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The Problem with Obama's Father's Day Speech
American Thinker ^
| June 18, 2008
| Bruce Walker
Posted on 06/18/2008 7:45:18 AM PDT by neverdem
Barack Obama's gave a carefully calculated political speech on Father's Day calling attention to the problem of children growing up without a father. In one important respect, Obama was absolutely right: Far too many children are being raised without the attention, discipline and care of a father in the home. But in another equally important respect, Obama took the easy, fast and safe path in his speech.
The problem of children being born into fatherless homes is, perhaps, the defining social problem of our times. The starkest possible contrast with the fatherless children of America decried by Obama, was tacitly drawn by the tragic death of Tim Russert, whose reverence for his father was the lodestar of his wonderful life.
Why did Russert, whose home was humble, have such a dramatically different life? Was it because of Big Russ? Yes, of course, in one sense it was precisely because of Big Russ -- a father who was the model of all positive traits and all ennobling characteristics. Those rubbed off on Tim.
But there is another difference in the parallel stories between Tim Russert and the child raised without a father. That difference does not involve Big Russ as much as it does Tim Russert's mother. She chose not to have a child out of wedlock. She chose to love Big Russ. She chose to make her marriage to him work, despite the hardships and problems that the family faced. Without her choices and will, the life of Tim Russert would not have been the success that it was.
The problem of fatherless families is the problem of mothers as well as absent fathers. Children born out of wedlock, after all, are born because a woman decides that a good father is not that important. The prior irresponsibility is not these young men, but the young woman who decides to have sex with them, intending or assuming that society, rather than a husband, bear the costs of her pregnancy.
In fact, it has long been possible for a woman to have children without having sexual relations at all. Does our structure of welfare, food stamps, Medicaid and so forth provide any negative consequences for a woman who wants children as a hostage against society -- and who wants to be artificially inseminated? No: The plague of fatherless families could exist without a single unmarried man having sexual relations with a single unmarried woman.
When young women have casual, indiscriminate sexual relations with a number of young men -- in many cases not even knowing these men beyond their first names -- then the catastrophe which follows is at least as much the fault of the mother as of the father. If young women stopped having sex before marriage, then the problem of fatherless children would vanish.
It is much easier, however, to pummel young men, than for Obama to lay blame for fatherless children where it also belongs: on the reckless actions of those mothers who count upon taxpayers to step in the place of fathers.
As Tim Russert's mother could attest, marriage and raising children in a stable home is no picnic. Staying married to a man like Big Russ, who works two jobs and has does not have much free time for his children or for his wife, requires a moral commitment for a mother and wife. Her example, like the example of the wonderful Big Russ, made the life of Tim Russert profoundly different than the lives of so many children, black and white, born into "homes" which are not homes at all, but more like brothels.
What Obama should have talked about was the failure of mothers to understand the importance of fathers. That is the heart of why we have fatherless homes. Once, it was accepted that a child needed both a father and a mother to grow up right. Now, it is politically correct to believe that a father who pays child support and visits his offspring every other week is sufficient. My mother grew up with a father who was sick and who could contribute very little to his family, except for his paternal love -- but that love was incomparably more important than any wages that he could have earned.
Money is a sideshow in raising good children, especially here in the richest nation in human history. Big Russ worked his tail off, but it was not the money he brought home that transformed the life of Tim Russert: It was the fact of his love, shown by his sweat.
Marry before having children. If you have children, stay married. That is a critical theme of Father's Day. That should have been the heart of Obama's Father's Day speech. He focused on the easy target of absent fathers, instead less chic idea of a traditional nuclear family. Tim Russert could have told him how much fathers matter in the home, beside mothers, together loving and raising children. That is the real message of Father's Day.
TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial; Government; Politics/Elections
KEYWORDS: blackfamily; fatherhood; fathersday; obama
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Obama takes an easy, cheap shot at men when it takes two to tango.
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posted on
06/18/2008 7:45:19 AM PDT
by
neverdem
To: neverdem
That speech was just Obama’s “Sista Souljah” moment.
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posted on
06/18/2008 7:47:14 AM PDT
by
pnh102
(Save America - Ban Ethanol Now!)
To: neverdem
BO left out the part that govt programs encourage this behavior.
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posted on
06/18/2008 7:51:26 AM PDT
by
Neoliberalnot
((Hallmarks of Liberalism: Ingratitude and Envy))
To: neverdem
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posted on
06/18/2008 7:52:21 AM PDT
by
EagleUSA
To: neverdem
Some sharp pressie oughta ask him if fatherless homes include homes with two gay partners/gay marrieds?
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posted on
06/18/2008 7:55:37 AM PDT
by
USNA74
To: Neoliberalnot
‘zackly. LBJ and the Donks created the environment that allowed government checks to substitute for a father in the house.
To: neverdem
Moveon has put out an ad of a woman with her baby, saying that McCain can't have him for his hundred year war in Iraq.
No father is mentioned or hinted at. Aside from the mischaracterization of McCain's statement and the fact that her kid would have to volunteer (unless the Dems are successful in reinstituting the draft next time), what is wrong with fathers and grandparents? McCain's people should be calling this the "Babby Mamma Ad".
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posted on
06/18/2008 7:59:48 AM PDT
by
Soliton
(Investigate, educate, then opinionate.)
To: neverdem
Some women have babies to get the ADC check and the sec 8 housing.
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posted on
06/18/2008 8:00:23 AM PDT
by
yldstrk
(My heros have always been cowboys--Reagan and Bush)
To: neverdem
Obama’s mother did not choose to have a child without a husband.
To: neverdem
The big problem is that this skinny black POS has made fools out of a bunch of idiots and is now on the road to the black house.
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posted on
06/18/2008 8:03:41 AM PDT
by
Piquaboy
(22 year veteran of the Army, Air Force and Navy, Pray for all our military .)
To: USNA74
There’s an elephant in the room here. What about Obama’s own father? He was a real piece of work who left his Mom and little Barry. Then again, to the author’s point, what about his Mom who was hell-bent to hook up with someone as different from her as possible - someone who was already married to at least one person back in Kenya. She left little Barry to be raised by grandparents while she continued to “do her own thing.” I couldn’t agree more that girls are the problem way more than the boys and it’s only going to get worse in the years to come.
To: neverdem
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posted on
06/18/2008 8:06:42 AM PDT
by
littlehouse36
(Friends don't let friends watch cable news.)
To: sportutegrl
re: Obamas mother did not choose to have a child without a husband.
Are we sure of that? Correct me if I am wrong, but I remember reading that Obama doesn't know exactly when his parents got married. And since his father was already married to a woman in Africa whom he never divorced, I am not so sure that a marriage in this country would have been legal anyway under bigamy laws.
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posted on
06/18/2008 8:07:26 AM PDT
by
Nevadan
To: Eric in the Ozarks
—and pointing out that it would happen should be the only legacy of Daniel Patrick Moynihan—especially after his failure to support the Constitution in the Clinton affair-—
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posted on
06/18/2008 8:08:44 AM PDT
by
rellimpank
(--don't believe anything the MSM tells you about firearms or explosives--NRA Benefactor)
To: neverdem
I tried to push that in a debate about abortion. People always claim that the mother has a right to an abortion and should have control over her own body, yet they continually act as though she has no control over having sex and that somehow, the male forces her to do it.
To: rellimpank
Moynihan’s writings on this subject should be mandatory reading for members of Congress.
To: Eric in the Ozarks
re: Moynihans writings on this subject should be mandatory reading for members of Congress.
Add to Moynihan’s writings George Gilder's book, “Men and Marriage”.
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posted on
06/18/2008 8:19:07 AM PDT
by
Nevadan
To: Eric in the Ozarks
--to paraphrase somebody else's comment, I suspect Moynihan wrote more books than the average Congresscritter has read in his/her lifetime--
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posted on
06/18/2008 8:19:31 AM PDT
by
rellimpank
(--don't believe anything the MSM tells you about firearms or explosives--NRA Benefactor)
Comment #19 Removed by Moderator
To: rellimpank
From one of Daniel Patrick's books;
Many, many years ago, Ralph Nader worked for Moynihan at the Department of Labor. Nader mentioned to Moynihan that he was sure his Labor Department phone was being tapped.
Moynihan told Nader not to worry. Nothing of national security interest was happening at Labor anyway...
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