Posted on 07/05/2018 2:53:18 PM PDT by Mrs. Don-o
Jessica Boer, 26, kissing her cat Kip at her home in Portage, Mich. Like an increasing number of people in her generation, she does not plan to have children. “Now we know we have a choice,” she said.
Wanting more leisure time and personal freedom; not having a partner yet; not being able to afford child-care — these were the top reasons young adults gave for not being sure they wanted children, reports a new survey conducted by Morning Consult for the NYT.
About a quarter said they expected to have fewer than they wanted. The largest shares said they delayed or stopped having children because of concerns about having enough time or money.
It is partly about greater gender equality. Women have more agency over their lives; motherhood has become more of a choice.
But it’s also a story of economic insecurity. Young people have record student debt, many graduated in a recession and can’t afford homes — all as parenthood has become more expensive.
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David Carlson, 29, graduated from college in 2010, when the job market was still rough. He and his wife had $100,000 in undergraduate debt between them. They both work full time — he in corporate finance and she in counseling — but they don’t yet feel they can take time away from their careers.
He said they’d consider adoption if they decided to have children but had waited too long. Another option for having children later in life is egg freezing. Only 1 percent of female survey respondents said they had frozen their eggs — but almost half said they would if not for the cost.
Whether the young generation will catch up later is not certain, but will depend on their capacity to combine work and family.
(Excerpt) Read more at nytimes.com ...
Same here. I don't know why parents act like this. I'll even go so far as to say that, as a teacher, I am not usually very impressed with the "selflessness" of mothers, in particular. They're all "my child" this and "my child" that, and it seems like they want everything they can get their hands on, and use their child as their excuse for all their aggression. Like they are these selfless saints doing it all for their child. Their child is usually a cringing ball of embarrassment at their side, but they don't notice. It's really all about them.
Rural living is very expensive. The land isn’t as cheap as it used to be (still cheaper than urban areas) but you spend a lot of money on gas for commuting and utilities are often higher. If you have a job that requires internet acces at home, decent rural internet is usually high cost and low quality.
Idiocracy should have won an Oscar for best documentary. Al Gore and Michael Moore won one.
Both of my parents are in a nursing home. Together, thankfully. I visit them at least twice a week and call them at least once a day as well.
Granted, I’m single and retired so I have a lot more free time than most people...but I don’t understand why so many people, in essence, abandon their parents.
that’s true they want it all NOW.
Well... I kind of do. I’ve seen two friends my age take care of their mothers in-home, and let me tell you, a 200 lb woman who has dementia and is incontinent is no joke.
Okay...let me introduce you to some more FACTUAL HISTORY!
In the last couple of decades of the 19th century, there was recessions, bank closures, and one GIGANTIC depression, that I doubt you have ever heard of. Throw in strikes and deaths due to now curable illnesses and work related incidents or maiming ones, and it adds up to some people having less children, which has been THE NORM, since time began.
Some people ( upper middle to wealthy ) people, of that era could get a form of contraceptive product; however, it was male oriented.
But people in the early years of the 20th century, could and were JAILED for trying to supply/advocate female contraceptives. And it was impossible for a unmarried woman to get one. Which only left illegal abortions as their "way out". The latter choice either leaving the woman dead or sterile.
And no, I am NOT "advocating" abortion; so you can forget about attempting to smear me with that canard.
Some people, for one reason or another have always been sterile.
Some may have had children; however, since many children once died before reaching adulthood, some couples, though they had children, wound up childless.
Then throw in war and illness, which removed one spouse from another, or took away the men whom women were or hoped to marry and never did remarry/marry anyone else...which nipped in the bud having more/any children.
So, diddums, it is YOU who are playing games re your own agenda; not I.
Amen
Yep - Social Security is another reason...
Socialism is nothing but a Ponzi scheme.
But there is no denying the impact of the unbelievably high cost of illegal immigration.
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The ones that ‘marry’ cats instead of men...
As you said it’s cheaper. Also true rural areas don’t have utilities like urban areas do. There’s electricity and other than that you’re on your own. Unless you’re more than rural (wilderness), there is internet. Even then there is satillite. Also jobs can be changed. People are doing it now. It’s a matter of priorities.
And then your kids go to a worse than lousy school.
lack of faith might have something to do with it?
Good bye. When you've read up we can have a chat.
Having kids to take care of you is a selfish reason.
Its done because its in what you perceive to be your best interests, which are the first and foremost reason you are doing it.
yep
Not if you pay attention. Sure some school districts are bad but not all and there is the home schooling option.
I get additional BAH only because I'm married. It doesn't increase with more kids.
It’s not much cheaper. Quality rural land is only somewhat cheaper. If it’s tillable, it probably isn’t cheaper.
If you work in an it field, quality internet at your home is not optional. Satellite is not quality. Six figures of student debt to change careers is a bad idea. As for what other people are doing 1) it doesn’t matter and 2) they probably aren’t doing as well as they look. See my previous comment. It’s absurd how many millennials are still leaching off Mom and Dad.
Just my observations. My income situation is sitting pretty good personally, but I can see why millennials thin their parents are clueless. About many things...they are.
Wow, I did not know that. So healthcare is free for everyone in the military? Including things like child birth etc.?
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