Skip to comments.Dying Dad Walks 11-Year-Old Daughter Down 'Aisle' in Heartbreaking Ceremony
Posted on 04/02/2014 2:40:27 PM PDT by Borges
It was a day shell never forget.
An 11-year-old girl from California walked down the aisle with her dying dad in a tear-jerking ceremony that pronounced the pair daddy and daughter.
It was not easy to do, let me tell you, but I wouldnt change it for the world, said Jim Zetz, 62, who has stage-4 pancreatic cancer and is expected to live only a few more months.
In twenty years, when she really gets married, shes going to be happy that happened," he said.
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What a poignant story.
I feel very badly for the 11 year old.....HOWEVER what does one expect when having a Child at 52 or 53??? Good grief!! And is this a harbinger......oh never mind.
Oh my...how do I keep tears from falling after reading this? This is absolutely gut wrenching yet beautiful! Thanks for posting...God Bless this family.
“HOWEVER what does one expect when having a Child at 52 or 53???”
A blessing from God?
That’s unfortunate. These days parents can die at any age with cancer.
of COURSE a blessing, however not PRIME parenting age!!
Even super strong men will cry at this one...
I count myself lucky as a 62 YO, to “only” be battling prostate cancer (twice).
Our 65 YO neighbor, female, diagnosed with pancreatic cancer over two years ago is doing relatively well. Most of us though she would be gone by now.
Pancreatic cancer is one of the worst. My mom told us about her’s just after Labor Day one year, by Oct 14 she was gone. Afterwords we found out that it is usually triggered by diabetes. So, if you know anyone with diabetes tell them to get checked regularly. At that time there weren’t many treatments but some have come on line since then.
God bless that wonderful family...
“...HOWEVER what does one expect when having a Child at 52 or 53???”
I’d definitely recommend have kids earlier. I’m 55 and my son will be 4 in 2 months. I have no idea if I’ll be at his High School graduation. Kinda’ sucks.
I agree with your amazement that someone would do such a thing. The photo shows someone who looks like her grandfather, not her father.
Some people just don't think ahead.
Hats off to you.I thought I was old with kids.I hope you make it my FRiend.
Tears in my eyes.So very sad.
My father-in-law married at 45 and had eight.
Dang, I shouldn't have gone down that memory lane...
My good friend is 45...she has a boy 7...and two others under 16.
She loves them and cares for them....as only a mom can do.
Life is precious. Agreed.
Life and death are givens.
57 with an 11year old daughter. My guess is he wasn’t gonna walk her down the aisle anyway. Maybe a wheelchair.
I feel bad for the guy. But I am 53 and the thought of having an 11 year old around is just depressing.
So if a married couple conceive a child when the father is 50 or even 60, what do you suggest? An abortion? Oh, but surely not—your tag line indicates that you agree with the rest of us that abortion is evil. Are you advocating that married people who are over a certain age abstain from sex forever?
If God didn’t want that little girl to exist, He wouldn’t have created her. It may not be wise to second-guess the Author of the Universe.
Really? I had a 12-year-old when I was 53 and it was a joy. My kids have kept me young and energetic.
These things happen, and when they do, they are a gift from God.
only girls/women know how important a father is, he gave her life and will love her until his last breath and she will know that..
No, they don't have to abstain from sex. Do you need someone to tell you why they don't?
Gee, do you think his stage 4 pancreatic cancer might have something to do with that?
1. There are a lot of people in this country who are Roman Catholic and don’t believe in artificial birth control.
2. Even with birth control, accidents happen. There’s no such thing as fail-safe birth control; even the Pill has a 1% failure rate, and one percent of all the millions of women on the Pill represents a lot of babies.
I repeat, a child is a gift from God. Doesn’t look to me as though this father is sorry he had his daughter or as though she is sorry she’s alive. Neither of my children is sorry that their father and I had them when Dad was in his fifties.
This may come as a surprise to you but lots of 62-year-old men look that old.
First off, I am positive that many, many Roman Catholics do use artificial birth control. And as for your statement on failures, sure, they happen but I don't think that's a problem with men and women "of a certain age" (your words).
Oh yeah, there are fail-safe means of avoiding pregnancy. They are known as vasectomies (in men...maybe you've heard about them) and "tube-tying" (I don't recall the exact medical term) in women. 100 percent fail-safe.
I am familiar with those procedures, which are forbidden to believing Catholics. Not everyone takes his faith lightly or supposes that the rules don’t apply to him.
The point is, not everyone thinks that a child who is conceived when the father is 50 is sorry about it. Some of us consider it a great joy and blessing.
What difference does it make to you, that these people had a child when Dad was in his fifties? Apparently neither the father nor the daughter regrets her life. In eleven years she will have more time with her father than millions of young girls will have.
My sister in law and my Aunt both died of pancreatic cancer, it’s a horrible and painful way to die. My heart goes out to this young lady and her father.
Gotta agree with you. Every child is precious but it is a bit selfish to have a child at an age when you know you won’t be there for the child later.
...HOWEVER what does one expect when having a Child at 52 or 53???
“Id definitely recommend have kids earlier. Im 55 and my son will be 4 in 2 months. I have no idea if Ill be at his High School graduation. Kinda sucks.”
May God give you many years, not only to see your son graduate but also to see your grandchildren!
As you know Abraham was 99 when Isaac was conceived. I don’t think it is ever a mistake when a child is born as God for knew that little girl before the foundation of time!
I had 2 at age 66 (by adoption), they had lived with us since age 8 & 9 (bro and sis) age 12 and 13 by the time we adopted them. I'm pushing 69 and in good health, I'd like to live long enough to see their children - God willing.
The picture posted of the little girl and her father is heart breaking.
My husband and I had our son when he was 53. He is now 73 and still going strong. In fact, until our son went off to Marine boot camp Dad could still out wrestle his then-19-year-old boy. People live into their nineties now. Not everyone has the blessing of getting married and having kids early, and when God kindly starts the life of a child when you are older, you should regard it as a gift, not a depressing nuisance.
The suggestion that people are selfish for bringing a beloved child into the world just because they might not be alive twenty years later favors the sterile mentality that drives the Left. It's this mentality ("I don't want to have children unless every condition is going to be perfect for them, and if it's not, I'll sterilize myself or abort or contracept so that things go my way") that is the really selfish view.
Couldn’t have said it better myself. I got sick reading some of the comments.
My own father died when he was 38. I was 16, and my brothers 13 and 7. I can point out any number of friends and acquaintances who lost their parents at young ages. Life is a crap shoot. I am 41 and healthy today, but I could be struck dead tomorrow. Shouldn’t have had those kids—they could end up without a mom!
My youngest is 6 and has autism. Although his prognosis is good, we have no way of knowing if he will live on his own or what his life will be like. Better to kill him now and relive my other three kids of the ‘burden’ they might face later on.
See where this mentality goes?
I also have a first cousin who is younger than my oldest child. My aunt (who had a 19 year old son from a previous marriage) thought her child-bearing days were over. She (who was 41 at the time) and her 50-year-old husband found out they were expecting a baby a few months after my daughter was born. My uncle is in his mid-60s now and is healthier than most guys 20 years younger.
Don’t know nor do I care about the whys and hows...all I see is lotsa love in that photo...
“Heartbreaking”? Maybe, but I see 11 years of joy, love and laughter rolled into one poignant and intimate moment shared by a dad and his little girl...
May God bless them both as only He can.
Do you see anything selfish about having a child later in life?
There is a difference between the guy who is 55 and his wife is 44 and she has a late pregnancy, and the guy who at age 65 says: "I've spent my whole life partying and now I have no heir, no legacy! I need a cocktail waitress and prenup, stat!"
There is also the guy who legitimately does not meet a compatible person until he is older.
” People live into their nineties now.”
Not really. The average age has been going down with the baby boomers. People always have lived into their 90’s, that is nothing new. I will stand that it is selfish to treat children as something you want and not consider the child’s needs later in life. Birth defects of late pregnancies are also as they were, very high. Placing children at risk for defects because you suddenly find you want a child is again selfish.
My mom was 42, my dad 53 when I was born. My siblings were 20, 18, and 13. I was not a planned baby and I was blessed to have two wonderful parents who decided my life was more important than the sacrifices they would have to make to raise me. They did everything to make my life happy and vibrant. My dad died when I was 22 and my mom lived to 83, I was her caretaker and can not tell you how many times she called me her blessing.
May he smile in heaven when she gets married for real.
Nice post and I agree with you totally.
Wow. So happy to be here. My daddy was 53 when I was born. I was so blessed to have him for 20 years. He was a WWII veteran, a child of the Depression, a later in life Christian. He was an entrepreneur. He was a missionary. He was a pharmacist without ever stepping foot in college. He graduated from high school two years early. He worked until a few weeks before cancer took him. I think he would have said the same thing about men having children later in life, but my mother wanted children. So here I am. And so very blessed. Thank you for the reminder. :)
It doesn’t look to me as though this little girl has a birth defect. Or as if she was conceived as some sort of whim. Or as though she wishes she was never born because she’s losing her father at 11.
Life is precious. Children are a gift from God. If God allowed her to be born, He wanted her on this earth, whether she has a father or not, even if you think she and my children should never have been born. Take it up with God: He started her.
One of the consequences of the “choice” ideology is that many people believe they have the right to pass judgment on the worth of someone else’s life ... and the presumption is always against life - someone else’s life, of course - not for it.