[StolarStorm]

I wasn't talking about me. However, some men find fatness completely repulsive.... some men don't. Just as women find some traits in particular repulsive (like perhaps spitting and farting) and an immediate turn off, some men can't find a women attractive if she is fat. Some things don't work in a man if they find something repulsive. Women have a little more flexibility in that regard.

You can't blame someone for finding something a huge turn off as everyone does have their preferences. But you can put some blame on a spouse that has not kept themselves as fit as their spouse. And just because one is raising the kids, and so forth, does not justify eating more calories than one needs. Thats just a pathetic cop out. You can't gain weight from air. Eat less, lose weight. Its that simple.

[StarCMC]

Nice. Are you a stay at home dad?

[najida]

Really,
so you’re an expert on women’s hormones, illness, childbirth, menopause (yes, we do gain weight then) genetics etc....

I’ll tell you right now, you can gain weight from far less than someone else is eating to loose weight....metabolisms vary as well as body types.

I’ve dealt with lots of overweight folks and I’m the first one to say ‘If you have someone in your life making you miserable about your weight, get the heck away from them and THEN lose it! Do NOT lose it for them, because they’ll find the next flaw.’

[Mrs.O'Strategery]

Interesting! I lost 125 pounds about 5 years ago. My ex-husband started a two year affair the year I reached my goal weight of 125 pounds. I did not deny him sex. I was a stay at home mom at his insistence... and like many married men in his 30’s HE had “let himself go.” He gained weight and didn't exercise any longer. I never strayed. He did. I wasn't over weight any longer (nor would I have accepted that as an excuse for his affair!)

I have so many female friends whose husbands are at that age where the beer belly is starting to show and they have lost interest in exercise. Their hair is falling out... Does that give these women an excuse to cheat?

[ktscarlett66]

So the relationship was based on her hot looks or thinness from the beginning as far as he’s concerned? So if something happened to him...oh say he ages really bad or is injured, get burned, goes bald, something like that, his wife has the green light? The vows of in sickness and health, for better OR WORSE, forsaking all others, don’t mean anything under certain conditions?

Damn. I never knew the marriage vows were conditional. I really hate H farting all the time. Find it very unattractive. Going to find me a man on the side woo-hoo!