Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.
Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.
1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.
6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.
8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.
Feminism has turned women into whores and told them that they should like it that way. Almost all her ‘reasons’ revolved around this simple fact. Men can have sex with woman and not commit to even a date. Women allow them to do this. If women didn’t allow it, men would not do it.
Certain people only come along once in awhile...
Well sounds though you learned from it at least...keep your head up...that person could come along any time...
So much cultural change has come from those on the margins of society. The upper class Marxists who led the riots in the streets in the 60s and 70s. The drop out beats who lambasted the culture. William Burroughs was a trust fund kid (Burroughs adding machine). Couldn't have made a living as a junkie homosexual wife-killer otherwise.
Even the beats and upper echelon hippies were aware enough that EVERYONE couldn't "drop out" of society. Someone needed to keep the subway (or buses) running, someone needed to clean the sewers, all of those tasks that "normal" people did. It's easy to sit on the sidelines of life (with a thick wallet) and say "this sucks" (as Hollywood does today, moaning that they only make $20,000,000 a picture instead of $50,000,000). But what do they propose replacing it with? A "liveable wage" handout for no work? Who contributes when there is no shame in not working and no reward in doing the job?
No they will not. People always want what they can not have or can not have easily. It is human nature.
>>(P.S. My one and only wife of twenty years is great—I really dodged the bullet.)
Congrats.
Still not married and although it’s in other ways, I’ve learned that not getting something we want (an acceptance letter from a specific college, a certain job, a house in a specific neighborhood, etc.) sometimes is dodging a bullet.
More common is when I’m running late and get out on the road/highway and come across a scene of a bad accident (maybe 10-15 minutes ahead of my time reaching the area). Had I been “on time” that could’ve been me. I’m grateful when it isn’t. We won’t even always be aware of such moments/events.
A female friend of mine has an engineering degree, married a man with an associates degree, worked in the skilled trades. She was mocked for marrying down. They had two boys. After he ended up running construction sites and she called him a project manager, they stopped criticizing his background because he had the title “manager” and 100K income.
She’s too stupid to know she’s ignorant...yes, that’s what I meant...she left out the number #0.
Her type, i.e., feminists, have convinced men need to be docile, but when they act docile, they are told (we) need to be manly. So we act many and are wrong and naildraggers or couched that burp and fart, and when we act more docile or “feminized”, we aren’t manly enough...bottom line is we aren’t needed or good enough...so we/they give up. I interlace they and we as I am permanently taken.
The #11 is dads have disappeared and women these days get approval in all the wrong ways, not from their dad, and what is left is a women most men don’t want.
I read that entire article. Boy is it annoying when someone refers to their Husband or Wife a their ‘partner’. I always think about Starsky 7 Hutch or Riggs & Murtaugh. Or a law firm.
I hate these Leftist twits!
BTW I also hate to hear about a 50 year old persons’ ‘boyfriend’ or girlfriend’. I just hate that. I am weird that way.
Sometimes just once, period. What I’ve learned could fill a set of old encyclopedias. Cold comfort, however.
Unless you just have abnormal standards or a jerk you’re probably compatible with lots of people...
“A friend of mine wanted to marry a Russian girl. Last I saw of him, he was supporting her family, and she was delaying coming over.”
Sounds like a scam ...
Abnormal standards ? Expecting them to be attractive and not possessing many of the ugly traits of so many of today’s females as discussed in the thread. Hell, even asking for no tats seems like it’s too much to demand. Yuck.
Of course, I’m a bit... unusual, and that can be a challenge. I have health issues, too, which can be very off-putting for a young woman. Well, that’s the short answer.
LOL!
“Wanted: Good woman with boat and motor. Must be able to cook, clean and generally attend to the needs of a man. Send picture of boat and motor to...”
I think I love the AT&T girl...
Slate as in flat and rectangular, as in a writing tablet.
I laughed at her cringing at the notion of criticizing hooking up. Just a few post upthread from yours, though, someone says how important sexual compatibility is. If you can determine sexual compatibility without already being married to that person, then you’ve been ‘hooking up.’ NTTAWWT lol
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