Posted on 09/08/2019 5:54:09 AM PDT by rickmichaels
Edited on 09/08/2019 6:04:34 AM PDT by Admin Moderator. [history]
I knew a woman who was married to a professional man. He worked hard, long hours, was always inventive, creative. He was a dedicated father; she demanded it, for sure, but even beyond that, he was all in and was an extremely active dad. She didn’t like to cook, didn’t think it was her job, so he learned how. She didn’t like to tidy up, and he was no Mr. Clean, but he gave it a go. She wanted him to be compliant, yet resilient, and he tried to be all of the things she wanted. He even pretty well achieved it. He’d come so far that he sent us all a poem about how to appease the women in his house, who wanted him to leave the toilet seat down, he learned to pee sitting down. What a mensch! Only, in the end, she tired of his acquiescence and left him for a belligerent roofer 10 years her junior.
The New York Post took aim yesterday at a study called “Mismatches in the Marriage Market” in the Journal of Marriage and Family, that explains that women often don’t marry because there is a dearth of marriageable men. Apparently, the definition of marriageable is “makes 58% more money than any of the dudes available right now.” The “patriarchy” used to keep men and women in their places, and now that women are achieving at higher rates than men, it’s still the “patriarchy” that is keeping everyone from being happy.
In the old system, women went to college to find husbands or got jobs as receptionists at law offices to marry an esquire before quitting the job market to take on the dual roles of housewife and mother. This imbalance in earnings and status was deemed to be just no good for the female half of the species, who ended up poorly educated, often jilted in middle-age, and back in the workforce without even a pretty face to get by.
Plus, men were not great. They lacked emotion, they were too focused on careers, ambition, status, fulfilling the role of provider. The patriarchy had done these dudes a bad turn, had made them so concerned with achieving the masculine ideal that they didn’t measure up to what their women wanted or needed. And women were stuck with the status quo.
A big push was made for women to go get more from life, husbands, love, family, all that stuff paled in comparison to what was achievable if women buckled down, hit the books, and entered the capitalist machine as worker bees eager for their own honey. Great, why not? Go get it, girl.
And they did get it. Under equity feminism, more women have college degrees than ever before, more women are successful in their fields, yet more women are unable to find suitable matches because men, it turns out, just can’t measure up to women’s expectations. Again.
If you’re one of the single ladies out there, this will not be a surprise. I cannot count how many intelligent, independent, attractive, [bleep] women I know who can’t find a guy they want to spend more than one night with, and even that is a stretch.
For a while, women were complaining that guys were afraid of commitment, that women couldn’t find a man who wanted a real relationship, babies, the works. But somewhere along the line, when the college degrees were awarded in greater quantity to the fairer sex, ladies began to have a different complaint. I started to hear friends carp about guys who wanted more than a hook-up, guys who wanted their time and attention when not rolling in hay as well. Why, just last night, a good friend, independent, hot, confident, all of that, told me she had to cut a guy loose because he was texting her asking how her day went instead of simply reaching out to find a suitable time for sex.
Is it any wonder that women out there who want to get hitched can’t find anyone suitable to hitch their wagon to? Guys have been overtaken by female accomplishments (kudos, ladies), and still have no idea what women want. A hookup? A commitment? A high earner? A hard worker? A partner? A housewife?
Women didn’t like how men were, so they demanded they change. Men changed, and now that they have, women don’t like what they’ve changed into. Women want soft, emotional, high achieving, career focused tough guys who don’t get angry, remember anniversaries, bring flowers, and can splurge on expensive meals and trips, without working all weekend, and still make it to little Johnny’s ballet recitals.
Contemporary woke feminism doesn’t care about equality. It demands that men strip themselves of their toxic masculinity, their desire to compete and achieve, to become more stereotypically femme, so that women don’t have to do all the emotional heavy lifting. Okay. But on the other hand, women want men to be high-achieving, breadwinning earners, who are professionally successful, and, if Tinder is any indication, taller than them as well.
The only problem is that these toxic characteristics are essential for success in the marketplace. When men let them go, all those things that these traits facilitated fall by the wayside as well. Men are emasculated for not achieving just as they are demeaned for those attributes that enable achievement. Wtf, yo?
Why not just let men be men with all of their bumbling, masculine, competitive energy? The truth is that most women want the opposite of a woke Gillette ad. They want high-achieving, strong men to be partners with. Even if they don’t know that they want that, or don’t want to admit to it, reality reveals they sure as hell do. Otherwise, no intelligent woman who got her man to do everything she claimed she wanted, including coming up with an ingenious way to make sure the toilet seat was permanently in her preferred position, would leave him for someone who promised nothing but stereotypical masculinity.
But it just emboldened them to demand more.
It's like the guy who is polite to the person behind him exiting the building. He holds the door open. But there's such a rush of people that it becomes his job. He's the door holder.
That's the American white male. He's accepted his position as door holder and door mat and every freeloader in the country expects it.
TV is like having a 42 inch diagonal sewer pipe into your brain.
And I always say “cell phones are the best invention ever, and the worst invention ever.”
“Neither of us is demanding, she even puts up with me throwing my dirty underwear into the wicker storage box next to the hamper. “
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Omgosh. Your comment about the dirty underwear almost had me LOLing.
I put a hamper in the Master Bedroom where my beloved dropped his clothing. He then throws the dirty clothing in the washroom on the floor. The washroom is actually just a few steps across from the Master Bedroom, so I cut him slack.
After I move the hamper from the Master Bedroom to the washroom and place it on the *exact spot* he drops his dirty clothing... you guessed it correctly; he starts dropping the clothing in the previous spot in the Master Bedroom.
Augh!
So I kept the laundry basket (his clothing only, is supposed to be in it) in the laundry room and pick up his clothing in the Master Bedroom.
He then tells me he’ll move it to the laundry basket after each shower. Does it happen, no.
So I still pick it up and move it a total of maybe 12-15 feet to the laundry basket in the laundry room.
Amazing. Simply amazing.
We’ve been married for a bit over 30 years. There are indeed worse habits, so I tell myself to be grateful!
LOL
Being to “nice” especially with women is always a mistake.
Just be yourself at all times. If they like you great otherwise lots of fish in the sea.
This fits the old saying that the only thing worse than not getting what you want, is getting what you want.
The 19th amendment was the final nail in the coffin.
The reason for marriage is sex, and the reason for sex is children.
So men need to bring wealth and personal virtue to the table, and women need to be and stay personally virtuous, and to want to have and raise children.
Today these are surprisingly radical ideas.
Smart people think that sex should only be after marriage, and not outside of wedding vows; and likewise, they want a partner who feels the same. This makes sense, because there is not an unlimited amount of energy for procreation, and it can be depleted in sex for pleasure, along with other problems.
But, for either men or women, having lots of sex partners somewhat ruins their chance for marriage. What a radical idea.
In the old days, women had husbands and ALSO had girlfriends. (Guys likewise had wives and also had buddies.) Among the problems we have with our atomized society is that you want your spouse to be your sexual partner, co-parent, and (only) friend. Plus, with all the lesbians and homosexuals out there, it’s not safe to have same-sex friends anymore.
Exactly. The overt and subliminal cultural Marxist toxicity level in American TV shows is off the charts - you'll have a whole different attitude toward life if you never watch even one of them.
“” and a wife who did the same, even calling him “Mr. Wiggins”, rather than by his first name””
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It’s not so weird. LOL
We have a friendship with a young women who since she was a small girl was taught to address us by Mr or Mrs. Why? Because she was a child and not related so we took the formal approach. We were and are, like that even to this day with those who are under 18.
It’s really quite funny. Out of habit I still refer to my beloved as Mr....
I had an aunt who wanted me to call her by only her first name as she had Great Grandchildren calling her by her first name. She said it was great because she wanted them to be comfortable around it. When I gently informed her that Aunt xxx was the way I was comfortable with addressing her, she had a calf. Maybe even twin calves.
The young girl in question is now in her 30s and she still addresses us by Mr or Mrs... Said she’s comfortable that way. We don’t push it because we respect her opinion.
We look at it as recognizing authority when teaching it to youngsters and respecting authority as well.
It’s interesting you say that. My kids attend a Jewish school that is mainly Orthodox but has a mix of other Jewish kids.
We had a bit of a security scare and the ex military/Israeli dads filled in for security while they interviewed and hired extra guards.
Mrs. Jewbacca told me the liberal wives of the woke dads were swooning over the tough dads who showed up with pistols. (And that she wasn’t keen on me being around them.)
All it takes is a taste of the real world for women to like real men.
Please see my post # 74. Forgot to add you to the ping.
LOL
Wishing you a great day!!
Some men do it out of love and others out of neediness and low self-esteem...I cater to my wife’s every need out of love and am amply rewarded because she is a Biblical wife who understands it’s a two-way street and actually respects me as well as loving me.
My beloved and I were in a restaurant on day when a father, mother and perhaps an 9 or 10 year old daughter came in and sat down.
I noticed her tee shirt: Boys are dumb. Girls rule.
I assumed her mother allowed the purchase of the tee shirt because I simply refused to think a father would want his daughter to that thinking such damaging thoughts, especially at such a young age.
I also assumed her mother wanted to be a ‘friend’ to her daughter instead of teaching her correctly in the ways of life.
Off my soapbox.
It’s jarring to see a woman built like that on a pro tennis court. And of course she looks ghetto fabulous in that dress.
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