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We need to talk about sexual assault in marriage
vox.com ^ | Mar 8, 2018 | Anonymous

Posted on 03/09/2018 4:08:27 PM PST by Pollster1

Eight years into our marriage, sitting in a therapist’s office with my husband, I mustered all my courage and said my deepest, darkest truth: “When we have sex, I feel like I’m being violated.” The unwanted sex at times made me sick: Once I had to run straight from bed to the bathroom, where I retched into the toilet. I spared him and the therapist that detail.

My husband shrugged and, staring ahead with more indifference than disdain, replied, “She’s always so melodramatic.”

. . .

I acquiesced. At the time, it didn’t feel like a choice; it felt inevitable. I lived every evening dreading the signals of my husband’s desire. I bargained my way out of sex as often as I could. I gloried in being sick enough to have the right to refuse.

On the nights when I couldn’t get out of it, we used a method that I had taught myself to tolerate and that he, astoundingly, tolerated as well: I read a book to distract myself for as long as I could while he did the thing he needed to do. I did not let him kiss me for the last several years of our marriage. That was the rule . . . and I don’t have to pretend to like it. This satisfied him.

. . .

I am a humanities professor who teaches feminist theory, models feminist behavior for my students and my own children, and has achieved success in a male-dominated field. Last year, my teenage son and I chanted in support of women’s reproductive rights at the Women’s March in Washington . . .

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To: Pollster1
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21 posted on 03/09/2018 4:28:13 PM PST by Snickering Hound
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To: Pollster1

She is not well. Probably abuse as a child led to mental illness. Husband probably tried to keep better/worse vow.


22 posted on 03/09/2018 4:28:33 PM PST by Raycpa
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To: Pollster1

Just exactly who is included in “We” and why?


23 posted on 03/09/2018 4:28:35 PM PST by Fungi
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To: EEGator

Ya, perfect hah.


24 posted on 03/09/2018 4:28:38 PM PST by Bulwyf
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To: Pollster1
My husband shrugged and, staring ahead with more indifference than disdain, replied, “She’s always so melodramatic.”

Dude....run.

25 posted on 03/09/2018 4:29:16 PM PST by BookmanTheJanitor
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To: Pollster1
That's not sexual assault. And it only took 8 years for her to not talk about it to her husband until she took him to therapy. Unsurprising coming from a woman who teaches feminist theory.
26 posted on 03/09/2018 4:33:08 PM PST by Trillian
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To: vooch

“A significant percentage of American women are man haters.”

You got that right. I was at an office function yesterday, and the two chief feminists of the place brought a penis cake and penis balloons because a man was leaving the company. Then they practiced saying the word penis in as many sentences as they could, giggling and acting like fools.

If anyone even used a scientific term for a female body part, all hell would break loose with these shrews. Feminists are big time bullies and haters.


27 posted on 03/09/2018 4:33:43 PM PST by Luke21
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To: Pollster1

She should find another nasty woman and settle down. I’ll bet she would be trilled the spend the rest of her days with hillary.


28 posted on 03/09/2018 4:34:37 PM PST by JoSixChip (He is Batman!)
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To: Pollster1

“I rarely post articles, but this illustrates the culture wars better than almost anything I’ve read in years.”

This also illustrates that both of them might be mentally ill. Then again, Liberalism is a mental illness.


29 posted on 03/09/2018 4:37:19 PM PST by vladimir998 (Apparently I'm still living in your head rent free. At least now it isn't empty.)
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To: Trillian
That's not sexual assault. And it only took 8 years for her to not talk about it to her husband until she took him to therapy.

Seriously, if your wife is reading a book during sex and does not want to kiss you. I think the fact that there is a problem is obvious. I wonder what position they use that she can read a book during. And I'm guessing he is no minuteman.
30 posted on 03/09/2018 4:38:04 PM PST by JoSixChip (He is Batman!)
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To: Pollster1

Surprised she didn’t come right out and report her husband to the authorities as a rapist - that would have improved her academic credentials significantly.....


31 posted on 03/09/2018 4:39:48 PM PST by Intolerant in NJ
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To: Pollster1
This is an article from American Thinker regarding this poster in Vox:

American Thinker article

32 posted on 03/09/2018 4:42:16 PM PST by OldMissileer (Atlas, Titan, Minuteman, PK. Winners of the Cold War)
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To: JoSixChip
Happy International Women's Day!
33 posted on 03/09/2018 4:42:33 PM PST by Trillian
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To: dforest

Agreed.


34 posted on 03/09/2018 4:43:07 PM PST by Secret Agent Man ( Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: Fai Mao

She is. What is sad there are a lot like her out there.


35 posted on 03/09/2018 4:43:07 PM PST by painter ( Isaiah: �Woe to those who call evil good and good evil,")
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To: Pollster1

If the story is really true. I would not be surprised to learn that there is not a shred of truth in this entire article.


36 posted on 03/09/2018 4:44:37 PM PST by Bigg Red (Francis is a Nincompope.)
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To: left that other site
last time I checked, divorce is legal in this country.

In her article she stated that divorce was too hard because it is much harder than calling Uber.

37 posted on 03/09/2018 4:46:17 PM PST by OldMissileer (Atlas, Titan, Minuteman, PK. Winners of the Cold War)
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To: Tzimisce

“I am a humanities professor who teaches feminist theory, models feminist behavior for my students and my own children, and has achieved success in a male-dominated field. Last year, my teenage son and I chanted in support of women’s reproductive rights at the Women’s March in Washington . . .”

What can you say? The guy F’d up in picking this whack job.


38 posted on 03/09/2018 4:48:21 PM PST by Bonemaker (invictus maneo)
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To: Pollster1

I feel sorry for "her" man. He could enjoy live so much more, but for being anchored to such an unhappy soul. But, perhaps "he" is as much a sad sack as she is, and they deserve one another. But ... let them lecture me on how to enjoy my life? I don't think so. I've no desire to be as pathetic and unhappy as they are.


39 posted on 03/09/2018 4:49:02 PM PST by so_real ( "The Congress of the United States recommends and approves the Holy Bible for use in all schools.")
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To: PGR88
But what is her husband? My bet is he’s a beta-male who also likes to virtue signal his SJW credentials.

There is something much worse going on with that man. If he actually enters her while she is reading a book or trying to stop throwing up he has some serious issues. Even trying to keep an erection knowing she can't stand him shows his complete lack of self-respect.

40 posted on 03/09/2018 4:50:36 PM PST by OldMissileer (Atlas, Titan, Minuteman, PK. Winners of the Cold War)
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