Posted on 10/03/2005 4:50:08 PM PDT by NYer
depends, is his name Bill Bennett?
does gambling being morally right or wrong depend on the amount spent and if you're good for the money? I'm not a libertarian, but the more I get preached at by the pharisee politicians, the more I lean that way.
Well the absolute truth requires accountability and lots of people only want to do what they want to do whever they want to do it!
An "adult discussion," eh? What nonsense! The summary given in the article explains why cohabitation promotes marital instability. You offered ZERO reasons and/or explanations of how your own situation differs. You simply stated that you and the wife shacked up before marriage, and you hoped to find some others here who would validate a choice that puts your marriage and the welfare of your kids at risk. When people pointed out that you don't talk like a man who takes marriage seriously, you resorted to name-calling.
"Come on now. Would you buy a car without giving it a test drive?"
Sir, you equate a profoundly intimate personal relationship with driving a vehicle around the block? Sad. You very obviously consider women to be merely sex objects. Selfish attitudes like these are why shotgun weddings had to be invented and an argument for subsidizing welfare moms.
Perhaps that is all you know, maybe from growing up in a tragic situation yourself. Perhaps you'll grow beyond your current perspective. Perhaps you'll grow to realize how treating women with respect is what you were designed to do. And then you will be able to look a girl in the eye--and she will look UP to you as a man, not just a Clinton.
In Wild At Heart (a GREAT book) it refers to the importance of men being aggressive. Yet there is a context for it and it is not the conquest of females. Darwinism and Planned Parenthood might just have you believe it were so.
"I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD,
"plans to prosper you and not to harm you,
plans to give you hope and a future."
-- -- -- Jeremiah 29:11
What do two people find out when they shack up? That they are both fornicators. Is it better to marry a chaste person or a fornicator?
That's true.
Actually, I think that mentality is a side effect of this very problem. Most of the women I know who fall into the "must have a man" category are products of single-parent families. They did not have positive male influences in their life, and have been searching for it ever since. A good father is vital in giving a young woman a positive sense of self, as well as an understanding of "love" as something that doesn't necessarily involve sex. Without that father-figure, women can be extremely self-critical (one of the primary causes of the "need" for a man... hoping to feel complete or worthwhile through their attention) and they also learn that you can get men's attention quickly by sleeping with them (leading to serial relationships... and worse). Next thing you know, she's pregnant, he's gone, and she's raising another little girl who will grow up with the same issues....
His mom was a wise woman
When you know in your "knower' why risk temptation and wait?
God bless your Mom in law too! : ) At 17 sadly my religious beliefs were not what they are today. I struggled big time and needed a lot of guidance. My first hubby eventually gave me that. Saying that though, I did not even contemplate having children till we were married. When I met Deaconjim, we got married as soon as we realised we had been blessed with finding each other. I wanted to get it right this time! : )
Or missing parent families. One that is there in the body but gone in their responsibilities.
It makes me want to cry.
I thought it was only after the marriage that the spouse began to be referred to as "He(or She)-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named"?
J/K! *grin* Good luck and great happiness!
LOL!!! I'm one step ahead already :o)
That depends upon the extent of her chastity.
Your explaination also can apply to young girls who lose their dads at an early age.....I did....and was plagued with being very self-critical....still have to fight it
Oh really? Why is that?
I agree with you partly, but I do not believe that not having both parents is an excuse to follow that road. I didn't have either parent and although it took me some time to get married, it was just because I was ashamed at having no-one in my family, not because I didnt care about marriage. When we finally got married, I was the happiest person alive and God has grown to overflowing in my heart and soul ever since.
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