hot Tabasco]

Jesus did NOT condone sexual immorality. He told them “Go. And sin no more”.

Is that to imply that He did not condemn them either?

[trisham]

This is beautiful:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcKrZzM3lt4&feature=related