Together in Death: Funeral of Parents Murdered by Daughter's Boyfriend

Lancaster on line Sunday News ^ | 11/19/05 | Helen Colwell Adams

[bonfire]

Good way to put it. I felt like that about my H.S. boyfriend. Addicted.

[Dr. Scarpetta]

John 14:

In my Father's house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you.

[Dr. Scarpetta]

It's amazing how dramatic those teen episodes seemed so important to us at the time. Looking back, I can only shake my head at the drama.

[bonfire]

I just slammed doors. Our doors were metal so the whole house would shake. My mom still brings that up......

[alisasny]

I was a door slammer also and whenever I felt slighted I went to my room and stayed there.

I hear about it all the time too.

My kids on the other hand still like to get the last word in. I think I would prefer them slamming their bedroom doors and being quiet after doing so. LOL

[fabriclady]

I have not heard mention of grandparents. I pray they have grandparents to help raise them, especially the 9 year old boy.

Somewhere I read that the mother had a surviving twin sister, no mention of parents.
The children looked like they are in shock. It may be days before they fully comprehend all that has happened.

Will be interesting to see how they handle they're sister.
I feel she was involved in this mess. Her raging hormones have changed her life forever and her poor judgement has set her on a path in life that will take unknown turns.

[SweetCaroline]

....I believe the other children will blame the Kara once reality sets in.

[bonfire]

I've been thinking that very same thing the last few days.

[andysandmikesmom]

Your post #23 is exactly correct...when I look back on my teen years, I realize how much trouble I was to my parents...I guess I was 'boy crazy'...my dad was always hauling me into the house, and giving me a lecture as to why such and such a boy, was not welcome in our house, and not welcome to date me...Oh, I would get so mad, and just thought I was going to 'die'...I would get real dramatic, so much so, that my dad used to call me 'Sara Bernhardt', all the time...

But I got over my angst, as most teen-agers do...and I did not 'die', as I thought, but actually realized that my parents were doing what they believed was in my best interest, and most often, they were right...I had picked a 'bad boy', to go out with, I did not see that, my parents did, my parents put a stop to it, and I went on...

The thought of either me or my 'boyfriend', ever shooting my parents to death, just never would have entered our minds...

Thankfully, most teens during my time, my childrens time, and the teens of today, do not become so violent...teenaged angst, is just a part of growing up....its an experience that one can look at in retrospect and realize how silly we seemed at the time...unfortunately, in this current situation, this young man just did not handle his situation correctly, for whatever reason...

Our prayers should be with these children that have been orphaned and have suffered such an incredible loss...

[LauraleeBraswell]

I feel especially bad for that fourteen year old girl. Fourteen year old's don't have the best judgment in general, concerning friends and especially concerning boyfriends.

Most of us have at least one point in our lives when we misjudged a person. Usually, it just ends up hurting us emotionally. We find out, we move on and we learn from it. No permanent harm done.

I'm sure being fourteen she was enthralled by the idea of an older boy taking interest in her. Justifiably so, her parent's were not thrilled about it. Trying to keep up with the older crowd she stays out all night, Her concerned parents are worried and when she comes home they hold her and him accountable. Like good parents.

No one, including her parents thought that her boyfriend was dangerous. He wouldn't have been in their home. I feel so sorry for her siblings, but I feel especially sorry for her.

[af_vet_1981]

Kara Borden, wearing a light-colored sweater, sat with her four siblings during the funeral.

She bears some responsibility and blame for her parents' murder. She brought the wolf to their door with her sin.

[Dr. Scarpetta]

Doorslamming must be a girl thing. I think it takes many decades for the mellowing to set in.

[trussell]

Prayer ping.

My prayers continue for the family and friends of Mike and Cathy Borden. God's comfort for their loss.  

Blessings,
trussell

If you want on/off my prayer ping list, please let me know. All requests happily honored.

[Dr. Scarpetta]

Her raging hormones have changed her life forever and her poor judgement has set her on a path in life that will take unknown turns.

When she finally matures, it will be hell to live with what happened.

[alisasny]

I am now known to throw things on occasion. Several dents in our walls when super angry.

[alisasny]

Just read your posts. My situation with my mother was similar. The boy I finally did decide to date seriously and then marry was someone my mom warned to stay away from me. I am glad he didn't listen. I wasnt even a bad kid but he was just such a good boy.

Sadly she passed away 2 years before we married but she did get to see how we adored one another and it makes me very happy that she knew him so well.

[spectre]

You called it right, Doc. She was there.

I heard that they were so composed a tiny personal package of kleenex could have been passed around, and still have some left.

I don't get it..

sw

[alisasny]

"I feel she was involved in this mess."

She was involved in being defiant which led to the slaughter of her parents. I just cant blame her for the slaughter with the knowledge we currently have.

[Dr. Scarpetta]

my dad was always hauling me into the house, and giving me a lecture as to why such and such a boy, was not welcome in our house, and not welcome to date me...

I remember fondy the time my dad came out to the driveway to get me out of the car where I was sitting with my date. May he rest in peace.

[BARLF]

....I think the girl went willingly.

If she went willingly why didn't she stay in the car when the killer went in for the food? Together they were more apt to be noticed.

Just a thought...