Posted on 09/07/2011 9:00:11 AM PDT by AT7Saluki
... We are educated professionals who work with kids every day and often see your child in a different light than you do. If we give you advice, don't fight it. Take it, and digest it in the same way you would consider advice from a doctor or lawyer. I have become used to some parents who just don't want to hear anything negative about their child, but sometimes if you're willing to take early warning advice to heart, it can help you head off an issue that could become much greater in the future.
Trust us. At times when I tell parents that their child has been a behavior problem, I can almost see the hairs rise on their backs. They are ready to fight and defend their child, and it is exhausting...
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Maybe the parents resent the government taking over their parental resposibilities and duties.
“If we give you advice, don’t fight it.”
Depends. If it’s idiotic advice given by an idiot it will be ignored, and there’s more than a few of them in most school systems.
“If you love your kids, you’ll put them in private school” - Jesse Lee Peterson.
Coming from a man who knows whereof he speaks.
“Trust us. “ ( We're from the government. ) /s
Also....When to people who have the **LOWEST** SAT, ACT, and GREs on campus and in the **least** demanding program on campus, get to compare themselves with professional who have the highest scores, some of the most demanding courses, and the most competitive graduate schools that award doctorates?
Maybe the parents resent being called on their FAILING their parental responsibilities to have a well behaved attentive child.
No discipline at home = a bad kid at school = the teacher having to tell the parent = the parent blowing up displaying the same immaturity and lack of discipline their child exhibits.
I'm not envious of their job....but... I've never met a teacher that didn't think that they were the most picked-on, overworked, under-appreciated person who ever held any job, anywhere. That would even include the ones that I like, and who do good work. Even the retired ones I know still whine and complain about how stressful their job was, and they've been out of the business for 10 or more years.
It's just a personality trait, I guess.
These people have a little bit too much dictator in them.
What parents probably really want to tell Ron Clark:
“Mr. Clark, when you adopt our kids, you can raise them however you want. Until then, you teach ‘em, we’ll raise them, mmkay?”
All government schools are godless. Right there is the reason teachers have problems with their students and parents.
All government schools are socialist. It is there the children and parents have learned their overweaning sense of entitlement.
No good teacher would cooperate with teaching children to think and reason godless.
No good teacher would teach children to be comfortable with taking money from a neighbor for a service their parents want for tuition-free.
We'd like teachers to teach reading, writing and arithmetic and leave the ‘earth day - global warming crap at home. There's time to talk about the ‘extras’ when all children graduate being able to read their diplomas. Until then they need to stick to basics.
The same could, and probably would, be said by a private school teacher to the parents of a discipline problem child - they would just be more diplomatic to the paying customer.
The issue isn't that the teacher is (presumably) employed by the government - it is that parents these days can take absolutely NO criticism of their lackluster absentee parenting style and their ill behaved children.
Good article.
Explains the situation perfectly.
For the idiots who think school and teachers are evil, why not go volunteer, get to know some of those educators and what they’re dealing with?
Those folks you see in public who can’t and won’t control their kids? Those kids running the streets dressed like thugs? They are all shuffled off to the classroom every morning.
How would you do, trying to teach them subject matter that they don’t want to learn, enforcing civil behavior that they haven’t been taught at home, being held responsible when they don’t learn, and being told it’s your fault when parents take offense at your plea for help?
By the way, I am neither a teacher nor an administrator. I’m just a parent who has seen it all and have great respect for the many excellent teachers who get slammed by ignorant internet posters.
Schools need to turn education into something valuable again - not another free entitlement. If people don’t see the cost and responsibility of education, they will not value it.
Kick trouble makers out, kick absentee kids out, kick failing kids out. Bottom 5% should be removed every year. Charge basic fees. Institute strict dress codes. No tattoos, no special hairy styles. Eliminate most sports. No phones, no gadgets. Mandatory parent meetings every quarter
Do that in an inner city, and I guarantee you people will be knocking down the door to get their kids in.
no screwl teacher is equal to a doctor or lawyer or engineer.
that latter actually had to work to get through high school and college.
Yep! I'll bash anyone who teaches children to think and reason godlessly I'll bash anyone who teaches children to be comfortable with socialism.
And...All government school teachers in socialist-funded, mob ruled, government schools do that every day! No one is holding a gun to their heads and they destroy the hearts and minds of children and our nation.
The point is, there are too many parents who have simply become apologists for their kids. Then they wonder where their 4y of college tuition went as their adult child sits on their couch playing video games. Reap/sow. (Full disclosure - I’m a homeschool principal.)
I have the opposite problem - I have teachers who are TOO AFRAID TO DO ANYTHING (and who can blame them?)
My daughter can be a little hyperactive but she will calm down and follow direction if she is handled firmly- they are so afraid to do that even AFTER i have repeatedly told them to go ahead and be firm and give her puinishment in class. (send her to the principal, make her write lines, re-do her home work after school if it is not neat... etc)
But what they will do is have endless MEETINGs. The bureacracy reacts a month and a half later to any incidents...
I finally decided to homeschool her.
yep.
My kid's teacher - who, while fitting the stereotype that I outlined in my previous post, seems to be doing an excellent job - made an interesting comment to me when I talked to her about volunteering.
She said that "unlike other teachers in this grade, I welcome parental involvement". There was a whole lot to read between *those* particular lines, sez me.
Mrs Wbill is already in the regular rotation, and I've signed up for a handful of events. I'm looking forward to it, and the teacher is, too. And, AFAIC, even if I like the teacher, and trust her, there's no subsititute for parental involvment. That, and people always behave better when they know someone is watching. :-)
In other words, just leave us alone to collect a check. If your kid comes out of school without learning anything, it isn't our fault.
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