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Top 10 Turn-Offs for Women
LifeScript ^ | 01/12/2014 | Michelle Smith

Posted on 01/12/2014 11:15:50 AM PST by SeekAndFind

Have you considered turn-offs for women? Or do you tend to instantly like or dislike a man without knowing why? There was a time when women were predominately concerned with making themselves more appealing to the opposite sex. But now that many women prefer to choose instead of being chosen, their preferences demand attention. Here are 10 turn-offs for women of all ages and stages of their relationships.

1. Being Ignored
Being ignored is one of the main things that turn women off. From the first day of a relationship until death, most women expect their partners to be attentive. Most women judge how important they are to their partner, by how much attention they receive when expressing their concerns and opinions or when asking for advice.

When men act as though other things are more important or more interesting, or when they casually dismiss something that is important to a woman, they are setting the tone for a rocky, if not short, relationship. And when men engage in the common ploy of showing interest during the beginning stages of a relationship and allowing it to dwindle as the relationship progresses, they usually find that the woman’s attraction for him takes a similar dive.

2. The Wannabe Big Shot
Women are appalled by men who talk a big game knowing they do not have the means to follow through. Almost every woman has encountered the guy standing at the bar, bragging intentionally-loud so that everyone can hear him. Or even worse, the guy who picks you up in a rented BMW, pretending he is the owner.


Men often convince themselves that all women are after the guys with the biggest and the best of everything. This becomes a motive for those men to paint colorful and fictitious pictures of themselves. But in reality, women find this behavior disgusting, so instead of making themselves attractive, these guys become female turn-offs.

3. Self-Admiration
Some women get dinner and a movie. Other women get dinner and an earful of self-admiration when they go out on a date with a guy. Men who waste women’s time by inviting them on dates so they can spend the evening glorifying themselves are truly a bore.
A woman sitting across the table listening to her date gab about his university GPA, his honors, the sports he played, his stellar performance at work, and his new investment ideas is usually not impressed. She is probably bored to death and hoping never to be sentenced to another date with him.

4. Preoccupation with Sex
Whether it is a first date or a 10-year marriage, women do not want to feel as though sex is all that men want from them.

During the beginning of relationships, most women do not want to hear sexually explicit stories or comments and they do not care to discuss their past performances. This proves true even when women are dressed seductively and, ironically, even if they have had or are willing to have a one-night stand.

In long-term relationships, women don’t want men’s interest to be switched on when they are sexually aroused and switched off after intimacy occurs. Most women want to be caressed, fondled, complimented and otherwise shown affection and intimacy, even when their partners are not seeking sexual gratification.

5. Chauvinism
Despite what women accomplish and contribute to society, there are still men who act as if they are the superior sex. These men have many ways of displaying their attitude. Some, for example, have a belittling title for every woman. The cashier is little lady. The waitress is darling. And the bartender is sweet cheeks.

Other men belittle women’s efforts to perform what they believe to be male tasks. For example, a man may say “this little lady cop pulled me over and had the nerve to write me a ticket.” Whatever the chauvinist behavior, it never fails to be a turn-off for women.

6. Expecting the Woman to Take Care of the Kids
Some men have the misconception that motherhood is something that comes naturally and that women want to devote their lives to child-rearing. On the contrary, many women are as focused on their goals, careers, and social lives as men and they prefer to share family responsibilities.These women do not want to be left home feeding babies and changing diapers while their partners maintain their normal business and social lives. This is one of the female turn-offs that takes a serious toll on a relationship.


7. Paying too Much Attention to Other Women

Men who look at other women, who talk about the physical attributes of other women, or who are too flirtatious are not likely to appeal to women.

It does not matter whether the woman is on TV or lying on a beach virtually naked.

Women like men who are respectful enough to pretend they do not notice. Furthermore, when a man and woman go out and they can barely make their way through a bar or club without the man getting hugs, rubs, waves, and winks, the man is not likely to score points with his date.
8. The Not-So-Courteous Approach
Whistling, using slang, or grabbing a woman’s elbow to get her attention are a few of the many things that turn women off when they are approached by a man. Descent women expect men who are interested in them to approach them thoughtfully and respectfully. Women always prefer a gentleman.

9. Poor Grooming Habits
The appeal of sweaty athletes or grungy musicians proves the magic of television and glossy magazines. In real life, women are not generally attracted to wet bodies or the odors that accompany them. A jogger who runs into the convenience store for a sports drink and expects to get your phone number will probably get disappointed instead.

Beyond basic hygiene, many women are calling for more. Recently a radio talk show’s topic was the double standard of appearance.Most women who called in expressed displeasure and frustration at the fact that men want sleek, gorgeous women, yet they do not take care of themselves. Generally, men with pot bellies, dirty fingernails, and disheveled hair are turn-offs for women.

10. Bad Pick-Up Lines
A sense of humor can be a great thing— when a guy is actually funny. A good pickup line will leave a woman with a lasting impression. But more often, women are exposed to guys who try so hard that they are female turn-offs.

With many women, it is a one-shot deal. Lame pickup lines or bad jokes will erase any opportunity a man may have of getting a date. Other women may let a few bad jokes slide, but when men continue, a woman’s interest tends to diminish.

If your relationship is suffering and you don’t know why, consider these female turn-offs. If your partner is guilty of any of the above-mentioned turn-offs for women and you don’t know how to confront him, perhaps you should leave this article where he will see it.


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KEYWORDS: genderwars; top10; turnoffs; women
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1 posted on 01/12/2014 11:15:50 AM PST by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind
I'd offer a top ten turn offs for men but I don't want to be called a misogynist.
2 posted on 01/12/2014 11:17:38 AM PST by skeeter
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To: SeekAndFind

I scored 80%!


3 posted on 01/12/2014 11:19:32 AM PST by CrazyIvan (Obama phones= Bread and circuits.)
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To: SeekAndFind

RE: Bad Pick-Up Lines

“Did you just get hit in the head with a baseball? Because I think you’re swell!”

“Do you drive a Prius? Because up until now we’ve been pre-us.”

“Excuse me, do bras come in size perfect? Because I’d buy that for you. Seriously, what’s your cup size?”

“Our long term relationship starts (looks at watch)....now.”

“I feel like a Toyota because I couldn’t stop myself from accelerating over to you.”

“Hello, I’m bisexual. I’d like to BUY you a drink...and then get sexual.”

“Are you from Tennessee? Because...I’m very interested in that region.”

“Do you have an overdue library book? Cause you got fine written all over you.

“Are you from Tennessee? Because you look like former professional tennis player Steffi Graf, see?” (holds up mirror)

“Are you from Tennessee? Because I’d like to buy you a Hennessy.”

“Are you a musician vampire? Because my organ is filling up with blood.”

“Have you been eating a lot? Because I think you’re beautiFULL.”

“Are you from Alaska? Because Alaskya to french me.”

“Do you remember Mike Seaver’s best friend Boner on Growing Pains? Well, that’s also the name of my best friend. Would you like to meet him?”

“You remind me of Michael Jordan because I feel the need to double team you.”

“The only STD I have is sexually transmitted desire...for you.”


4 posted on 01/12/2014 11:19:39 AM PST by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind

Forgot one: small bank account.


5 posted on 01/12/2014 11:21:23 AM PST by Cowboy Bob (They are called "Liberals" because the word "parasite" was already taken.)
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To: SeekAndFind

I tired to read 1 thru 3 and 5 thru 10, but 4 kept distracting me.


6 posted on 01/12/2014 11:22:08 AM PST by WhistlingPastTheGraveyard (If you don't stand up, you don't stand a chance.)
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To: SeekAndFind

What women are they talking about? that’s certainly not my top 10 turn-offs. A few of them don’t bother me in the least. Top turn off—some feminist woman believing she speaks for all women and wimpy, prissy men.


7 posted on 01/12/2014 11:22:18 AM PST by Irenic (The pencil sharpener and Elmer's glue is put away-- we've lost the red wheel barrow)
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To: skeeter

11) When the women discovers you don’t own a gold or platinum card

12) When the woman discovers your car isn’t European


8 posted on 01/12/2014 11:23:20 AM PST by max americana (fired liberals in our company last election, and I laughed while they cried (true story))
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To: skeeter

LOL!!! I quickly read through this and this is for the women with designer bags...they want designer men I guess. They will never be happy happy happy!

Give me a Christian man that is smart and my list is complete! Got it actually!!


9 posted on 01/12/2014 11:24:23 AM PST by YouGoTexasGirl
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To: CrazyIvan

RE: BAD PICKUP LINES

My two favorite letters of the alphabet E Z.

I’m addicted to yes, and I’m allergic to no. So what’s it gonna be?

Hey, why go for the best when you can go for the rest?

Don’t be so picky.... I wasn’t!

Here is $30. Drink until I am really good looking, then come to talk to me.

Girl, you better have a license, cuz you are driving me crazy

Oh no, I can’t breath! I need mouth to mouth, quick!

I’m gay but you might just turn me straight.

Excuse me, I seem to have lost my phone number, can I please borrow yours?

I’m sorry, I’m an artist and it’s my job to stare at beautiful women!

What does it feel like to be the most beautiful girl in this room?


10 posted on 01/12/2014 11:25:13 AM PST by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind

Let’s call this the DUH List.


11 posted on 01/12/2014 11:27:42 AM PST by bboop (does not suffer fools gladly)
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To: skeeter

Aw, why not? The Authoress is obviously a misandrist.


12 posted on 01/12/2014 11:28:07 AM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: skeeter

WHY MEN ARE NEVER DEPRESSED:
Men Are Just Happier People —
What do you expect from such simple creatures?
Your last name stays put.
The garage is all yours.
Wedding plans take care of themselves.
Chocolate is just another snack...
You can be President.
You can never be pregnant.
You can wear a white T-shirt to a water park.
You can wear NO shirt to a water park.
Car mechanics tell you the truth.
The world is your urinal.
You never have to drive to another gas station restroom because this one is just too icky.
You don’t have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt.
Same work, more pay.
Wrinkles add character.
Wedding dress $5000. Tux rental-$100.
People never stare at your chest when you’re talking to them.
New shoes don’t cut, blister, or mangle your feet.
One mood all the time.
Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.
You know stuff about tanks.
A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase.
You can open all your own jars.
You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.
If someone forgets to invite you,
He or she can still be your friend.
Your underwear is $8.95 for a three-pack.
Three pairs of shoes are more than enough..
You almost never have strap problems in public.
You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes..
Everything on your face stays its original color.
The same hairstyle lasts for years, even decades.
You only have to shave your face and neck.
You can play with toys all your life.
One wallet and one pair of shoes — one color for all seasons.
You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look.
You can ‘do’ your nails with a pocket knife.
You have freedom of choice concerning growing a mustache.
You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives
On December 24 in 25 minutes.
___________________________________
Men Are Just Happier People
NICKNAMES
If Laura, Kate and Sarah go out for lunch, they will call each other Laura, Kate and Sarah. If Mike, Dave and John go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Bubba and Wildman.

EATING OUT
When the bill arrives, Mike, Dave and John will each throw in $20, even though it’s only for $32.50. None of them will have anything smaller and none will actually admit they want change back.
When the girls get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.

MONEY
A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.
A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn’t need but it’s on sale.

BATHROOMS
A man has six items in his bathroom: toothbrush and toothpaste, shaving cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel.
The average number of items in the typical woman’s bathroom is 337. A man would not be able to identify more than 20 of these items.

ARGUMENTS
A woman has the last word in any argument.
Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

FUTURE
A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

MARRIAGE
A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn’t.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change, but she does.

DRESSING UP
A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the trash, answer the phone, read a book, and get the mail.
A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.

NATURAL
Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
Women somehow deteriorate during the night.

OFFSPRING
Ah, children. A woman knows all about her children. She knows about dentist appointments and romances, best friends, favorite foods, secret fears and hopes and dreams.
A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
A married man should forget his mistakes. There’s no use in two people remembering the same thing!


13 posted on 01/12/2014 11:28:22 AM PST by gorush (History repeats itself because human nature is static)
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To: SeekAndFind

Holy crap, some of those are hilarious!


14 posted on 01/12/2014 11:28:29 AM PST by andyk (I have sworn...eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man.)
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To: SeekAndFind
Descent women expect men who are interested in them to approach them thoughtfully and respectfully.

I find women associate good spelling with the promise of success.

15 posted on 01/12/2014 11:28:38 AM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: SeekAndFind

You would have a hard time finding a needier, more self-centered, more demanding creature than the modern female. It would be much better if they concentrated on their careers 24/7 and left men alone. They will never be satisfied with a male who does not fit their requirements, never realizing that such a man would have a choice of many more desirable women than she.


16 posted on 01/12/2014 11:30:24 AM PST by txrefugee
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To: SeekAndFind

“Or even worse, the guy who picks you up in a rented BMW, pretending he is the owner.”

But if he OWNS the BMW, he’s good to go, right?

Of course right.


17 posted on 01/12/2014 11:30:30 AM PST by Jim Noble (When strong, avoid them. Attack their weaknesses. Emerge to their surprise.)
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To: SeekAndFind
Some men have the misconception that motherhood is something that comes naturally and that women want to devote their lives to child-rearing.

Stopped reading right there.

18 posted on 01/12/2014 11:30:54 AM PST by Future Snake Eater (CrossFit.com)
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To: SeekAndFind
Here is $30. Drink until I am really good looking, then come to talk to me.

I like that one. The problem is, the one time I considered it I required $40 worth of booze just to get to where she was worth the $30 investment, and even in a stupor I realized $70 was just too much of an investment.

19 posted on 01/12/2014 11:31:17 AM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: SeekAndFind
I don't know about turn offs but we certainly know what turns them on....MARXISM!!!


20 posted on 01/12/2014 11:34:12 AM PST by GrandJediMasterYoda (Hitlery: Incarnation of evil.)
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To: SeekAndFind
All of this holds true for most men. However, if you are truly wealthy, women will overlook any or all of these points.


21 posted on 01/12/2014 11:34:31 AM PST by SamAdams76
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To: Jim Noble

Well, Duh. Right. Some are holding out for a Bentley.


22 posted on 01/12/2014 11:34:35 AM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: SeekAndFind

This is BS. Ignoring them is the easiest pick up ever.


23 posted on 01/12/2014 11:37:42 AM PST by The Toll
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To: SeekAndFind
Rules like this but NO rules that apply to women?..."The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down."
24 posted on 01/12/2014 11:37:55 AM PST by virgil283 (When the sun spins, the cross appears, and the skies burn red)
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To: The Toll

RE: Ignoring them is the easiest pick up ever.

That happens to be #1 on the list.


25 posted on 01/12/2014 11:38:56 AM PST by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind
by how much attention they receive when ... asking for advice.
It's not advice they seek, it is listening to their approach, then obtaining an endorsement of it so they have somebody to blame if the path they've preselected doesn't turn out as they intend.
26 posted on 01/12/2014 11:39:15 AM PST by Cboldt
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To: SeekAndFind

Speaking as someone who has money now, its all about money.
The rest is all additions to the list once the know you have money.


27 posted on 01/12/2014 11:39:15 AM PST by Zathras
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To: SeekAndFind
gold digger photo: gold digger pi 39956_454515447753_291911707753_6303892_2076779_n.jpg

And if does all of the above but has a loaded bank account, she will say he has "character".

28 posted on 01/12/2014 11:41:14 AM PST by Snickering Hound
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To: SeekAndFind

Bad jokes.

How can one know what those would be without knowing the person and their values or sensibilities or sensitivities?

Many intelligent men tend to be sarcastic, some bitingly so. I appreciate the art form, but many, many do not.

Sarcasm is like an out of control power tool. One has no idea whether another person “gets” sarcasm until you know a fair amount about them. I find that women generally do not like sarcasm, because “getting it” means putting them into their intellectual heads when they naturally reside in their emotions. And there is generally a hidden hostility in sarcasm. No like. It is one thing for a woman, say, to be watching a John Stewart show where sarcasm and his sense of humor is expected. At a safe distance. Not so one on one with a newly-met person. So for women, they detect 1: hidden hostility, and 2: talking over them. Much like the effect of the “rented BMW” a person who is being told jokes, even if they are great ones, who does not get those jokes, begins to feel quite inferior to the teller.

Sarcasm IMO is a very bad strategy with newly-met people, of either sex.


29 posted on 01/12/2014 11:41:40 AM PST by Attention Surplus Disorder (At no time was the Obama administration aware of what the Obama administration was doing)
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To: SamAdams76
"All of this holds true for most men. However, if you are truly wealthy, women will overlook any or all of these points. "

Not this woman. I've seen women I know marry for security and end up miserable. I married for love 17 years ago. Wouldn't change a thing.

No matter how big the bank account might be, you have to go to bed with that guy at night.

30 posted on 01/12/2014 11:43:31 AM PST by CatherineofAragon ((Support Christian white males----the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization.))
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To: SeekAndFind
“Do you remember Mike Seaver’s best friend Boner on Growing Pains? Well, that’s also the name of my best friend. Would you like to meet him?”

Lol. I actually read through the entire list and selected the above as the best.

31 posted on 01/12/2014 11:43:42 AM PST by Zuben Elgenubi (NOPe to GOPe)
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To: SeekAndFind
A friend of my husband used this as his opening salvo...

What time does it get dark around here?

Sometimes it actually worked!

32 posted on 01/12/2014 11:44:43 AM PST by Churchillspirit (9/11/2001 and 9/11/2012: NEVER FORGET.)
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To: SeekAndFind

No wonder they’re single. They want a good girlfriend who has to shave. And who probably waxes his chest hair.


33 posted on 01/12/2014 11:45:26 AM PST by informavoracious (Root for Obamacare and healthcare.gov failure!)
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To: SeekAndFind
The Mistake

Her: Wear Yellow plaid shirts
Him: Ok dear

Her: Wear your hair that way
Him: Yes dear

Her: You need to drive that kind of car
Him: Ok, I can do that, dear

Her: Don't act that way around my friends and family
Him: Ok dear

Her: Stop drinking beer and drink wine
Him: Yes honey


Her: I'm leaving you!
Him: But why? I've done everything you've asked?
Her: You've changed!

34 posted on 01/12/2014 11:45:59 AM PST by MaxMax (Pay Attention and you'll be pissed off too! FIRE BOEHNER, NOW!)
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To: Cowboy Bob
small bank account

Small anything.

35 posted on 01/12/2014 11:46:37 AM PST by Fightin Whitey
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To: SeekAndFind
Descent women

IU do like do descend women sometimes when I'm not ascending them!

36 posted on 01/12/2014 11:48:20 AM PST by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong! Ice cream is delicious!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Seems to contradict other lists I’ve seen, where ignoring women makes them more desperate to have you than ever.


37 posted on 01/12/2014 11:52:41 AM PST by Viennacon
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To: SeekAndFind
gold digger photo: True Love lucky-fat-man.jpg
38 posted on 01/12/2014 11:52:46 AM PST by Snickering Hound
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To: SeekAndFind

Really I think most want to be a beard for a gay million. .A pretty boy that give her tons of money and never wants sex...


39 posted on 01/12/2014 11:54:58 AM PST by tophat9000 (Are we headed to a Cracker Slacker War?)
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To: CatherineofAragon

Refreshing to hear!


40 posted on 01/12/2014 11:55:14 AM PST by SamAdams76
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To: SeekAndFind

"Furthermore, when a man and woman go out and they can barely make their way through a bar or club without the man getting hugs, rubs, waves, and winks, the man is not likely to score points with his date."

I can't help that my charisma and animal magnetism are overwhelming to the ladies.

41 posted on 01/12/2014 11:58:24 AM PST by 2ndDivisionVet (Jealousy is when you count someone else's blessings instead of your own.)
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To: SeekAndFind
Here's another:

"Nice legs. What time do they open?"

42 posted on 01/12/2014 12:00:58 PM PST by Hoodat (Democrats - Opposing Equal Protection since 1828)
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To: GrandJediMasterYoda

Uh, I thought this was about DESIRABLE women.


43 posted on 01/12/2014 12:03:02 PM PST by ApplegateRanch (Love me, love my guns!©)
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To: gorush

A man is not complete, until he marries; then, he is finished ;)


44 posted on 01/12/2014 12:03:08 PM PST by jttpwalsh
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To: SeekAndFind

You know, for a fat girl, you sure don’t sweat much.


45 posted on 01/12/2014 12:06:22 PM PST by Octar
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To: SeekAndFind

not sure about the “darling”. like waitresses calling you “hon” darling could be a regional thing in the proper context.


46 posted on 01/12/2014 12:07:46 PM PST by bravo whiskey (We should not fear our government. Our government should fear us.)
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To: Cboldt

#26. It came as a revelation to me that they do t want to solve problems, just complain about them.


47 posted on 01/12/2014 12:08:30 PM PST by St_Thomas_Aquinas ( Isaiah 22:22, Matthew 16:19, Revelation 3:7)
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To: gorush

LOL


48 posted on 01/12/2014 12:10:04 PM PST by Boiler Plate ("Why be difficult, when with just a little more work, you can be impossible" Mom)
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To: SeekAndFind

Starting from the top of the list, it is part of the sexual biology of women that they “display” for males, in competition with other females, and men are supposed to pay attention to them, from which they can choose a suitor.

However, several things can go wrong with this process.

To start with, in adolescence, girls are compelled to display for boys, *in practice*, just to learn what gets their attention, without wanting to mate. They will often over-do with gaudy clothing and makeup, or worse, get in competition with other girls over how much skin they can expose. Today, the technology of camera-phones has led to the “selfie” in which girls can display to boys from the safety of distance; often with nudity.

Parents really need to get a handle on this.

Another way this can go really wrong is when girls have success with getting the attention of boys, and they become, for want of a better phrase, “attention whores”. They can become so indiscriminate in trying to get attention that they become *real* whores; or fall under the psychological domination of someone who acts like a pimp. It doesn’t matter if he is slapping her, or dancing with her, he is showing her attention, so in her mind, “he cares”, and feeds her addiction.

On the side of boys and men, they are also biologically compelled, as well as taught, to pay attention to the displays of girls; and to expect this to magically turn off once they are attached to a woman is expecting a lot. However, they can be *trained* to tone it down, and not to gawk at other women.

That is, when they are together, women are no longer supposed to display, and men are no longer supposed to gawk at the displays of other women.

Ideally, once men and women are in a relationship, they both get a handle on their impulses. From that point, they need to find a balance point of the amount of attention the man needs to regularly give her; and for her not to so directly associate attention with either affection or loyalty, which can be demonstrated in other ways.


49 posted on 01/12/2014 12:12:21 PM PST by yefragetuwrabrumuy (There Is Still A Very Hot War On Terror, Just Not On The MSM. Rantburg.com)
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To: SeekAndFind

Farting didn’t make the list?


50 posted on 01/12/2014 12:12:59 PM PST by IamConservative (The soul of my lifes journey is Liberty!)
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