Posted on 06/04/2023 1:21:44 PM PDT by DallasBiff
Dear Jane,
I am the mother of a bright, beautiful, friendly 15-year-old who I love very much. But in recent years, a pit of jealousy has started growing over just how talented and popular my daughter has become. I have spent much of my life feeling little more than average. I’m not ugly – but I’m not pretty. I’m not dumb – but I’m not what you would consider intelligent. I have some good friends – but popular is never a word someone would use to describe me.
My daughter, on the other hand, is spectacular. She has an enormous group of friends, all of whom fight spend time with her, she’s one of the highest achieving students in her class, and she has a confidence that most adults can only dream of.
I should be proud of all this, I know I should. But instead I’ve started resenting her for it – despising her even. And I find myself trying to put her down at every available opportunity. I know how silly this sounds. A grown woman being jealous of a 15 year old is crazy enough, but of her own daughter? But I can’t help thinking to myself: 'What does she have that I don’t?
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That rings a bell. I saw a lot of Law & Order reruns in the years when I had a baby all the time.
I misunderstood who was who.
😂
My mother in law was jealous of her daughter, my future wife. It was pathetic.
It is sad and pathetic to be stunted for a lifetime.
LOL
All women need to save up for a lonely old folk's home. They may need the money. Most kids these days have no time for their widowed mothers. They say they're much too busy with their jobs.
Just this week I had an elderly woman who was trying to work because her husband is in hospice. She was stressed and her daughter was too busy to help. I asked her about her daughter and her unwillingness to come to see her. She said, "I'm sure my daughter would be there for me if I really needed her." Total denial.
Your husband's genes.
Often the columnist who receives these messages will edit them consierably before publication, for a number of reasons, such as changing identifiers to protect privacy, condensing for length, tidying up grammar, etc. So you are probably seeing an altered version based on a letter, or possibly several letters describing similar dilemmas.
Just here for the thread of good biting commentary, and to the maximum Freeper credit , you did not fail me.
Here is an actress and her mom and grandmother.
All three are not well, they are er... average at best.
The daughter was able to buy a $2 million dollar home at 22 years old because of her big bosums on display in a tv show.
https://media.zenfs.com/en/people_218/62b64d211b7e4e05fc6fc334d500f776
https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/sydney-sweeney-throws-her-mom-233429165.html
My Mom and I had a rocky relationship. I was really close to my Dad and I was very independent. She couldn’t control me and I never sought her advice. We were oil and water. I always chalked it up to her having a bad childhood.
Oddly enough I was the sibling who ended up taking care of her in her old age until she passed 2 years ago.
It seems a bit contrived, and fake.
Yep, especially when you read the second letter.
I wonder if "Jane" takes any real letters.
Men and women are wired differently.
Hate crime!
Given the nature of women especially today
No shortage of daily doubles there
(It always be Art not Alex to me)
How sad. I came from a Latino family and that is very rare.
Welcome to the age of women in the social media era.
That's not odd at all. That's usually what happens. The favorite daughter never had to work hard to get her mother's affection. The non-favorite daughter is there for the mother, still working for that affection years later.
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