Posted on 04/12/2016 12:07:42 AM PDT by Marie
Today, we found out that we've lost our 22 year old son.
He'd been missing for a couple of days and they found the body this evening. He wrecked his motorcycle and ended up in a ditch where nobody could see.
I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to accept this. I don't know what to do with this.
And I can't pray.
I'm not mad at G-d or anything like that. I mean that I have no words. I don't know how.
Can you please pray for me? Just add me to your prayer list for a little while?
I cannot grasp that this loving young man is gone from my life forever. I don't know how to be all right with that.
I know that I need to sleep, but that seems like such a strange thing to do. I don't know how to function. What's normal when he's not on this planet?
Dear Lord, I miss him so much already.
I have no idea how long it’ll be before I ‘snap out of it’.
No one can tell you how to grieve, or put a time limit on your pain. There's no blueprint. It may take a very long time. Just know you WILL get through it. God is always with you, and He knows the words you can't say. "for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him." ~ Jesus (Matthew 6:8)
(((Marie))) Prayers for you and for your family, in His Holy Name.
There’s no pain as great as the pain of losing a child... a son venturing into manhood... the dreams for him. It’s hard to imagine what you’re going through.
I’ll pray for you ... I wish it was possible to do more... You’re in my heart Marie. May God watch over you and protect you.
Precious Sister in Christ, I just saw this post for the first time, and I am so very sorry about your loss. Please know that I will pray for you. I am confident that God will bring you out into the light on the other side of this darkness. Know that you are loved deeply by Him and by those whose lives you have touched on this forum. May His arms surround you with comfort and peace.
Faith
It took me a year to know for sure that I was coming through it. During this year I functioned normally and people were kind of amazed that I appeared so strong. I don't know how I did it except prayer for strength.
Be kind to yourself, cry when you need to and ask God for his help. God Bless you dear freeper friend.
You said it right when you wrote “there’s a long way to go”.
I know a family situation years ago, when a relatively young woman passed away from cancer that she had fought for 5 years. A fairly close relative of mine. Her parents were especially aware that they were mourning their “child” though she was past grown. They felt there was something almost inherently “wrong” with losing her while they yet lived. She was the “baby” of that family.
As it was they had been on a long journey trying to support her cancer treatment and all the ups and downs she had. They were acutely aware when she decided not to fight it any more - she had had enough. So they waited until the final event all the while knowing she was resigned to it.
I mention this, to say, the future if your dearly beloved son had lived, is not knowable. What would have come to pass? Who knows? I believe that only God knows.
Is it possible God allowed your son to go before something happened later that nobody should have to endure?
Speculation, I realize.
The only other thought I have to share is that the God I believe in lost his Son for a very high cause and pure purpose. Possibly, eventually, you might discover some purpose in this terrible loss that now eludes you.
I pray for such to reveal itself in time.
Meanwhile, the emptiness and helplessness you feel is perfectly understandable.
Maybe keeping your son as close in thought and presence in your life is the best you can do until other things eventually happen...
Prayers for you and family, Marie.
Hard to understand he’s gone...but God has His plans for everyone of us.....death is not final.
You’ll get an answer when God is good and ready.
The only advice I can offer is to take it a day at a time.
My family will be praying for you, and your tragic loss is reminding me to (continue to) love my children unconditionally. My youngest son is 14 and we're going through a trying period with him.
May peace be with you.
I don't understand life or death, even at age 62...what is the meaning...we live, we die...
I think of the poetic words...there are no happy endings....so just give me a happy middle and a very happy start....
so hopefully you had a terrific start with your son, and a happy middle....
cherish those years....they were a blessing....
God bless you....you will get thru...
I was able to experience an incredible amount before I got married at 33, particularly living in Germany for 4+ years while in the Army. It wasn't just the travel, the jobs I had were challenging and fulfilling. For example, my last 18 months, I was the Supply Officer (S-4) for a 600 man ADA battalion spread over 45 miles and 3 air bases. I was part of a team that turned a C-3 battalion into a C-1 battalion in 18 months.
I'm not sure I would totally recommend being a dad again at 48, but I think I'm handling it ok...lol. His Confirmation Mass is in two days, so I'm going to use that as a launch pad for re-engaging with him.
I'm doubly blessed in that I have a grandson who turns 6 in a few months, and those two tomcats are a handful.
Prayer up
Prayers on the way for your son and your
family..
God Bless
Thank you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m praying for you.
I am so very sorry. Praying for you.
prayers up. So sorry for your loss.
thank you, grammy.
You have my thoughts and prayers.. I am so sorry.
I just saw this on the sidebar. Praying for you right now. I have no words of my own, but underneath are the everlasting arms.
It’s okay, honey. We’re getting by. Each day is better than the last and we’re focusing on the things that we’re grateful for.
Thank you for your love, prayer, and support. We wouldn’t have made it this far if it weren’t for people like you.
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