[TheStickman]

After paperwork snafu's, incorrect info, a lack of assistance from the parish priest and generally poor advice from the parish side to go with the paperwork snafu's and other instances of administrative incompetence, horribly worded questionaires, the refusal of my ex to participate, I was told last week we were now waiting on a "slot" to open up so one of the psychologists can review the case. I asked for some sort of time frame to hear something...anything at all.

"Call back in 2 months and check on your case," was the answer.

On the upside, God directed my beloved wife and I to a parish further from home which is much more pro-active in helping their members who are enduring the annulment process as it's practiced in this diocese.

Please pray for us while we wait for the process (which is horribly adminstered in this diocese--seems 18-24 months is the norm, go figure), to run it's course. Also, please pray God will instill in those working at the Tribunal to effectively perform their duties in a timely fashion.

[Lunatic Fringe]

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[Tax-chick]

Best wishes to you! I've known others who have experienced similar frustration. I'm impressed by your perseverance.

[RexBeach]

Hi! My fiancee is just getting underway with her annullment process.

Hang in there. The Big Guy is in your corner!

God bless, RB

[bonfire]

Your beloved wife? You are divorcing?

[E. Pluribus Unum]

When obtaining an annulment is merely a matter of paying enough money to the Church's "advocates," the entire matter is nothing but a farce.

If you and your wife entered into the marriage in good faith, there is no substantive reason for an annulment. Obtaining one is an exercise in cynicism.

If you're that cynical about the Catholic Church, why are you even bothering?

[Tijeras_Slim]

The DMV works faster than that.

[dsc]

Go to another diocese. It shouldn't take that long to get a yes or no.

[Hammerhead]

I don't even know where to begin on this one.

[MineralMan]

I guess I don't understand. You're a Roman Catholic, right? Doesn't that church have some pretty strict teachings regarding marriage?

Now you want them to bypass those teachings and annul your marriage? Is that about it?

Why not just change churches, since the RCC is apparently not for you?

[Bohemund]

Hang in there. Best of luck.

[caver]

So what is the reason for an annulment? Sounds like a big game to me. Can they also make you into a virgin?

[chesley]

I don't mean to be insensitive here, and it's really none of my business, but this is all too DUish for me. All the time they want to talk about their personal problems, their divorces, Republican parents, siblings, or children, their drug and health problems.

It's none of my business, like I said, and I have only myself to blame for checking into this thread, but why do you want to share this information with us? It's not like we're close personal friends that you can lay your head on our shoulders and cry.

That being said, good luck and God bless with your problems.

[Knitting A Conundrum]

Dear friends,

This brother of ours has been going through a rough time, and he asks for our prayers. He is doing the right thing, turning over his dilemna to the church, and in the end, will base his actions on the Church's ruling.

Let us remember with charity all the times we found life hard and someone reached out to pray for us, and how good it was to know that someone cared.

This is not a case where we make judgement calls about whether he has grounds or not. That is for the church authorities to decide.

This is not a case to air our personal feelings about the abuse or lack there of, of the annulment process. He's not asking our opinion. Mother Church has decided to hear his case.

This is a brother in pain, who asks for our prayers.

Let us remember our master's words:

Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful. Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For the measure you give will be the measure you get back.

You will be in my prayers.

May the Lord ease your heart and help this process continue, and may he give you the grace to deal with the problems as they rise and live with the outcome.

May his light continue to touch your heart and light your way.

In the name of Jesus, Amen.


God bless you,

[sitetest]

Dear TheStickman,

I just want to let you know that I'm still praying for you, usually daily. I hope that God gives you the faith and grace you need so that you can endure this trying time.

In my prayers,


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[FourtySeven]

Prayers for you for what seems to be a difficult time.

[GrannyML]

Just wanted to add that you have been and will continue to be in my prayers. I am also appalled at the judgmental comments you are receiving and hope you do not take them to heart.

God bless,

[MilspecRob]

My best wishes to all concerned with this issue.

As many do, a person just finds them selves reading a thread without any "subject expertise". I'm over my head on the issue of this post but found it interesting to read.

However this is why , when hospitalized a few week ago, I answered the question of religion as "Pagan"

[heatherbee]

my dear stickman...i have read over all you have written about the annulment process and it makes me very sad. i have just started this process and have already had my own nightmare. i didnt know all of this would take so long. i guess we can just hang in there together. i have to remember to quit getting to angry though. any thoughts?

[tiki]

NOt that I don’t feel for you but an annulment SHOULD be hard to get.

[sitetest]

Dear TheStickman,

You’re often in my prayers.

Blessings and best wishes for you.

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