Posted on 04/12/2007 9:22:51 AM PDT by metalmanx2j
I have a friend who is in a very difficult situation. He had impregnated his girlfriend and she is planning on getting an abortion. He is vehemently opposed to this and is willing to pay for anything but an abortion.
Doesn’t the father have any rights in this? Shouldn’t his wants and actions be considered in a court of law? Can anyone site a court case or record that has some kind of precident in a father’s rights?
This is just sick that if he wants the baby, HIS BABY, whom he helped create, he has no control over his child’s birth.
If anyone can help me and him out, please direct me.
Thank you.
About 15 years ago, I heard that a state legislature, I think in Penn., debated a bill which stated that a married lady couldn’t get an abortion without her husband’s consent, but it didn’t pass either house.
Is he old enough to marry?
And the flip side is that, if he didn’t want the child, she could force him to pay and pay for 18 years.
Men have no reproductive rights once they drop trou. Sad but true.
Define "anything".
He has no power but the power of prayer and persuasion. Many will pray for your friend's baby as a result of this thread.
If possible, perhaps the woman can be persuaded to visit a Pregnancy Care Center for counseling to consider the alternatives of marriage or adoption.
Your friend has made a dreadful mistake that may very well end in the sacrifice of his child to the modern death cult.
IN a word, no.
The woman has an absolute “right” to decide what to do, so his only hope is to persuade her. The courts will do nothing.
He could consider marrying her if she would agree to keep the baby. He could pay for her to have the baby and then get it adopted. But in either case, she would have to agree to cooperate. And she could change her mind any time she wanted. I doubt if there is any way to enforce this with a contract.
He probably should have thought about this before he slept with her.
I’m not sure being a sperm donor confers any legal or moral rights to him yet. But I also hate that “we are pregnant” thing some guys say. I loved my husband. I loved the unborn baby I was carrying. But “we” were never pregnant. I was.
I’m against abortion and it should be severely restricted. But even more against someone infringing on my rights. What’s next, the “father” forcing a pregnant mom to take her pre-natal vitamins or drink milk or have certain procedures?
I’m sorry for the fellow in this situation. I’m sorry that knowing someone is willing to take this baby (I’m assuming he is willing to do that if he doesn’t want her to have an abortion) doesn’t dissuade this woman and more women in this same situation.
It always bothers me that a shortage of adoptable babies and
a demand for abortion co-exist.
It's a shame that you are apprently completely unappreciative of all the things your husband did for when you were pregnant and all the sacrifices he made and was willing to make for you and the child.
A sadly all-too-typical example of the modern attitude of atomistic individualism.
He has no say whatsoever and not only that if the child was born he wouldnt have any say in its custody either.
Fortunately for all mothers, fathers should, by law, be forced contribute $$$ until the child has reached majority, whether or not they had "intended to become" fathers in the first place.
This conversation is only around the "object" of sex, not the value of an innocent human being and the kind of world he/she could be entering.
Sadly, in the world today, especially in America, sex is only thought of as a "recreation and sport" and the idea of parenthood, is secondary, if at all.
I have a friend whose wife aborted their child while they were married and told him about it later.
Get off your high horse.
Which is what I said, but there is no indication in this case that such an agreement was made.
No legal rights whatsoever. Sorry. My only suggestion, if the young woman is absolutely determined on this, is to go to her parents and beg for their help. If she’s NOT absolutely determined, that would probably be the worst possible thing.
A dozen roses and a big fat engagement ring would work wonders.
No. None.
This is “equality” and “freedom of choice”, you see.
We ALL get to pay for it, and women are free to choose. The masculine gender does not exist UNLESS the child is allowed to live by the female. Then he gets to PAY.
Prayer BUMP!
He should be so sure that this is his baby- maybe she is planning to abort the child to cover up an affair.
“women are free to choose”
Men are free to choose as well:
1. Choose to have a vasectomy
2. Choose to use a condom
3. Choose to keep zipper zipped
SMART men make these choices. Only foolish men get forced to pay for an unwanted child.
The only “rights” he has is to pay child support should she change her mind....
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