Posted on 05/19/2011 1:44:01 PM PDT by Beaten Valve
After 25 years of marriage we learned last week that Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenneger are separating. Now, this week, we have heard the revelations that the former California governor fathered a child with a household employee over a decade ago.
As surprising as this news is to some, I doubt it can come as a complete shock to Ms. Shriver and I believe it need not signal the end of her marriage.
Infidelity on the part of a husband or wife is not a reason to erase one's marital vows. In fact, in the aftermath of an affair, even in the aftermath of keeping a secret about a love child for a decade, spouses can reaffirm their commitments to one another and resolve to know one another at a more intimate level than ever.
Marriage, as I have written before, is a terrifically difficult journey for the vast majority of those who commit to it. Passion wanes, often ending entirely. If couples are not linked by rare and deep connections at the level of the soul, they come to feel entirely alone. For these reasons and others I believe the structure of marriage itself must be changed.
Surely, Ms. Shriver understood that in marrying a man who needed to build up his muscles as no man before him had ever done, a man who needed to be a film star, a man who needed to marry into a famous American family and a man who still needed the affirmation of a state's voters, that she was marrying a man with deep needs for admiration and affirmation.
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Let me fix that headline:
Maria Schriver should take Arnold Schwarznegger for everything he’s got.
'cause it's the Kennedy way?
Shrinks like Ablow would starve to death if their customers were not crazy.
What if she knew of the infidelity all along and was complicit in keeping the child's parentage under wraps in the name of political expediency?
It's a possibility and does not give her much moral ground to stand on if true.
Disgusted.
Why should we think he wants her back? He probably had a pre-nup and I don't think they have any kids (do they?). If that's the case there isn't jack she can do.
Actually, it is, along with abuse, addiction, and alcoholism.
The story they are telling is he just told her about it, after 10 years. But if she did know about it, I’d still take him to the cleaners anyway for what he did, regardless of when she found out about it. If that was the case, that she knew about it, she did him a favor by staying by his side for the sake of his political career.
Ablow should go blow. Maria was a woman in love, not a psychologist when she married Arnie. Where is Arnie's responsibility in all this?
They, in fact, have 4 children ages 21 to 14. The youngest is 5 days different in age from his “love child”.
According to Wikipedia, they have four children:
Katherine Eunice Shriver Schwarzenegger (born December 13, 1989 in Los Angeles);
Christina Maria Aurelia Schwarzenegger (born July 23, 1991 in Los Angeles);
Patrick Schwarzenegger (born September 18, 1993 in Los Angeles); and
Christopher Sargent Shriver Schwarzenegger (born September 27, 1997 in Los Angeles).
The continuation of the article points out that she should have realized that he had a deep need for affirmation and admiration based on deep insecurities. Now that things are in the open the psychiatrist says they may be able to reconnects on a deeper level with professional help.
Nevertheless, she is going to have to forgive the fact that both she and the house servant were pregnant at almost exactly the same time. So, it was not like in the later months when it might be difficult for a big strong man to make love to a very pregnant women he was seeking need fulfillment. That might be easier to forgive. [When a friend of mine told me that her husband who had been in Europe for 4 months had been unfaithful there, she was able to forgive him because one of his attractions was that he was a vigorous and lusty man.]
It may be harder for her to forgive the long term affair he has had with another woman who has just come forward. Unless she had already accepted it. I have always wondered when some corageous political wife is going to step forward and say, “I can accept that my very popular husband may fall into temptation sometimes. But, so long as he comes home regularly, pays the bills, is good to me and the children, PRACTICES SAFE SEX, and makes love to me when I need it, I really don’t care, and neither should you.”
Just another back-door attack on Judeo Christin values I see.
She’s Catholic, I believe. An annulment would be required.
“I doubt it can come as a complete shock to Ms. Shriver and I believe it need not signal the end of her marriage.”
Perhaps no complete shock, and of course no one has to do anything about anything if they don’t want to. It just depends on the level of misery one is willing to live through and what kind of example they want to provide for their kids. I say life is too short to spend it with a skirt-chaser, drunk, and/or abuser while the kids watch it being put up with. Good for her to get away from someone who obviously doesn’t respect her and couldn’t possibly bring about the kind of happiness everyone deserves.
They have four children.
For all practical purposes, Maria is married to The Swimmer.
“Infidelity on the part of a husband or wife is not a reason to erase one’s marital vows.”
I think Jesus would disagree with the author:
Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery
That’s the ONE thing you can split the sheets over
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