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Top 10 Turn-Offs for Women
LifeScript ^ | 01/12/2014 | Michelle Smith

Posted on 01/12/2014 11:15:50 AM PST by SeekAndFind

Have you considered turn-offs for women? Or do you tend to instantly like or dislike a man without knowing why? There was a time when women were predominately concerned with making themselves more appealing to the opposite sex. But now that many women prefer to choose instead of being chosen, their preferences demand attention. Here are 10 turn-offs for women of all ages and stages of their relationships.

1. Being Ignored
Being ignored is one of the main things that turn women off. From the first day of a relationship until death, most women expect their partners to be attentive. Most women judge how important they are to their partner, by how much attention they receive when expressing their concerns and opinions or when asking for advice.

When men act as though other things are more important or more interesting, or when they casually dismiss something that is important to a woman, they are setting the tone for a rocky, if not short, relationship. And when men engage in the common ploy of showing interest during the beginning stages of a relationship and allowing it to dwindle as the relationship progresses, they usually find that the woman’s attraction for him takes a similar dive.

2. The Wannabe Big Shot
Women are appalled by men who talk a big game knowing they do not have the means to follow through. Almost every woman has encountered the guy standing at the bar, bragging intentionally-loud so that everyone can hear him. Or even worse, the guy who picks you up in a rented BMW, pretending he is the owner.


Men often convince themselves that all women are after the guys with the biggest and the best of everything. This becomes a motive for those men to paint colorful and fictitious pictures of themselves. But in reality, women find this behavior disgusting, so instead of making themselves attractive, these guys become female turn-offs.

3. Self-Admiration
Some women get dinner and a movie. Other women get dinner and an earful of self-admiration when they go out on a date with a guy. Men who waste women’s time by inviting them on dates so they can spend the evening glorifying themselves are truly a bore.
A woman sitting across the table listening to her date gab about his university GPA, his honors, the sports he played, his stellar performance at work, and his new investment ideas is usually not impressed. She is probably bored to death and hoping never to be sentenced to another date with him.

4. Preoccupation with Sex
Whether it is a first date or a 10-year marriage, women do not want to feel as though sex is all that men want from them.

During the beginning of relationships, most women do not want to hear sexually explicit stories or comments and they do not care to discuss their past performances. This proves true even when women are dressed seductively and, ironically, even if they have had or are willing to have a one-night stand.

In long-term relationships, women don’t want men’s interest to be switched on when they are sexually aroused and switched off after intimacy occurs. Most women want to be caressed, fondled, complimented and otherwise shown affection and intimacy, even when their partners are not seeking sexual gratification.

5. Chauvinism
Despite what women accomplish and contribute to society, there are still men who act as if they are the superior sex. These men have many ways of displaying their attitude. Some, for example, have a belittling title for every woman. The cashier is little lady. The waitress is darling. And the bartender is sweet cheeks.

Other men belittle women’s efforts to perform what they believe to be male tasks. For example, a man may say “this little lady cop pulled me over and had the nerve to write me a ticket.” Whatever the chauvinist behavior, it never fails to be a turn-off for women.

6. Expecting the Woman to Take Care of the Kids
Some men have the misconception that motherhood is something that comes naturally and that women want to devote their lives to child-rearing. On the contrary, many women are as focused on their goals, careers, and social lives as men and they prefer to share family responsibilities.These women do not want to be left home feeding babies and changing diapers while their partners maintain their normal business and social lives. This is one of the female turn-offs that takes a serious toll on a relationship.


7. Paying too Much Attention to Other Women

Men who look at other women, who talk about the physical attributes of other women, or who are too flirtatious are not likely to appeal to women.

It does not matter whether the woman is on TV or lying on a beach virtually naked.

Women like men who are respectful enough to pretend they do not notice. Furthermore, when a man and woman go out and they can barely make their way through a bar or club without the man getting hugs, rubs, waves, and winks, the man is not likely to score points with his date.
8. The Not-So-Courteous Approach
Whistling, using slang, or grabbing a woman’s elbow to get her attention are a few of the many things that turn women off when they are approached by a man. Descent women expect men who are interested in them to approach them thoughtfully and respectfully. Women always prefer a gentleman.

9. Poor Grooming Habits
The appeal of sweaty athletes or grungy musicians proves the magic of television and glossy magazines. In real life, women are not generally attracted to wet bodies or the odors that accompany them. A jogger who runs into the convenience store for a sports drink and expects to get your phone number will probably get disappointed instead.

Beyond basic hygiene, many women are calling for more. Recently a radio talk show’s topic was the double standard of appearance.Most women who called in expressed displeasure and frustration at the fact that men want sleek, gorgeous women, yet they do not take care of themselves. Generally, men with pot bellies, dirty fingernails, and disheveled hair are turn-offs for women.

10. Bad Pick-Up Lines
A sense of humor can be a great thing— when a guy is actually funny. A good pickup line will leave a woman with a lasting impression. But more often, women are exposed to guys who try so hard that they are female turn-offs.

With many women, it is a one-shot deal. Lame pickup lines or bad jokes will erase any opportunity a man may have of getting a date. Other women may let a few bad jokes slide, but when men continue, a woman’s interest tends to diminish.

If your relationship is suffering and you don’t know why, consider these female turn-offs. If your partner is guilty of any of the above-mentioned turn-offs for women and you don’t know how to confront him, perhaps you should leave this article where he will see it.


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To: SeekAndFind
All of this holds true for most men. However, if you are truly wealthy, women will overlook any or all of these points.


21 posted on 01/12/2014 11:34:31 AM PST by SamAdams76
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To: Jim Noble

Well, Duh. Right. Some are holding out for a Bentley.


22 posted on 01/12/2014 11:34:35 AM PST by Cyber Liberty (H.L. Mencken: "The urge to save humanity is almost always a false front for the urge to rule.")
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To: SeekAndFind

This is BS. Ignoring them is the easiest pick up ever.


23 posted on 01/12/2014 11:37:42 AM PST by The Toll
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To: SeekAndFind
Rules like this but NO rules that apply to women?..."The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down."
24 posted on 01/12/2014 11:37:55 AM PST by virgil283 (When the sun spins, the cross appears, and the skies burn red)
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To: The Toll

RE: Ignoring them is the easiest pick up ever.

That happens to be #1 on the list.


25 posted on 01/12/2014 11:38:56 AM PST by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind
by how much attention they receive when ... asking for advice.
It's not advice they seek, it is listening to their approach, then obtaining an endorsement of it so they have somebody to blame if the path they've preselected doesn't turn out as they intend.
26 posted on 01/12/2014 11:39:15 AM PST by Cboldt
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To: SeekAndFind

Speaking as someone who has money now, its all about money.
The rest is all additions to the list once the know you have money.


27 posted on 01/12/2014 11:39:15 AM PST by Zathras
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To: SeekAndFind
gold digger photo: gold digger pi 39956_454515447753_291911707753_6303892_2076779_n.jpg

And if does all of the above but has a loaded bank account, she will say he has "character".

28 posted on 01/12/2014 11:41:14 AM PST by Snickering Hound
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To: SeekAndFind

Bad jokes.

How can one know what those would be without knowing the person and their values or sensibilities or sensitivities?

Many intelligent men tend to be sarcastic, some bitingly so. I appreciate the art form, but many, many do not.

Sarcasm is like an out of control power tool. One has no idea whether another person “gets” sarcasm until you know a fair amount about them. I find that women generally do not like sarcasm, because “getting it” means putting them into their intellectual heads when they naturally reside in their emotions. And there is generally a hidden hostility in sarcasm. No like. It is one thing for a woman, say, to be watching a John Stewart show where sarcasm and his sense of humor is expected. At a safe distance. Not so one on one with a newly-met person. So for women, they detect 1: hidden hostility, and 2: talking over them. Much like the effect of the “rented BMW” a person who is being told jokes, even if they are great ones, who does not get those jokes, begins to feel quite inferior to the teller.

Sarcasm IMO is a very bad strategy with newly-met people, of either sex.


29 posted on 01/12/2014 11:41:40 AM PST by Attention Surplus Disorder (At no time was the Obama administration aware of what the Obama administration was doing)
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To: SamAdams76
"All of this holds true for most men. However, if you are truly wealthy, women will overlook any or all of these points. "

Not this woman. I've seen women I know marry for security and end up miserable. I married for love 17 years ago. Wouldn't change a thing.

No matter how big the bank account might be, you have to go to bed with that guy at night.

30 posted on 01/12/2014 11:43:31 AM PST by CatherineofAragon ((Support Christian white males----the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization.))
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To: SeekAndFind
“Do you remember Mike Seaver’s best friend Boner on Growing Pains? Well, that’s also the name of my best friend. Would you like to meet him?”

Lol. I actually read through the entire list and selected the above as the best.

31 posted on 01/12/2014 11:43:42 AM PST by Zuben Elgenubi (NOPe to GOPe)
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To: SeekAndFind
A friend of my husband used this as his opening salvo...

What time does it get dark around here?

Sometimes it actually worked!

32 posted on 01/12/2014 11:44:43 AM PST by Churchillspirit (9/11/2001 and 9/11/2012: NEVER FORGET.)
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To: SeekAndFind

No wonder they’re single. They want a good girlfriend who has to shave. And who probably waxes his chest hair.


33 posted on 01/12/2014 11:45:26 AM PST by informavoracious (Root for Obamacare and healthcare.gov failure!)
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To: SeekAndFind
The Mistake

Her: Wear Yellow plaid shirts
Him: Ok dear

Her: Wear your hair that way
Him: Yes dear

Her: You need to drive that kind of car
Him: Ok, I can do that, dear

Her: Don't act that way around my friends and family
Him: Ok dear

Her: Stop drinking beer and drink wine
Him: Yes honey


Her: I'm leaving you!
Him: But why? I've done everything you've asked?
Her: You've changed!

34 posted on 01/12/2014 11:45:59 AM PST by MaxMax (Pay Attention and you'll be pissed off too! FIRE BOEHNER, NOW!)
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To: Cowboy Bob
small bank account

Small anything.

35 posted on 01/12/2014 11:46:37 AM PST by Fightin Whitey
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To: SeekAndFind
Descent women

IU do like do descend women sometimes when I'm not ascending them!

36 posted on 01/12/2014 11:48:20 AM PST by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong! Ice cream is delicious!)
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To: SeekAndFind

Seems to contradict other lists I’ve seen, where ignoring women makes them more desperate to have you than ever.


37 posted on 01/12/2014 11:52:41 AM PST by Viennacon
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To: SeekAndFind
gold digger photo: True Love lucky-fat-man.jpg
38 posted on 01/12/2014 11:52:46 AM PST by Snickering Hound
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To: SeekAndFind

Really I think most want to be a beard for a gay million. .A pretty boy that give her tons of money and never wants sex...


39 posted on 01/12/2014 11:54:58 AM PST by tophat9000 (Are we headed to a Cracker Slacker War?)
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To: CatherineofAragon

Refreshing to hear!


40 posted on 01/12/2014 11:55:14 AM PST by SamAdams76
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