Posted on 07/24/2018 11:14:28 AM PDT by servo1969
I love women. Not in the social justice warrioresque "We must praise women as strong, capable CEOS and STEM graduates who can do anything men can do, but in heels" way, but in an old-school way. It's easy to respect a mother who watches out for her children, a wife who is loyal to her husband, or a sister who cares for her brother. I love a beautiful woman. I love a sexy woman. I love a woman who gives off that amazing feminine energy. As a man, being around a woman like that is just good for your spirit.
All that being said, this is not about the more wonderful traits of women. To the contrary, it's the kind of warning about women that fathers used to give their sons, but that's frowned upon today. You see, in our society we can hammer home the faults of men until they become stereotypes, but we're not supposed to point out the similarly damaging, but often very different flaws of women that young men need to worry about.
I think lions are extraordinarily beautiful and powerful creatures, but I also know if you make a wrong move around one, you can lose an arm. Women are much the same. They are magnificent but dangerous and since men pursue them, they need to understand what they're getting into.
Men don't like to admit this, but the first thing they think about when it comes to women is beauty. Not only are we drawn to it, but it's a status symbol. When a man has an attractive woman, other men think more of him. In fact, it can become such a powerful draw that some men put beauty first and second -- and whatever comes third doesn't matter. This is a mistake if you plan to be with her beyond a date or three because beauty fades for all of us, but it fades faster and harder for women. Moreover, beauty in and of itself only attracts for so long. As the old saying goes, "No matter how good she looks, someone out there is tired of her sh*t." Point being, make sure you judge a woman on a lot more than beauty alone because the time is going to come when one way or the other, that beauty is going to fade in your eyes.
Men tend to be famously ruthless about relationships a few dates in when women fall for them way too early and the men only care about sex. On the other hand, women tend to be much more ruthless than men when a relationship is ending. This is hard for a lot of men to believe because they can't imagine the sweet, uplifting, nurturing woman they were in a relationship with is taking them to the cleaners in divorce court or using their kids as a bargaining chip after the divorce.
Women tend to put the same kind of emphasis on status that men put on beauty. That doesn't mean it's the end all and be all of everything, but it does mean status is a lot more important to women than it is to men. What that means is that as a man, if you ever stop performing at the level your woman is accustomed to, you may lose her regardless of everything else. Lose your job, get demoted, take a big pay cut, lose your moxie somehow and women are much more likely to walk away than a man would be with a woman in the same situation. That doesn't mean it's a given, but it does mean that going backward in status as a man risks your relationship with a woman.
There are exceptions to every rule, but the most stable woman is as emotional as an unstable guy. Women are more emotional, more hormonal than men. Women are, at best, more tolerant of drama than men and at worst, they seek it out. They will become upset for no good reason, act irrationally, and are more prone to things like anxiety than men. The point of this is not "women are unstable and bad," it's that women are very different in this area and you need to be ready to deal with it. At times there's going to be crying, no matter what you do. At times, your girlfriend / lover / wife is going to become angry at you even though you've done nothing wrong. Wise men learn that there are times to ignore things women say rather than get in a fight because ten minutes later, their mood will improve. To men who aren't used to it, all of this can be freaky, but it can also help keep things fresh and exciting once you learn to navigate it.
If your woman is stronger than you, she may still date you. She may love you. She may even marry you one day. However, on a fundamental level, she will not be able to respect you if you are not strong and competent enough to lead her. Women don't want to be the ones who make all the decisions and wear the pants in the family and if you force her to do that, it will wear on her and she will come to resent you. How will that resentment play out? At best, probably unhappiness and at worst, cheating, divorce or contempt that's so bad that you wish you were divorced. I'm not telling you to be a jerk, but I am telling you that if you are not a stronger person than your woman, you will ultimately be sorry.
But she is someone else’s.
The comeback for that is, *Would you want someone your age looking at your daughter or granddaughter like that?*
That's not what my high school reunions have revealed. The women made an effort, see doctors more than men do, and can use girdles, hair dyes and cosmetics. But many of the men either lose their hair or have a bad hairpiece, won't go to the doctor or dentist, and many have yellowed teeth or bad breath, and skin that is spotted or lined from exposure, poor health, poor diet, drinking or smoking. When women put on a few pounds (not more than 30 since high school) they usually get softer and curvier, but men get a pot belly.
I was nodding my head in agreement...and then read #5 - LOL!
I really needed that LOL today...thanks!
So true. Ruins many churches and schools. I am a woman, but was fortunate to work mainly with men, and I actually took classes to learn how to communicate directly and negotiate to solve problems. Best money I ever spent. But women friends who can do the same are few and far between.
My female relatives are aghast if I call a problem out and ask how we can make it better. Instead they talk behind each other's backs and lie to each other''s faces, and some spats can last for years without getting solved.
Many women do not keep promises and justify abandoning or betraying agreements because something subsequently triggered their emotions. Men are more likely to accept or create workable rules and stick by practical agreements in day-tp-day circumstances.
Sad, but this is my experience.
Benjamin Franklin said the same thing. He said "they're grateful."
There was a saying I heard in high school that I have found to be very true. Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place.
My wife of 30 years is as beautiful to me now as the day I met her (she was and is a goddess), although it wouldn’t kill her to lose a couple of pounds ;-). My anniversary present to her this year was to finally stop introducing her publicly as my ‘first wife’.
Oops — I see central_va beat me to it with Ben Franklin’s advice. I gave you the “bottom line” version.
What a load of crap.
Everyone is different. I’ve met both sexes with those traits. Most the time these are traits related to immaturity and selfishness.
There was a book entitled, “Grow Up” written about marriage and the things to do to make it work. I resisted reading it ten years into my marriage. 32 years in, and I could write it.
Immaturity is not related to age. Most of what was described screams of an immature mind.
That hits the nail on the head.
Good point. Men’s hormones decrease and can get whacked as they age.
Amen sista!
If it floats, flucks or flies... Rent it. Youll be better off inthe long run.
So that eliminates 5 or 6 women /ducks head
I saw Newt Gingrich on tv last night and you can literally see his hormone imbalance in his face. It’s a puffy estrogen dominant look that men can get. If he put some testosterone on his arm each morning he would feel a lot better. I’m not a doctor so my dx is worthless but I can see it anyway.
EXACTLY SO!!!
Meh, -every- female is someone’s daughter. We men get past that concept pretty quick. Women latch on to it to try to guilt men who find a young woman attractive. The simple fact is they hate competition.
Try harder.
How much of that is from hard partying? I'm guessing the hottest women spend more time single, seeing who the highest status man they can lock down is, before marrying.
It think guys would be astounded at how much sex the hotties have. They screw a lot of dudes. Just not you.
He is a good man - but he does use a Manslator.
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