Posted on 05/18/2019 3:53:35 PM PDT by GuavaCheesePuff
I don’t understand why these parents (and, as the article indicates, mothers in particular) WANT their children to stay that long.
It’s true that not every person is ready to be out of the house and entirely self sufficient at 18, but the person should be making steps towards independence. College, trade school, etc. combined with some form of employment if possible. The young adult can live with roommates for a time if studios are too expensive.
And once all possible scholarship/aid, part time income, and smart cost cutting has been factored in, THEN the parents can help with the rest of necessities until full employment is obtained. But for the love of Pete, the young man should be living on his own as soon as possible and doing his own chores and working toward his future and being responsible for as much of his own life as possible.
Am I crazy?
The feminist goal of emasculating men is working.
that old? Pathetic squared. It’s a good thing
they have a cabinet full of participation trophies
to give some meaning to their anemic existence.
May I recommend the U.S. Army for these individuals? BCT at Ft. Jackson in the summer?
May I suggest AIT at Ft. Benning? Or maybe Ft. Sill? Gotta have cannon cockers.
5.56mm
Raised mine on milk of magnesia. He’s the shitz.
Being willing to move to where the work is was of great benefit to me. People who put down roots give up something for what they gain.
Agreed.
It’s not wanting to adjust to a lower lifestyle.
The common reply is that they can’t afford to live on their own, but what goes unsaid is that the reality is that some of them can’t afford to live on their own ALONE.
Roomies are always an option. And I’m sorry, but there is often a world of difference in rate of maturation between someone who lives away from his support system, even if it’s with roomies, and someone who is still at home.
And there’s also a world of difference between someone who gets a little temporary support from his parents to “fill in the gaps” in the case of loss of employment or whatever and someone who is still being babied 24/7.
Growing up is a series of steps. And many people in the younger generations (including many people of my generation, the millennials) are not completing all of them. Doesn’t bode well for the future.
Cost of regulation partly to blame. “Start up” costs of first car, first home, etc., has risen steeply in relation to inflation.
Bigger part is that these folks spend their lives online. Who needs reality, especially when those parents still feeling guilty about daycare are willing to pay for it.
The Left has had a big hand in screwing up millennials from kindergarten on. I have a nephew looking to join the Navy and I’ve encouraged him to exercise and study up on the ASVAB before committing to anything. He can make it, but it ain’t no joke.
If millennial males are living with their parents, they are not MEN.
With regard to women, it's normal for them to stay at home until married. That's always been a tradition and besides, even women living at home are shouldering household responsibilities and not sitting on the couch playing video games (as many men do).
Regardless of what generation you slot into, it's just not healthy for a grown man to live with his parents. It was that way when I came of age in the 1980s.
Also, I think joining the military out of school is an excellent "jump start" to living your own life. The military does an excellent job teaching a young man to be a responsible and disciplined adult who contributes positively to his family and community.
Couldn’t hurt. He’ll get plenty of exercise in boot camp, too.
I don’t know if it was called the ASVAB back then, we took a battery of vocational testing that NO one could have studied for. A lot of it was pattern matching and that sort of visual thing.
Also, I think joining the military out of school is an excellent “jump start” to living your own life. The military does an excellent job teaching a young man to be a responsible and disciplined adult who contributes positively to his family and community.
There are those of us with legitimate medical reasons that we cannot serve, or even get drafted.
Both my sons had roommates when they first left our home. I think that actually helped them mature faster as they had to adapt to different people in a close setting. I guess I raised them right as both of them complained about their roomies being "slobs" and lazy. They've since moved on to their own places.
It’s just my nature to always look at the other side of the story...
Maybe these are the people who are money-conscious. They commute to college and go part-time, just to save money. As the article says, that’s a big reason why they’re still with their parents.
And then there are 20-something college grads with high-paying jobs who live with their parents, too. I know of a few. Many in my own generation did the same thing. They save money to buy a house and move right into the house from their parents’ house. No wasting money on an apartment that way.
My nephew tried this with his Dad (my brother). Nephew was 20 years old, not going to school and not working. He stayed home all day playing video games. His Dad told him "you can live here, free of charge, if you are in school full time. Or, you can work and pay me rent". A few more months of nothing but video games. One day the 20 year old was out hanging with friends. He came home to all of his worldly possessions boxed and in the front yard. Probably the hardest thing my brother ever did but the best thing, in the long run, for his slacker son.
I’m conflicted on this I’m genx and moved out after high school. I want to look down on these people but I’m sympathetic because just the rent is too damn high. I’m not even talking about if they get to go to college becsuse thats out of the question
I see nothing wrong with it if otherwise they are moving forward.
If they work full time (or more) at a good job, I see nothing wrong with saving money for the future to begin a family on solid ground.
It’s like homeschooling.
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How much sympathy will the in power Sanders and AOC types give us? None.
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