Posted on 04/30/2003 3:51:12 AM PDT by WaterDragon
American men use Russian women for self-affirmation. The latter seem to be liking this fact
Marriages between Russian women and American men are very successful and harmonious, Olga Makhovskaya, the senior research assistant at the Psychology Institute in Russia's Academy of Sciences says. When an American man switches from the model of American family where husband and wife are partners equal in rights to the model of an Orthodox family, he thus raises his own significance. In Orthodox families men are given more authority and are more respected. It is certainly an advantage for a man and raises his social and psychological status. In a word, American men seem to have tired of the feminism propagated by American women, and it is frequent that they seek Russian women to start families.
Russian wives in America give up the traditional model of the Russian Orthodox family which relieves them of a heavy burden of responsibility and gives a chance to have a normal life in a family where the range of responsibilities is more definite for them: children, family affairs and housekeeping. At that, Russian women enjoy more attention and support from husbands.
As psychologists say, now Russian men undervalue the essence of family. The whole of the burden, housekeeping, upbringing of children, earning of money are shifted onto women. And, at the time when Russian women have so much responsibilities, their husbands spend their time dozing in front of TV sets in desperate attempts to find out the meaning of life and to understand the truth of the universe. They merely disregard everyday problems that are essential for their families as they consider the above mentioned idle thinking to be of higher importance.
That is why, as Olga Makhovskaya thinks relations in families between Russian and American partners are more harmonious. Each party gets what it wants to have. Husbands get authority and status, and wives are given, in exchange, peace in family and well-being. "Families of this kind where husbands are Americans and women are Russians prove to be long-living, as the roles in the family are clearly distributed and the mechanism operates good, although these are mixed families. In such families each of the couple is ready to make concessions and on the whole, wonderfully performs the role."
In addition, as researches held by Olga Makhovskaya reveal, marriages between Chinese men and Russian women are also very successful. ?There are tens of thousands of such marriages in Russia's Primorye region in the Far East. Chinese men are hard-working, they don't abuse in alcohol drinking and bring their wages home. In a word, they have lots of advantages by contrast with Russian men." It is sad, but the researches don't mention for whom Russian men suit wonderfully.
I agree. God bless them. Now me? I went to the Philippines for mine. I made a good choice too.
NOT "Funny,""--SAD!!
Doc
A lot of northern Europeans settled in the southern half of South America -- Scot, English, German, etc. Also northern Italians and some Spanish can be quite fair.
We are dealing with generalities here, so it goes without saying that my comments will not apply to a specific case. I think Russia is generally a matriarchial society; at home, the women are in charge. I say this based upon knowing many Russian couples here in the US and my involvement in the Orthodox church. Its kind of humorous, but most of the Russian priests I know defer to their wives in almost all aspects of home life.
Other things to consider are the raising of children. If the Russian wife is Orthodox and religious, she will insist (correctly) that the children be baptised and raised in the Orthodox church. It would be a good idea in this case for the husband to convert to Orthodoxy and raise the children in a household of one faith. Pulling children in two dirctions of different faiths is not a good idea. Also, in the Orthodox church, marriage is a sacrement; a spiritual bond that cannot be broken. So if you are married in the Orthodox church, be advised that divorce is not an option. This is of course a very different approach to marriage than American secular society.
We Americans are egalitarian. We think all men are created equal. In my opinion, Russians do not think this way. Rather, they view a boss-subordinate relationship as the natural order of things. Some have put it rather crudely that Russians have to have an ass to kiss and an ass to kick. This characteristic is manifest in Russian political dynamics, where the central government has a great deal of power and authority (and of course corruption).
You should also give some thought to logistics. Does she have a family in Russia? If so, she will want to visit her family and possibly bring them over here. A few trips here and there and you are starting to add up the money.
Hope this helps,
Regards,
In a word, American men seem to have tired of the feminism propagated by American women
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ya think so?
I was told that on FR once....it ticked me off...but now i know wher comments like that come from :)
When we first moved to Asia, I quickly dubbed the country we were living in 'Ugly Men's Paradise'. It's just unnatural! From my observations the problem is not that these men can't find conservative women at home, they are just so shallow that they want a perfect doll woman on their arm and their chances of getting that at home are slim to none. I don't think American women are missing out on much by these guys being taken off the market by Asian women.
"If you search FR there was a thread on a study of why West Indian and African blacks score higher on 'biased tests' and seem to fare 'better' than many black Americans."
I noticed the same degree of social separation between black Americans and those from Africa and the West Indies while I was at New Jersey Institute of Technoloogy (in the Central Ward of Newark) 1975-1979. The latter just could not make sense of the former "culture", and most did not buy into it. Most hung on to a lot of "British Empirisms."
For...nookski?
Got any Russian Bride scams to go with the Nigerian business deals?
You gave me my first FR morning laugh! Thats a very funny line.
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