When A Woman Isn't In The Mood: Part I (Dennis Prager On Why Sex Is So Important To A Man Alert)

Townhall.com ^ | 12/23/2008 | Dennis Prager

[Hot Tabasco]

and Merry Christmas to you too!

[grey_whiskers]

My wife has often compared the female response to a diesel engine. Takes awhile to get her warmed up, but once you do...

Usually takes her about 30-45 minutes and then she doesn't want to stop for hours.

Now if we could only get our teenagers to leave us alone before 11:00 PM, we'd be all set. :-)

Cheers!

...oh, and Merry Christmas!

[grey_whiskers]

Idle hands are the devil’s workshop. If you take sex out of the marriage, something else takes its place.

FREEPing?!!

[AppyPappy]

yup.

[PapaBear3625]

My husband couldn't understand that, after working ten hours, cooking dinner, looking after our daughters needs and preparing for the next day, I was done. There was no more. Elvis had left the building.

This is why,at the beginning of our marriage, we decided that I would work and she would be at home, and our standard of living would be determined by what I made. It works out better this way.

[thirst4truth]

Great Article, looking forward to part 2

[Tax-chick]

Our teenagers get hauled off to bed by the ears, if necessary. All I have to do is bat my eyes at Der Prinz and say, “If you want any personal attention from me, you’ll get them out of here by nine ...”

[Just another Joe]

I think that's great! Did you, by chance, have older sisters?

No, just a good example when it came to my parents.
They taught by example that marriage is a partnership.
When one partner is out of the loop, the other partner picks up the slack or the business (marriage) goes under.

[csmusaret]

He should have gone to Jared’s.

[DoughtyOne]

Thank you Twink. Merry Christmas...

[RobRoy]

>>True, but when a woman gives herself against her desire she will not be feeling “incredible love”.<<

I see love as an action, not a feeling.

[RobRoy]

>>Your whole statement says that you married the wrong woman the first time and the right one the second time. You are agreeing with me, not arguing with me.<<

I am agreeing with you that it is important. I am also saying that for the massive majority of young people it is dumb luck. Like winning a lottery where your chances of winning are about 32%.

[RobRoy]

Twenty dollars! I guess if his wife were a crack whore, twenty would cover it.

Actually, in this world there is really no need to pay for it. Well, unless you're this guy:

To steal/modify from an old Groucho Marx line, I would never pay $20 to have sex with a woman who would agree to have sex for $20.

The reason so many men think woman are only after their money, is because that is how they'd be, were they female. Actually, that comes from experience with women, and you can take it to the bank. I am dead serious here. Fact is, women are designed to value security while men value autonomy and freedom to build and control their own castle. Giving women the vote is one reason we are so socialist now, but I digress.

[wardaddy]

He, by the way, has only worked one day a week over the last five and a half years

and you work and he refuses to help clean up?

unless he is sick, you have a problem dear....hell, any man that would sit home and let his woman work for him is a breed I fail to recognize anyhow

nothing personal

[RobRoy]

>>When the main priority of the loving husband and the loving wife is the happiness and well being of the other, all the elements of a happy marriage and family fall into place.<<

Absolutely! The movie “Fireproof” is really must-viewing for any couple planning on getting married or already married.

[Gilbo_3]

as an afterthought yesterday while i was finnishin trim painting in the hallway, the reply of another poster kept hitting me...

his reply was that he didnt get outta bed and go to work everyday because he 'was in the mood', just the same as i wasnt painting the hall for sh!tz and giggles...we do these things because they simply need to get done...

now i could be resentful and grudgingly paint, or goto work, but itll show in the finished product, therefore I adapt my mood, because I know that Mrs g as well s myself wants to see the hallway look presentable, and I want the kids to have shoes and food that they need...

no different than any of the other 'chores' on the 'laundry list'......so they get done...without resentment makes em go much better in the long run...

there IS A NEEDfor sex hardwired into most animals...especially the male of the species so for the ladies that dont like sex, or 'feel its a chore'...I bet the laundry list still gets done...and furthermore, if a little effort and forethought were built into the agenda, sex with your husband could very well be a pleasurable diversion from the laundry list...

communication is most valuable in this area of a relationship...if its being resented, then there is a problem...

my .02

[Gilbo_3]

as an aside...I deal with a LOT of people with very destructive personal problems in my main side 'ministry' [AA]...

In the last few years, the theory that stands out the most, is that all human beings, have three basic instincts...ALL God given and used in this life to varying extremes...benficially and destructively...

1 Social...the need to interact with others and achieve our percieved place in society...

2 Security...having those things that enable us to survive and thrive in the world around us...food, shelter etc...

3 Sexual...to at the least reproduce [instinct]...to any extreme of self-centeredness of abuse of the instinct...

this thread obviously deals with sex, but they all really do inter-relate annd the lines become blurred...

the simple fact is that God made the orgasm a VERY pleasurable and fleeting experience...most guys have no problem 'gettin there'...or theirs' as the case may be ...

ladies could do themselves alot of good if they would communicate and help their mates to help them be 'happy'...

I think that would reduce the use of the word 'chore' quite a bit...

[DoughtyOne]

Your comments make sense to me. Thanks for the comments. I agree with that last thought in particular, communication is the key.

[Scotswife]

“How many times will the buddy come back to visit before deciding to go to the bar instead ???”

It’s a good question - but I was only trying to compare similar situations - not exact situations.

My point - is that it is very difficult for the women to “engage” when her brain isn’t involved - when she isn’t “in the mood”.

So I guess another good question would be..how can the buddy get his friend’s attention?

I’m not saying this is how it should be “every” time.
I’ve already said much of Mr. Prager’s article is very good.

I’m talking about the section where he’s addressing women who aren’t in the mood.

[Scotswife]

A lucky man!
Merry Christmas!