But here’s the worst one.
My friend waited until marriage. She had a baby with her husband. He gave her VD and that’s how she discovered that he was unfaithful. When he was called on it, he left the marriage. She wanted to work on it (marriage was sacred for her), but he did not.
Once she was a single mother, it’s like the floodgates opened in the eyes of men.
She was a pure soul and had saved herself for marriage. The man was scum and he left HER. When she tried dating again, NO MAN would tolerate waiting.
Why? She wasn’t a virgin, so what did it matter? In his eyes, she was damaged goods and had to right to ask for respect or chastity.
“Good Christian” men could not understand that she still valued sex within marriage and she never found a husband. (25 years later, she’s still sweet and single and unloved because she refused to bend her morality to the fashion of the day.) Even the men in her church became impatient. They’d make a commitment as far as ‘girlfriend’ went, but not marriage. Not a full year of holding out for that special love. (And no. She’s not ugly. Cute as a button.)
Just because a woman has a *baby* doesn’t mean that she’s easy or a slut.
At the age of 43, she has only slept with one man and that man was her husband and is the father of her child.
She won’t settle for less, and the men no longer see her as a woman of value.
Why? Because they don’t have to.
I would go out with her
““Good Christian” men could not understand that she still valued sex within marriage and she never found a husband. (25 years later, she’s still sweet and single and unloved because she refused to bend her morality to the fashion of the day.) Even the men in her church became impatient. They’d make a commitment as far as ‘girlfriend’ went, but not marriage. Not a full year of holding out for that special love. (And no. She’s not ugly. Cute as a button.)”
25 years later she is better off for not bending her morality, as you put it.
I’m curious. What church was it with all these fake Christian men?
Having a baby doesn't mean anything, but a woman still playing hard to get in her 40's is narcissistic and delusional to the extreme. What does she think it's made of? Gold?
You know this from the stories she told you? All the single guys in her church were creeps and didn’t want to wait?(or was it a few guys with the stories embellished over and over thru the years) Hmmmm....
She would have been 18 years old if her husband had been gone for 25 years if she is 43. I can applaud not wanting to have sex outside of marriage but there is more to the story then just a succession of “Christian” men lining up to fornicate with her outside of marriage and her disappointment with such “gentlemen”.
If the situation was reversed, and a wife of mine just upped and betrayed me like she was...I might be gunshy with any relationships. Because of what Christ said about divorce, it might be a situation where I feel that I could never have another relationship again.
Shame on any guy that feels they can “try out the goods” in lieu of marriage and I suppose a gentleman truly in love could wait a full year to ask for her hand if he hasn’t noted a pattern of and thus becoming frustrated with an increasing list of expectations, demands, subtle cross examinations, and constant pressures to prove their saintly white knight hood!! God is fully capable of sending a gentleman who will be a “Jacob” and would be willing to labor up to 7 years for her love. Most times 6 months from first dates to serious consideration of engagement is enough for most guys to know
if they even want to spend the rest of their lives with a woman, even one whose child is now 25 years old and grown now. As the child was growing, that also had to be a consideration for men who were courting this woman, right? Instant fatherhood is a tall order for men who may never have been father before...especially a child whose relationship with his or her real father may be quite troubled.
So there is more to the story than just all these scummy “Baptist men” who were just after sex? Right?
OMG
Seriously.