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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do
LifeHack ^ | 11/13/2013 | Amy Morin

Posted on 12/12/2013 1:06:26 PM PST by iowamark

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.


TOPICS: Business/Economy; Education; Health/Medicine
KEYWORDS: mentallystrong
Forbes version: Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Avoid

Following the huge popularity of this post, article source Amy Morin has authored a Dec. 3 guest post on exercises to increase mental strength here. Cheryl Conner has also interviewed Amy Morin in a Forbes video chat that expands on this article here.

1 posted on 12/12/2013 1:06:26 PM PST by iowamark
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To: iowamark

They don’t read lists of what someone else thinks are the hallmarks of being a mentally strong person? ;-P


2 posted on 12/12/2013 1:12:08 PM PST by MortMan (We've gone from ‘failure is not an option’ to ‘failure is not an obstacle’.)
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To: iowamark

Most of those are on my list of why I don’t experience stress and enjoy my life. I don’t know if they make me strong, but they way simplify and enhance life.


3 posted on 12/12/2013 1:14:45 PM PST by discostu (This is Jack Burton in the Pork Chop Express, and I'm talkin' to whoever's listenin' out there.)
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To: MortMan

Chuckle.


4 posted on 12/12/2013 1:17:46 PM PST by ifinnegan
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To: MortMan

THey don’r really care whether they are seen by others as being “mentally strong”.


5 posted on 12/12/2013 1:18:17 PM PST by NEMDF
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To: iowamark; Revolting cat!; GeronL

These can be taken a number of different ways. If you distill it down, you realize that liberalism IS a mental disorder:

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Victimization is the Democrat calling card of Identity Politics. Get on the plantation or else be eaten by Republican wolves. “Put y’all back in chains!” “War on Women!” “Bedroom police!”...

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power
Socialism is slavery to the State.

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change
But my daddy’s daddy voted Democrat and it was good enough for them.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
“GLOBAL WARMING! ARRRRGHHHH!” “WHY are people still poor in this world?!!!” “Some nutjob just KILLED innocent people even though weapons were BANNED!!!”

5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
“But WHAT would the United Nations say about us?”

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
“Personal savings and retirement investments could leave people helpless in their old age. Let Uncle Sam manage your money.”

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past
“Did you HEAR what happened when people came to ‘America’? They stole land, raped, and plundered!!!”

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
“Ferrandcare, Kennedycare, Hillarycare, Obamacare...”, Jimmy Carter II, the re-election of Barack Obama...

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
“You didn’t build that!” “White priviledge.””The workers control the means of production.” “All property is theft.”

10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything
Bwahahahahahahaha.

13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
“World War II was won in just 4 years!”


6 posted on 12/12/2013 1:18:46 PM PST by a fool in paradise (America 2013 - STUCK ON STUPID)
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To: iowamark

Take the opposite of all those and you will have your average liberal.


7 posted on 12/12/2013 1:19:22 PM PST by Blood of Tyrants (From time to time the.tree of liberty must be watered with the blood of tyrants and patriots.)
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To: iowamark

I would never read a list of 13 anything.

Scares, depresses and nauseates me too much.


8 posted on 12/12/2013 1:19:33 PM PST by Fightin Whitey
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To: iowamark
9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

 

Liberals (Mentally ill people) on the other hand are very resentful of other people's success. And their wealth and riches. As a result, they try to tax and redistribute that wealth.

9 posted on 12/12/2013 1:23:44 PM PST by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: MortMan

Haha, they wouldn’t need to, true.


10 posted on 12/12/2013 1:24:03 PM PST by OldNewYork (Biden '13. Impeach now.)
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To: discostu
Some of them are possibly sly attempts at making the sheeple more passive.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control - You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

"Accept it, Obama won, you HAVE to pass his agenda."

"We GAVE 'capitalism' a chance, now it is time to move on."

"You cannot cling to religion and guns any longer. It divides people, leads to discrimination against alternative (yet natural) lifestyles, and causes grief for the victims of gun violence."

etc. etc.

If some distrated, inconsiderate road hog is texting while driving, veering from lane to lane, slowing down by 5-10 miles to avoid a collision, etc, I CAN take personal control of my own vehicle to get AROUND the yay-hoo. I can EVEN opt to drive on a different road.

And while I may not be able to "control" some union stooge from losing my luggage, I can opt to change carriers in the future. Also sometimes (but not always) squeaky wheel gets the grease. If you aren't so concerned by it, they may choose to ignore the problem altogether until it "goes away" (e.g., "not my problem..." "when does my shift end...").

Man CANNOT control the weather to great effect.

11 posted on 12/12/2013 1:25:46 PM PST by a fool in paradise (America 2013 - STUCK ON STUPID)
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To: Blood of Tyrants

I like the semantic implications of that piece...; )


12 posted on 12/12/2013 1:26:31 PM PST by jsanders2001
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To: iowamark

Can’t be liberal and “Mentally Strong”.


13 posted on 12/12/2013 1:26:47 PM PST by Uncle Miltie (I Love 0bamaCare! It proves government incompetence forever.)
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To: iowamark

They don’t write or pimp blogs.


14 posted on 12/12/2013 1:31:25 PM PST by humblegunner
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To: a fool in paradise

But that’s the line between wasting time and using time. If you’re stuck in a traffic jam now there’s nothing you can do about it, getting uptight won’t fix it; but you can control the next trip to avoid that congested area in the future, which you might not think to do if you’re too busing getting angry in the jam. It’s not about being passive, it’s about focusing energy where it matters, once you’re in a situation you can’t control ride it out and learn the lessons for when you resume control.


15 posted on 12/12/2013 1:43:22 PM PST by discostu (This is Jack Burton in the Pork Chop Express, and I'm talkin' to whoever's listenin' out there.)
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To: iowamark

Well, I’m a little over half... better get mentally stronger...


16 posted on 12/12/2013 1:45:39 PM PST by Thorliveshere (Minnesota Survivor)
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To: a fool in paradise

Good job with your reply.

As I went through the list, I came up with a similar line. Those who don’t do these positive actions/thoughts are probably liberals or mental ill.


17 posted on 12/12/2013 1:48:33 PM PST by Grampa Dave ( Obamacare, ItÂ’s a Wonderful Lie! Obamaganda is failing 24/7! Soon Obamaganda will fail 24/365!)
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To: MortMan
*smirk* ...should've been @ beginning of the 'list'

18 posted on 12/12/2013 2:10:41 PM PST by skinkinthegrass (The end move in politics is always to pick up a gun..0'Caligula / 0'Reid / 0'Pelosi :-)
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To: iowamark

The fact that I’m still alive says more about my mental strength than 13 of anything else.


19 posted on 12/12/2013 2:19:42 PM PST by real saxophonist (The revolution will not be televised. Everything else will.)
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To: iowamark

Thanks for the post.

I was unjustly fired last week and have been sitting here feeling sorry for myself and very angry.

Not saying it will continue but something to think about.


20 posted on 12/12/2013 2:24:16 PM PST by Hammerhead
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To: iowamark

They Know that they are Human too and are not perfect as this list would suggest.


21 posted on 12/12/2013 2:39:04 PM PST by AloisiusRevenge
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To: iowamark

Just a little nitpick with her terminology. I wouldn’t call it mental strength I would call it mental and emotional balance. People who do the things she lists are unbalanced and it is the strength of their minds that makes those negative patterns hard to break out of.


22 posted on 12/12/2013 2:40:55 PM PST by TigersEye (Stupid is a Progressive disease.)
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To: iowamark

Yet another “author” telling us all what to do and how to do it.


23 posted on 12/12/2013 2:41:04 PM PST by Jack Hammer
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To: Jack Hammer

16. They don’t vote for someone because of his color


24 posted on 12/12/2013 2:44:32 PM PST by spawn44 (MOO)
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To: Fightin Whitey
-- I would never read a list of 13 anything. --

Are you by chance triskaidekaphobic?

25 posted on 12/12/2013 2:49:27 PM PST by Cboldt
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To: iowamark

14) They don’t actually exist?


26 posted on 12/12/2013 2:49:31 PM PST by x
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To: iowamark

Good list


27 posted on 12/12/2013 2:51:11 PM PST by The Mayor (Honesty means never having to look over your shoulder.)
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To: iowamark

Good grief. No wonder things are such a mess. People used to be raised on this stuff as in the way people were supposed to be, not some distinction like “mental strength”. As if it were something special. (I figured this was the meaning of the term, “values”.)

It’s kinda sad that someone would write an article about this as if it were some kind of revelation.


28 posted on 12/12/2013 3:18:42 PM PST by KGeorge (Till we're together again, Gypsy girl. May 28, 1998- June 3, 2013)
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To: Hammerhead

“Thanks for the post.

I was unjustly fired last week and have been sitting here feeling sorry for myself and very angry.

Not saying it will continue but something to think about.”

Nothing wrong with that as long as you do get over it and move on. I’m experiencing the same emotions over a relationship. I’m praying about it and trying to remember, this too shall pass.

Part of the problem was me being mentally strong and her not being. I’m thinking I’m better off but it sure doesn’t feel that way right now.


29 posted on 12/12/2013 3:31:40 PM PST by saleman
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To: Hammerhead

Prayers up for you that you find a new job soon.


30 posted on 12/12/2013 3:32:41 PM PST by Bigg Red (He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength.--Is 40)
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To: iowamark
2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

This is why conservatives have repeatedly failed

31 posted on 12/12/2013 3:34:26 PM PST by ClaytonP
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To: iowamark

That is a great list. All true.


32 posted on 12/12/2013 3:42:01 PM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: Hammerhead

You’ve been grieving the loss, especially if it’s a job you’ve had for a long time. That’s not “feeling sorry for yourself.” That’s normal.


33 posted on 12/12/2013 3:43:54 PM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: a fool in paradise

Ah...you fail to grasp the third part of the “Serenity Prayer”: The wisdom to know the difference.


34 posted on 12/12/2013 3:47:11 PM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: Cyber Liberty

It’s also common sense, but in the heat of an unpleasant situation, level-headedness doesn’t always prevail. You have closed your door to toxic influences and married a wonderful partner. Your home is a haven of peace and love. You and she did build that, and you both know how blessed you are. I salute the sensible!


35 posted on 12/12/2013 3:54:32 PM PST by Silentgypsy (Mondays should be outlawed.)
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To: Silentgypsy

I guess that rules out my having an affair with you? (Miss Slippy is next to me laughing at what I wrote! We’re also very touched by what you wrote. Thank you very much, sister.)


36 posted on 12/12/2013 4:06:19 PM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: Cyber Liberty

My dear brutha from anotha Mutha, let Miss Slippy know that you’d be way too tired to have an affair after you helped me find my wig, my glass eye, my hearing aids, my prosthetic appendages, etc. Please give her a huge, gentle hug for me!


37 posted on 12/12/2013 5:17:04 PM PST by Silentgypsy (Mondays should be outlawed.)
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To: discostu

Ditto that..............


38 posted on 12/12/2013 5:22:33 PM PST by Osage Orange (I have strong feelings about gun control. If there's a gun around, I want to be controlling it.)
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To: Silentgypsy
my prosthetic appendages

Hey! Miss Slippy and I resemble that remark! We have prosthetic appendages too!

39 posted on 12/12/2013 5:43:19 PM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: iowamark

Bump!


40 posted on 12/12/2013 5:48:15 PM PST by Rides_A_Red_Horse (Why do you need a fire extinguisher when you can call the fire department?)
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To: iowamark

They don’t become social workers.


41 posted on 12/12/2013 5:49:33 PM PST by Half Vast Conspiracy (Proportionally, Ft. Hood is to Ft. Worth as Washington Navy Yard is to Arlington, VA.)
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To: saleman
I was unjustly fired last week and have been sitting here feeling sorry for myself and very angry.

Bummer. Frankly, I think it's fine to get really ticked off and feel really sorry for yourself -- I would, anyway. And I'd get over it in a day or two and move on. But sometimes a little "acting out" is healthy!!!! Indulge!!

42 posted on 12/12/2013 5:58:42 PM PST by Finny (Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. -- Psalm 119:105)
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To: iowamark

14. Maintain blogs.


43 posted on 12/12/2013 6:06:45 PM PST by CodeToad (When ignorance rules a person's decision they are resorting to superstition.)
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To: iowamark
14. They don't fall for every novel gimmick and fad that comes down the pike because it's "new" or "modern" - ie - they're not swayed or intimidated by people who throw point 3 - They Don’t Shy Away from Change - at them claiming they're "afraid of change" - they base their judgments on facts and substance.......
44 posted on 12/12/2013 9:17:20 PM PST by Intolerant in NJ
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To: Cyber Liberty

Ah, we are not only sibs, we are also part of the Brother-and-Sisterhood of Prosthetic Appendages. Breeding always tells!


45 posted on 12/13/2013 7:15:51 AM PST by Silentgypsy (Mondays should be outlawed.)
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To: Silentgypsy

Indeed.


46 posted on 12/13/2013 7:20:36 AM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: humblegunner

“They don’t write or pimp blogs.”

They don’t need to get a life.


47 posted on 12/13/2013 10:29:46 AM PST by Blue Collar Christian (Vote Democrat. Once you're OK with killing babies the rest is easy. <BCC><)
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