Posted on 08/29/2013 1:31:42 PM PDT by Olog-hai
Men feel worse about themselves when their female partners succeed, according to a new report.
Men’s subconscious self-esteem is related to their female partners’ successes and failures, the study showed.
However, the same does not ring true for women—they do thrive in the shadow of a successful husband. …
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Only took how long to rediscover that traditional family works?Men DO feel worse about themselves when their partners are more successful (but women are fine when the roles are reversed)
I talk to this really nice guy at the gym. He’s working three minimum wage jobs while his girlfriend goes through school for her PhD. He thinks they’re going to get married when she’s through. For his sake, I hope so. But I suspect he’s Mr. Right Now. Once she gets the PhD. he won’t look so good and she’ll have other PhD’s to pick from. I hope I’m wrong. But it seemed to me they were set up for failure.
Nothing I would love more than to see my wife be more successful than me.
One of the worst things you can do is have men and women (as well as boys and girls) compete against one another.
Wouldn’t bother me a bit.
My wife makes more money and has more money than me. That’s just fine...I can spend her money as well as mine. (snicker)
I wouldn’t...
Any rich girls out there want to get married?
Martha Washington was wealthier than George Washington. (She also had more debt)
Yep. Me too. In fact my wife even does the finances Oh Noez! It’s ok I kill the icky bugs and take out the trash. ;-)
Are you sure you're not my long lost twin brother?
Oh, how sad.
Yes, but it might bother her.
I think that this study missed the boat, because what I've repeatedly seen is that women just don't respect a less successful, or non-successful man.
I imagine that it might be hard to get them to admit to it in a study, though.
Unfortunately I think you are more right than wrong on this issue. I’m going through the same thing with my oldest grandson who turned down a great financial opportunity in another city to remain near his current lust who is going to law school. He is smart but only has two years in college. Her parents tolerate her dating a blue collar but marriage to one just isn’t going to be in the picture.
My folks always preached the “marry your own kind” theme and included race, religion, education level, life goals and aspirations in that package. I, of course, knew better and figured I’d show them how wrong they were. Sometimes parents do know what’s best.
That's not the question, it's what your wife thinks that matters. Or are you hoping for alimony when the predictable happens?
Bingo.
Is it remotely possible that men feel worse about themselves because their more successful wives treat them with disrespect? And so do her friends?
A nasty little secret of feminism is that women have always expected to marry “up,” to a man higher in social and economic status than they are. The old Prince Charming bit. You may notice the remarkable dearth of fairy tales about the poor boy marrying Princess Charming.
When most men were of higher status than most women, almost all women could marry up. As that gap closes, upper status women have a shrinking pool of even higher status men to choose from. And they resent the hell out of it.
They complain about there not being any good men around. Au contraire, there are a lot of good men around, depending on your definition. There just aren’t a lot of handsome, rich, intelligent and romantic men around, and there never has been.
Those who do exist have a truly vast pool of talent to choose their mates from.
“Sometimes parents do know what’s best.”
I suppose it’s possible that it could work out. But she’ll start at around $60k. He’s never made more than $20k and it’s taking him 60 hrs a week to do it. He has an awesome build as two of his jobs are at the gym. His other is at UPS, schlepping their big loads. I think he’s a boy toy. But when it’s marriage time she’ll look elsewhere. They could have married several years ago. And, she’s close enough to graduation that they could have done it any time. But she’s always begged off. Poor sap.
It depends what major the PhD is in....
My girl makes a good bit of coin more than I; I’ve got no problems with that. I am happy I am with someone that is successful and it makes me want to work harder is all. No biggie, everyone wins.
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