Posted on 08/19/2007 5:52:59 AM PDT by decimon
Question: Why do I feel threatened by my partner's opposite-sex friends?
Answer: If your partner is enjoying the company of another person, and that person is someone of the opposite sex from your partner, the answer is pretty obvious: you're worried about your mate becoming sexually attracted to that person, and, well, you know what happens next....
(Excerpt) Read more at dating.personals.yahoo.com ...
Elizabeth got jealous when Silky Pony and John Kerry hung around together so much back in 2004, paticularly after The Silky One shared that intimate coffin story with Kerry (who, in case you didn’t know, was a macho guy who served in Vietnam).
Unfortunately I do recognize this phenomenon.
Are you having concerns in this regard?
I believe that men and women can be friends but if they are married (to other people) it can be a slippery slope.
An affair does not need to be sexual in nature. There is such a thing as the “emotional affair” – this is where one partner develops a close emotional relationship with someone not his or her spouse and can be very damaging to the marriage even if it doesn’t develop into a physical relationship. I know because this is why my marriage ended.
No, but I think we've all been there.
I know men who need to have women respond to them. Believe it’s still called “flirting” and I’ve seen men do it in front of their spouses. It’s not nice. But I also know men (very few) who know exactly how to shut down flirting from the opposite sex and it’s so very refreshing.
Duh.
She grows strong and is a true helper, fit for the task of guiding her family to the future.
Where can a male friend come into this equation?
Answer;
Way back there when the two were to become one ... she didn't.
At some point this all seems pretty obvious, huh?
There are a “professional” and “friendly” relationships that strengthen a married couple’s relationship. Our Sick Society is always looking for a way demean marriage.
All this sex talk is like a bad smell coming from those who don’t want to be rightous and are looking for other sick folks to agree with them. What did Huxley say about teaching evolution...? a way to get away from a Judgemental God.
Get real, for God’s sake.
When they marry the man or women should not hang alone with that person it should be a couple thing out of respect for your spouse.
agree
question: why am I so stupid that I have to ask this question?
Exactly cat. In my office, I see married men who feed off flirting with women, and married women who feed off flirting with the men.
And then I see the married men and married women who are polite and mature and hard-working and who do not flirt. When we chat, they discuss their spouses and their children and don’t get caught up in the junior high school tee-hee’ing that so often is a part of the workplace.
Like so many things in life, it’s a choice.
You should see my office. A small place in hicksville Hazleton PA and our Plant Manager tells us he and his wife do not have sex. I shake my head because this idiot makes six digits because he has “college”. When he opens his mouth he should be eligible for a refund from that “college”.
Where does this article mention marriage? I think FReepers are being had with this generic nonsense.
Thank you though, k, for finally mentioning it.
There may be a reason why one of this couple does not want to commit.
You can't control what your partner does. You can control what you do. If your partner has friends of the opposite sex, and you don't like it, you can either demand that your partner put a stop to it, or learn to trust your partner as you should.
If your partner has a Platonic friend, and you draw first blood in the relationship by refusing to trust your partner, then you have nobody to blame but yourself when you eventually do become a cuckold. You drove the wedge.
And if your fears were well-founded, picking a pre-emptive fight probably wouldn't have saved the marriage anyway.
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