We once looked at adopting while in New Mexico. My wife had just given birth. The lady running the classes pulled us aside and recommended we not pursue it. Why? Because many of the kids available would be 7-8 years old, been sexually abused, and she said the baby would be at risk. She herself had adopted 3 kinds, but said there were some “difficult times” preventing abuse.
We looked in to it later, in California. The woman running the local program told us since we were military, we couldn’t offer a permanent home. We were “too transient” to adopt! Pretty sure she was lying, but it wasn’t worth a legal fight.
Kids, not “kinds”. Shouldn’t post while eating...