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'If you want to find true happiness, just fake it' (The New New Feminism)
The Observer ^ | September 3, 2006 | Amelia Hill

Posted on 09/03/2006 7:49:20 PM PDT by MAD-AS-HELL

'If you want to find true happiness, just fake it'

In her latest book, the feminist icon Fay Weldon has caused a sensation by turning the beliefs of the sisterhood upside down. By Amelia Hill Amelia Hill Sunday September 3, 2006

Observer Telling women not to expect orgasms but to fake them, and to praise their partner lavishly afterwards, is not advice normally associated with a woman who has been in the vanguard of feminism for four decades.

Nevertheless, Fay Weldon gives short shrift to the views for which feminists have fought so bitterly over the years. In her latest book, she not only warns high-flying women that they should expect to end up single, she also suggests that sexual pleasure may be incompatible with high-powered careers and that women should simply accept they are less capable of being happy than men.

'Eighty per cent of women only sometimes - or never - experience orgasm. Facts are facts and there we are. Deal with it,' she writes in What Makes Women Happy?, to be published this month by Fourth Estate.

According to Weldon, sensible members of the sisterhood should, therefore, follow the example so graphically set by the actor Meg Ryan in the 1989 movie When Harry Met Sally, and fake orgasms whenever necessary.

'If you are happy and generous-minded, you will fake it and then leap out of bed and pour him champagne, telling him, "You are so clever" or however you express enthusiasm,' she says. 'Faking is kind to male partners ... Otherwise they too may become anxious and so less able to perform. Do yourself and him a favour, sister: fake it.'

(Excerpt) Read more at observer.guardian.co.uk ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial
KEYWORDS: fake; feminism; happiness; orgasm; sexes; women
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To: Fairview
Frankly, there is no career in the world that can compensate for the joy of cuddling up in the arms of a man who loves you, both of you exhausted, triumphant, and thoroughly happy, maybe laughing a little at nothing because you're so happy.

You made me smile.

And, anyone who has been in a long and happy marriage is probably smiling, too.

 

SoS


21 posted on 09/03/2006 8:26:33 PM PDT by Song of the South ( = Zip-a-dee-doo-dah =)
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To: Hildy
"Look up and sigh
Even if it's a lie..."

Boz Scaggs, Simone

22 posted on 09/03/2006 8:28:03 PM PDT by Howlin
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To: Man50D
LOL, I'm a woman and I don't cuddle.
23 posted on 09/03/2006 8:30:17 PM PDT by eyespysomething
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To: sgtbono2002

I agree.


24 posted on 09/03/2006 8:30:40 PM PDT by eyespysomething
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To: MAD-AS-HELL

now THAT is funny.


25 posted on 09/03/2006 8:31:34 PM PDT by patton (Sanctimony frequently reaps its own reward.)
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To: MAD-AS-HELL
PT-141 will get her horny, and Oxytocin will get her off.

Those are new drugs (not yet approved) that are pretty interesting.

26 posted on 09/03/2006 8:37:21 PM PDT by gaijin
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To: MAD-AS-HELL; MeekOneGOP; Conspiracy Guy; DocRock; King Prout; SandyInSeattle; Darksheare; OSHA; ...
'Eighty per cent of women only sometimes - or never - experience orgasm.'

I'm needed.


27 posted on 09/03/2006 8:37:53 PM PDT by Slings and Arrows ("I've never seen so many testicles in my life.")
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To: Howlin
I don't know if this joke is too dirty, but if it's gone in the morning, I'll know!

Why is a man like a snowstorm?

Because you don't know when he's coming, how many inches you'll get, or how long it'll stay.

28 posted on 09/03/2006 8:38:03 PM PDT by Hildy
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To: lionheart 247365

If she didn't she wouldn't be Hillary. Everything else about her is fake so why would one expect this to be different.


29 posted on 09/03/2006 8:38:28 PM PDT by Past Your Eyes (Some people are too stupid to be ashamed.)
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To: lionheart 247365

***I'll BET Hillary fakes it ***

Fakes with whom? or what? I would bet the farm Bubba hasnt seen the Elephant in years. If she has to fake it with B.O.B. (battery operated boyfriend) whats the use in doing it at all? The same could be said if she eats at the Y.


30 posted on 09/03/2006 8:39:36 PM PDT by sgtbono2002 (The fourth estate is a fifth column.)
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To: patton

yep! ;)


31 posted on 09/03/2006 8:47:51 PM PDT by leda (Life is always what you make it!)
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To: eyespysomething
LOL, I'm a woman and I don't cuddle.

That's good to hear. I don't think a guy should be required to do so either.

32 posted on 09/03/2006 8:49:59 PM PDT by Moonman62 (The issue of whether cheap labor makes America great should have been settled by the Civil War.)
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To: Fairview

I think she is faking her numbers as well.


33 posted on 09/03/2006 8:50:48 PM PDT by TASMANIANRED (The Internet is the samizdat of liberty..)
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To: MAD-AS-HELL
'Eighty per cent of women only sometimes - or never - experience orgasm. Facts are facts and there we are. Deal with it,'

It's a learnable skill. But it requires letting go of a lot of counterinstinctual psychological programming. Deal with it. ;)

34 posted on 09/03/2006 8:53:20 PM PDT by Mr. Jeeves ("When the government is invasive, the people are wanting." -- Tao Te Ching)
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To: Moonman62
LOL, I'm a woman and I don't cuddle.

That's good to hear. I don't think a guy should be required to do so either.

Maybe you two should get together. LOL

 

SoS

35 posted on 09/03/2006 9:04:51 PM PDT by Song of the South ( = Zip-a-dee-doo-dah =)
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To: MAD-AS-HELL

The funny thing is that I fake too. She never can tell.

You're kidding, right? If not, that has to be one of the most absurd things I've ever heard.

Trust me, she knows. My guess would be that she just doesn't want to say anything to upset the apple cart.


36 posted on 09/03/2006 9:15:16 PM PDT by rbg81 (1)
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To: MAD-AS-HELL

You're the cutest man who ever existed in this entire world!

:-)


37 posted on 09/03/2006 9:16:20 PM PDT by bannie (HILLARY: Not all perversions are sexual.)
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To: MAD-AS-HELL

I may hate myself for this post later..but here she goes.


The story takes place in a Christian school. The teacher asks the question, "What part of your body gets to heaven first?"

Three students raise their hand, Jenny, Jim, and little Johnny in the back. The teacher thinks to herself, "I don't want to call on Johnny cause he will say something bad."

So she picks on Jenny first who says, "I think your head gets to heaven first cause that's where all the thinking goes on."

The teacher then calls on Jim who says, "I think your heart gets to heaven first cause you gotta have a good heart."

Finally Johnny is the only one with his hand up. The teacher says to herself "Oh no, I gotta pick Johnny." She picks him and he says, "I think it's the bottoms of your feet that gets to heaven first."

The relieved teacher asks him, "Why on earth do you think your feet get to heaven first?"


Johnny says, "Cause I walked into my Mom and Dad's room last night and my mom's feet were straight up in the air and she was shouting 'Oh God I'm cummin', you know.....I think she would have made it if dad hadn't been holding her down".




Anyway......gals just need to be true, real and willing to communicate. My Bride and I are still on our Honeymoon, after 33 years of being best friends and husband and beloved wife.

~Live is Good~


38 posted on 09/03/2006 9:20:20 PM PDT by Gator113
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To: Dawsonville_Doc; PatrickHenry

well... um... they say that if you squint you will get sleepy, if you frown you will develop a bad mood, and if you smile you will begin to feel happier.

perhaps faking orgasms might make women more prone to get real ones?

biofeedback's a wierd field.


39 posted on 09/03/2006 9:21:46 PM PDT by King Prout (many complain I am overly literal... this would not be a problem if fewer people were under-precise)
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To: MAD-AS-HELL

Lying never solved anything.


40 posted on 09/03/2006 9:26:31 PM PDT by cyborg (No I don't miss the single life at all.)
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