Reminded me of this scene in Billy Madison.
Posted on 05/18/2012 7:22:19 PM PDT by floridavoter2
A woman who was bullied mercilessly in high school 25 years ago has gotten some closure from a class reunion page on Facebook.
Lynda Frederick, a graduate of Orange Glen High in Escondido, Calif., in 1987, posted a heartbreaking poem about her experience on her school's 25th class reunion page.
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high school ended 28 years ago for me, the last thing I need to do is worry over anything that happened then.
We need to teach our kids to stand up and be adults instead of letting them see us shriveled up in a ball whining over something that happened decades ago.
All this talk about bullying.....I’m sick of it.
Not the bullying so much as the whining about it.
Look, let’s talk simple human nature. Bullies always have and always will be around. That is a simple fact.
I’ll save millions of people millions of beatings, insults, embarrassments, trips to the shrink, etc. here and now.
Here is all you have to know about bullies, people: They are cowards. This is 100% accurate, 100% of the time.
They...are...cowards.
Know how to stop them? Ridiculously simple. Stand up to them. Challenge them. Get in their faces. Like all cowards, they back down. Every time.
Trust me on this one. If you or your kids didn’t know this, you know it now. From now on, if you have issues with bullying in your life-circle, it’s your own damned fault.
Reminded me of this scene in Billy Madison.
Of course no bold deed (”OK you coward, if you try that again I promise I will cold cock you”) goes unpunished.
Well glad you cleared that up.
You should be a therapist. Better yet, an ambassador.
No - you should be a preacher. People need to hear you teach that all of that stuff about Jesus' compassion is misinterpretation. Jesus would never have been compassionate - there's simply no need. Jesus took nails in his hands to show us we need to stop whining. He hung on the cross, all blood and nailed up, and yelled out, "Hey, wimps, look at me. Am I whining? So shut up, I'm sick of all your weakness. Your weakness is your fault, and I'm not going to accept it anymore."
Yeah, preacher. You'd be great.
Juuuuuust great.
Because, like, you're so tough.
And everything.
I was always very, very small for my age. Luckily, I was “the smart kid”, and that helped a lot....but I’ll tell you that I was never bullied more than once by the same person in my whole life.
Reason: I learned what I wrote above at a very early age. It has served me well. It’s gospel.
I don’t think it’s really getting worse. I think that, finally, the problem is coming out into the open and people are realizing just how serious it is.
Even now, too many people have the attitude that victims of bullies should just learn to shut up and take it, or alternately, stand up to the bully, then bullying wouldn’t be such a problem. Unfortunately, neither of those approaches is acceptable. The kids who shut up and take it end up with serious mental problems. And kids who try to stand up to the bullies often find themselves the targets of escalating abuse.
I don’t mean the BULLY calls your bluff. I mean you get tattled on and then that headache starts, and you can’t play the macho game with those people and get the same results.
Yeah, well, tell ya what......go get your ass kicked and lay it at Jesus’ feet.
Guess bullies aren’t the only cowards. Your attitude is worse than disgusting.
You’re the guy I used to have to go bail out of scrapes.
There are different degrees of bulling. There might be one or two people who pick on another person now and then. But there is a type of bullying that involves a sizable group of people who feed off one another and they target one person. It’s incredibly cruel and destructive. It’s almost impossible to stop it because it’s a group against one person.
People ask the same thing today. Technically WWJD isn’t a good question here. Until the time for the Cross came up, Jesus was always able to walk peacefully through hostile crowds. Jesus’ final instructions to the disciples before being betrayed were to take a couple of swords, and these weren’t for sabre dances. Jesus knew that they would not always have a hatful of miracles to call on like He did. So what would turning the other cheek and walking the second mile mean? I think it would mean to accommodate demanding people as long as the situation did not become unsustainable, or you would have to sin or leave other valid commitments undone. Pushy people and frank bullies aren’t the same thing.
her parents should be ashamed of themselves too, selfish cruel parents beating her and not providing for her.
yes that is right. You have to bully a bully. that is what I told my kids
Met up with a woman I went to school with. She actually goes to reunions I don’t care.
She told me “remember so and so the football player? And so and so the head cheerleader? They come up to you at reunions and talk to you like they knew you in school. Now they are fat and the men are bald”
Funny is it not that time gets its own revenge on bullies.
Utterly ridiculous and uninformed. While kids should certainly be taught to stand up for themselves, there is only so much that one person can do by him/herself. With absolutely no one who’s got your back in these situations, it can rarely get better without support. Many, if not most, victims are totally alone in their battle.
I agree that bullies are cowards, but they usually come in huge groups who single out their prey and can be totally ruthless to the point that the abused may even face physical attacks. When these groups of rabid hyenas go on the attack they turn the whole school against the one student to the point where everyone is afraid to help out the victim. It IS a real problem and no student should have to fear for their physical safety in a school. What can one student do against dozens of others if he/she has no support? Not much.
If it was just a matter of hurting someone’s feelings it wouldn’t be such a big deal, but it’s often much, much worse than that. These kids DO need someone to help them, to step in and stand with them in their struggle.
I can think of worse things than forming a gang of antibullies.
Very true!
Some kids I knew that had bullied me in grade school (which were typically jock on nerd ego trips) mellowed out in their later teens and were not at all unpleasant to meet. I knew only one grim exception and maybe he’s in prison now for all I know.
I remember once in grade school when a kid who had been bullying me, TOLD OFF a group of other kids who were giving me a hard time, and he never bullied me again. I do not know what led to the change of heart from bully to hero and I did not ask — but it’s not impossible.
Yep. Unless they get all of their sycophants to gang up on you and do charming little things like getting everyone in your class to talk about a party to which everyone but you was invited whenever you're present. Unless they sneak in and steal your personal belongings, destroy them, and leave them hanging on a fence. Unless they threaten to follow you until they get you in a secluded place where they can freely beat the snot out of you.
Yep, standing up to them works every time. Except, that is, when it just encourages them to ratchet up the bullying. Bullies almost always have sycophants who follow their lead. Victims almost always are loners. Bullies need to be told by authorities that their behavior will not be tolerated, and victims need to be encouraged to report such behavior. And the behavior needs to be punished.
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