Posted on 01/27/2009 8:30:36 PM PST by dascallie
'They say we're too old to care for our grandchildren': Social workers hand brother and sister to gay men for adoption
By GRAHAM GRANT and MARCELLO MEGA 12:16 AM on 28th January 2009
Two young children are to be adopted by a gay couple, despite the protests of their grandparents.
The devastated grandparents were told they would never see the youngsters again unless they dropped their opposition.
The couple, who cannot be named, wanted to give the five-year-old boy and his fouryearold sister a loving home themselves. But they were ruled to be too old - at 46 and 59.
For two years they fought for their rights to care for the children, whose 26-year- old mother is a recovering heroin addict.
They agreed to an adoption only after they faced being financially crippled by legal bills.
The final blow came when they were told the children were going to a gay household, even though several heterosexual couples wanted them.
When the grandfather protested, he was told: 'You can either accept it, and there's a chance you'll see the children twice a year, or you can take that stance and never see them again.'
The man said last night: 'It breaks my heart to think that our grandchildren are being forced to grow up in an environment without a mother figure. We are not prejudiced, but I defy anyone to explain to us how this can be in their best interests.'
Social workers themselves have admitted that the little girl is 'more wary' of men than women.
(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...
See what socialized medicine does to human-ness?
The grandparents are reduced to a factor of healthrisk.
Adoptions are reduced to a factor of affirmative action, even if it's not in the best individual interest of any party.
How long before it will be a crime to criticize such action by the government?
It sounds, from the court's statement, that is already is. The penalty: never seeing your grandchildren again.
Keep in mind that this case is in the UK - a picture of our country in 5 to 10 years if the leftist remain in control of government long enough to make America unrecognizable.
Unless they implement “other policies”* first, they’re asking for a world of hurt if they try such things here.
*citizen disarmament
You didn't learn the lib-speak very well, then. By their definition, even implying that there might be something wrong here brands you as a rabid homophobe.
1. I think it’s an important point that the grandparents blew it with the mother. However, the homosexual parents would be STILL WORSE.
2. I doubt the grandparents have the capacity to take the child to a foreign country without extradition treaty for such things but I’d sure do something that serious.
3. I’d also do everything I could to get the kids put in a family of my religion.
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I've heard professors say that repeatedly.
I've heard preachers say it too often.
I've heard parents say it.
I'VE NEVER, IN MORE THAN 55 YEARS OF WATCHING PARENTS AND CHILDREN SUPER CLOSELY . . . I'VE
IN EVERY CASE where someone asserted that your assertion was true, I've examined the case carefully. Usually it only took me 2-5 minutes or a few questions to find out where the parents went seriously wrong regardless of the appearances to others.
If the above assertion were true, Cherry, God would be a liar.
GOD'S WORD DECLARES THAT
WHEN
PARENTS TRAIN UP A CHILD IN THE WAY THAT CHILD SHOULD GO . . . IN THE WAYS OF THE LORD AND IN THE WAYS THAT CHILD WAS DESIGNED TO GO . . . IN THE LOVE AND FEAR OF THE LORD; THE AUTHENTIC GODLY LOVE OF THE PARENTS AND WITHOUT PROVOKING THE CHILD TO WRATH
THEN
THAT CHILD WHEN OLDER WILL NOT DEPART FROM THOSE WAYS.
ALMIGHTY GOD DECLARES THAT.
IT HAS ALWAYS . . . !!!!!!ALWAYS!!!!!!! BEEN ABUNDANTLY TRUE IN EVERY CASE.
APPEARANCES DON'T MATTER. REALITY DOES.
How many thousands of hours have you spent counseling parents and extended families?
See my colorful post just above.
There was a study about 39+ years ago . . . a study of all the other studies to that point . . .
about child-rearing practices. The question was . . . what child-rearing practices and factors contributed most to children becoming healthy functioning adults.
"Healthy functioning adults" was defined as
1. Stable work life
2. Stable marriage
3. No trouble with the law
4. Not on public assistance
They looked at all the socio-economic factors. They looked at discipline styles--authoritarian, authoritative, Laize Faire, letting em run wild, nurturing, cold, harsh etc.
They looked at just about everything.
ONE
FACTOR stood out way above all the others.
ONE factor accounted for 80% OF THE VARIANCE/80% OF THE DIFFERENCE BETEWEEN SUCCESS AS ADULTS AND FAILURE AS ADULTS--ONE FACTOR.
See my post in #53 above.
AUTHENTIC EFFECTIVELY COMMUNICATED LOVE FROM A PARENT--PARTICULARLY THE FIRST 8 YEARS OF LIFE--WILL MAKE A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE . . . OFTEN LITERALLY BETWEEN HEAVEN AND HELL . . . FOR THE REST OF THE CHILD'S LIFE.
BTW,
Here’s a great video on TV and the brain with links to other good ones:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_acfHQiIhk0
I have noted that in the past.
However,
I could probably count on one or two hands the parents who seem to have managed such a high Biblical quality of parenting.
NONE OF THEIR TEENS EVER REBELLED IN THE LEAST BIT OF AN UNHEALTHY WAY.
They individuated . . . explored carving out who they were distinct from their parents—but not in any defiant, rebellious or greatly hurtful ways. They just didn’t.
They remained in meaningful dialogue with their parents all along the way.
Their parents had been their closest loved ones and remained so until they met their life partners. And after that, they were still well bonded and in friendly close dialogue with their parents.
IT CAN HAPPEN. I’VE SEEN IT.
Of course, I’ve seen much more of the worse types of parenting.
I rebelled and lived long enough to see my parents were right in their teachings. Some children have a wild streak and will go down the wrong road in life. I have an adopted daughter that rebelled and was able to move in with a married cousin. We couldn’t handle her.
She grew up a lot after she got out on her own. She is 36 now and has 2 kids. She is closer to me now than my 2 other girls. We talk often and she has apologized several times. I am very proud of her.
Of course that happens.
And Praise God for it.
Good deeds with children pay dividends regardless of what else has gone on . . . virtually always . . . certainly usually.
My adopted sister was a different story.
So many social workers, so few lamp posts.
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