Posted on 08/03/2011 10:32:23 AM PDT by US Navy Vet
One of the best parts about marriage is being so comfortable with your hubby that you can say just about anything to him. But if you don’t watch your mouth, sometimes the ugly truth comes out in hurtful—not helpful––ways. Though you may have legitimate concerns to express or issues to bring up, doing so in a harsh manner can be damaging in the long term, to both your husband’s feelings and your relationship. According to Judy Ford, psychotherapist and author of Every Day Love, “Speaking kindly is a skill that couples have to learn. Everyone feels battered by life and the outside world. You shouldn’t feel that way at home.” Here, nine statements that you should never utter to your significant other––and the words that you should try instead.
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Doing things badly on purpose is called "creative incompetence" - designed to ensure that you never are asked to do a thing again.
Laurence J. Peter cited it in "The Peter Principle" as a strategy to avoid being promoted to your level of incompetence.
Just as the 10 Commandments can really be boiled down into two (Love God, Love people) any list of wifely dos and don’ts can be boiled down to respecting that a man needs just three things in life:
Food, sex, and approval.
You break everything you touch.
the last one is “divorcin’ words”
Honey, do this pants make my butt look fat?
My wife learned about sex from a manual. He was the gardener.
“Mohammed, your daughter is living in sin with a Jew and I support her”.
for “i will do it myself” the correct answer is go ahead.
guilt blackmail must be fought on all fronts as an evil to marriage.
“do these pants make my butt look fat”. Answer the truth. Pants are either flattering or not flattering. Just say they are not flattering and that puts the blame on the pants.
You don’t even need sex. All she needs to do is tell him that sex is painful because his unit is too big. He’ll be too busy strutting around to worry about sex.
I’m sorry, but that article is very stupid.
The number one thing a woman should NEVER say to her husband is:
“NOT NOW, I HAVE A HEADACHE”
number 2 would be:
“I’m going shopping with (fill in the blank)”
and number 3:
“my mother needs money for (fill in the blank)”
number 4:
“I’m taking our daughter to the gynocologist”
“The garbage truck is next door. Have you taken out the trash?”.............
“I’m taking our daughter to the gynocologist”
You lost me on that one.
“Don’t do that in public!”.........................
What if all the pants are like that?
I’m bad for doing the “I will do it myself”, and I have to remind myself that letting other people do things make them feel good helping me. But that’s hard for me to do.
I’m not used to people helping me like that.
“You wouldn’t dare”
really.
you like to hear that?
“I just showered, come and get it! But be quick, my show comes on in a few minutes.”
Actually I find that to be key in my relationship. Do not play word games with what you want. If you want something come out and say it.
In addition, a comment to ALL wives. Try very hard to answer the question you were asked, not what you think he should of said or the answer to the question in your head at the moment that has nothing to do with the situation at hand. I see that mistake in many relationship. I know Mars, Venus etc but still....
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