Posted on 04/27/2015 8:32:38 AM PDT by DarkSavant
This is why many men are foregoing marriage.
While I agree that the current system of child support is in many cases unfair to the men there’s a simple way to re-solve this. Don’t be sticking you long john into every hole in sight.....I’ll bet most everyone on this website knows of someone (either directly or through someone else) who has kids to multiple women of which they are not married. You need a license to drive a car, but no license to make a baby. There’s a lot of irresponsibility out there by men and women.
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It is also why inner cities are overrun with feral serial impregnanters. Sex without responsibility is another invented right of the left.
I agree with you. It’s broken and the ones with the penuses are usually f##$@cked.
What you propose is so drastic that it would never pass muster in today’s society. For one thing, both men and women are irresponsible so many women would just abandon the child or get abortions. The abondened child would be thrust upon her parents (which happens in large part today) or put in the government system of foster children/etc...
Basically that option is not that good either. It’s a bad siuation all around. I would propose that men get more rights in regards to being the primary parent. Why is it assumed that the mother will be the best parent by the courts?
Or even cohabitation. My friend was telling me that the county he lives in has a federal grant to combat "domestic violence". As a result, if you get arrested for "domestic violence" in that county, you can spend six months in jail, whereas in the next county over (which doesn't have the federal funding) it's 30 days.
He overheard a woman there tell your boyfriend "I can put you in jail" with glee in her voice. It's a weapon women can use against men who piss them off.
He's not having anything to do with women residing in that county.
It's getting to the point where it's to a man's advantage to maintain an apartment where no woman is allowed to enter, or even know the address of, and only visit her in a motel.
I would go for this. Give men the choice of accepting custody or paying child support.
Most women will fight like hell for custody. Not necessarily because they care about the kids so much, but for the checks and the additional leverage over their ex.
I left dad's home at 17, penniless and on the streets of Oakland, CA. I count myself lucky, as could easily have wound up dead. I swore then that this would never happen to me. I spent the first ten years of my adulthood grappling with it all. When I finally married at the age of 35, I was extremely careful. Our two kids grew up in the same house they can call "home." The one governing principle of their rearing was 'whatever the leftists think is right, revert to the opposite.' Both girls are now in graduate school. Yet it still isn't over.
There is a reason the Torah specified death for adultery: The effects go on for generations. I am convinced that raising a child in an environment of sexual depravity produces heritable epigenetic traits, effectively they are irreversible without an immense act of will. The consequences all around us, and they will be very difficult if not impossible to reverse.
Having been born into the idyllic California of the 1950s, we never knew the blessings that lifestyle had offered, much less understood the consequences of blowing them off. Conservatives never fully comprehended the stakes in the Culture War; else they would have fought like their lives depended upon victory and nothing less, because they do. The left wants us dead, because we are all that stands between them and total power to please themselves to no end, and to hell with any and every body else. That's what it will be all right.
So true. this resonates for me
Men have penises and penises cause men to abuse children—just like guns cause people to commit murder. Social Work 101, duh!
The entire system is set up as a matriarchy—literally. Not only do men not have civil rights, they often are denied status automatically—making them,in effect, non-persons. The civil “justice” system is neither. It is liberalism writ large.
Bingo. I was thinking the same thing.
That's my point. Wives file for divorce in two thirds of cases, often because it is advantageous to do so. They get the income and assets of the husband without having to actually live with him.
Take that away, have divorce mean that they walk away with their personal belongings and that's it, and the divorce rate would drop sharply.
Were they married to the women? It is my understanding that American Law going all the way back to old English Common law recognizes the Children of Marriage to be the Husband's Children, even if they are not.
In the Time of Old English law, there was no way to tell, but now their is. This is an aspect of law that needs to be seriously revisited in light of advancements in fields other than law. (Where there is never any "advancement.")
That’s a sad story. I’m glad that you have survived and overcome that. You never mentioned if your father is still alive or not. If he is, I hope he has come to some sort of a resolution in himself that he can live with. Perhaps you and your sibling can help him out with that. Are you and your brother still friends and/or on speaking terms?
Rather than accept being crushed, they just decide to take everyone with them.
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