Posted on 11/29/2005 6:01:20 PM PST by Nomorjer Kinov
And somebody took me in? Why naturally I'd trash his house and write grafitti all over his walls. What the hell do you think I'd do?
Doesn't everyone?
Therein might lie the problem, said psychologist Harald Graning of Confidential Counseling of Westminster.
While the Browns might look like the ultimate ingrates, their response is not unnatural, he said.
"Suppose that you were living your life," he said, "and all of a sudden God came down and destroyed your house? You'd probably be pissed."
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Suppose that you were living your life, and a deadly hurricane began tracking toward your house? You made unwise choices for whatever reasons, and suffered devastating consequences, but you and your family escaped with your lives, and God provided a way out of the devastation, and a home for you and your family with all of the necessities of life. Those provisions were free, with only the expectation that you would bear the responsibilty of maintaining them, and leaving them in the condition in which you found them for the next family that might be in need of them. Wouldn't you be thankful? Wouldn't you be appreciative enough to meet those expectations because you would want to help someone else the way you had been helped?
However, you could follow the counsel of the "psychologist" - or, perhaps your "natural" instincts - and blame good, and excuse evil, and be offended that the provisions were too little, and too late. He would say that is "not unnatural", and he is a psychologist, so he must know - right?
I tend to believe your experience was the norm
remember hurricane Floyd in N.C. 1998? I saw the FEMA homes there as late as 2002...still there for all i know.
Yeah, the problems arise when they make the dung shine on your property...
Well stated.
In my opinion, Mark Morial was the most corrupt mayor we have ever had, and that is saying a lot. I would not be surprised if the levee's poor construction had something to do with kickbacks to him.
I'm sorry, but this is no excuse. Accepting charity doesn't demean you. Good people would appreciate the help. This case sounds like they didn't get the best of everything they thought they had coming to them.
something I have to tell myself however, is that "giving" to a needy person or family can help the giver more than the receiver, and we can't always look at where or who our giving goes to....we're going to be dissappointed.....we have to instead, focus on how charity is improving our lives, our outlooks, our humanity, our Christianity....
lately, I have been more prone to help people that I know personally, or neices or nephews that are struggling with young families.....I don't even like to give to the food bank anymore.....I'd rather bring stuff personally to someone I know that needs it....
WELL, THEY TURNED THE DOME INTO A GHETTO IN THREE DAYS, WHY IS THIS SURPRISING?
>> On an almost yearly basis, they raised the rents of everyone but us - gotta be a connection.
My in-laws have a little rental empire of 25-30 houses in a town of about 50,000. I've watched them operate for many years, and helped some when there (I helped swap out a water heater on Black Friday while there for Thanksgiving).
Let me assure you, there was most definitely a connection, if your landlord was at all like them.
BFL
I was taught to "pass it on." If the family had been busy working and going even further to fix the house up, and had tried to do some charity work on their own, they wouldn't have had any energy left over to "vent."
Natural response, my derriere.
This is sad, but true. If one wants to do good, one should do good. Just don't expect any thanks for your efforts.
People who find themselves in need of charity often have poor impulse control, for one reason or another. They may frequently lash out. It has ever been such.
Helping the poor, clothing the naked, feeding the hungry and sheltering the homeless is it's own reward. You will get no other, so don't expect it. But you are not doing it for yourself, anyway.
These folks better hope they don't get in a similier situation in the future. Someone out out there is making a list and I'm sure they'll be checking it twice, gonna find out who's been naughty and who's been nice. ( Merry Christmas)
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